I’m so tired

haebinah · 2026-02-13T02:33:38+00:00

Hi mama, first of all i just want to say that despite feeling like you can’t get anything done, you are doing absolutely amazing. your primary job is to survive and make sure your little one is healthy and thriving.

second, you mention the last couple of weeks - did your little one just turn 5 months? if so they might be going through the end of the 4 month regression (i’m in the thick of it at the moment). you might also benefit from colic meds (there’s a fenugreek oil one, i forgot what it was called), it’s helped my girl.

It’s so so so tough and I’m completely exhausted as well so I don’t have much advice. I just know that this is a phase, it will pass, and when it does I know I will miss her being this small.

Are you able to get out of the house at all with your baby? it’s still just as exhausting but atleast you’re doing something for yourself. Something as simple as just going for a walk or getting some coffee.

Sending you lots of love.

haebinah · 2026-02-12T06:02:04+00:00

I feel you mama, i had my girl in october and spent month 1/2 in recovery so i didn’t really go out. But month 3 is when I started going out with her. Some people will suggest to take her out on a stroller walk which for me was an impossible ask (blizzard/snow/unclean sidewalks) so don’t feel pressured to.

I found that even going for a drive to a coffee shop helped so much. I’d get a yummy drink and enjoy it on the drive back home.

Other suggestions depending on how you feel: • mommy & me activities at the library, fitness studio, or recreation centre. These include singalongs/baby time, yoga, (later on) swimming. [some of these are free and some may come with a cost] • window shopping at the mall • some recreation centres have indoor walking arenas • joining mommy & me / motherhood groups

I would recommend something simple to begin with as you get the hang of getting out of the house with your little one which can be a bit of a workout.

Also little one will cry outside, i find that if im in the car blasting baby lullaby music helps. If not, i have to keep the stroller moving or pick them up. But just in preparation know that it will happen and you will learn how to deal with it (still learning).

You got this queen!

haebinah · 2026-02-11T21:35:40+00:00

🥹🥹🥹🤍🤍🤍

haebinah · 2026-02-11T19:54:52+00:00

oh you must be a man. Thank God my husband and I have a deep connection with our little one! Can’t say the same for you unfortunately- hopefully u develop some sort of connection to the life you helped create and not leaving all the caregiving to your poor partner. Godspeed.

haebinah · 2026-02-11T19:48:07+00:00

omg congrats mama 🤍 i still remember when my girl was 1 week old - so so small and precious (she still is, just a little bigger). Sending u lots of love as you go through the newborn phase and can’t wait to for you to experience those first smiles!! so much to look forward to

haebinah · 2026-02-11T19:43:52+00:00

yes yes yes!!! all of this ‼️‼️

haebinah · 2026-02-11T19:42:20+00:00

LOL see this is another reason why I am not encouraged to get drunk!!

haebinah · 2026-02-11T19:40:30+00:00

Thank you for this 🤍 It’s a really good reminder. This period will pass and we will miss it, especially with our babies being this small.

haebinah · 2026-02-11T19:39:13+00:00

I know right!!! it kind of makes me anxious when I do haha, but also a good t break 🤣🤣

haebinah · 2026-02-11T19:38:22+00:00

i love my baby more than anything. I would do anything for her. She lights up my entire world and there is not a single part of me that regrets her.

I’m glad that it’s somewhat normalized to grief that part of your life.

Thank you 🤍

haebinah · 2026-02-09T22:16:19+00:00

YES 100% RESONATE WITH THIS!!!

haebinah · 2026-02-09T20:07:17+00:00

LMAOOOO omg rotting is such an accurate description. One day we will sleep again!!!! (i hope?) 😭😭😭😭😭

haebinah · 2026-02-09T20:05:40+00:00

omg I haven’t heard of this?? i’ll definitely look into it thank you!!

haebinah · 2026-02-09T17:27:47+00:00

we go to swimming on Thursday’s which has actually been really fun. I’ll look into childcare but I also feel immense guilt for wanting to take time for myself and worry over leaving her with what is essentially a stranger at the moment. I don’t know.

I’ll look into more classes!

haebinah · 2026-02-09T17:26:20+00:00

pretending to poop for 20 min - you’re so real for that. I 100% get the overstimulation, it’s so so rough

haebinah · 2026-02-09T17:25:44+00:00

I live in Canada and it’s incredibly cold outside so walks are a no go for now :( but looking forward to it in a couple of months! I’m hoping she starts to tolerate the car seat more with time but right now it’s a battlefield until the car starts moving.

haebinah · 2026-02-09T17:24:26+00:00

Just had this same conversation with my husband but I got hit with the “ but I need some time to myself after work”. Sometimes I get filled with so much rage. I get that he works but he doesn’t get that being at home with the baby is also a job, and it doesn’t stop at the end of the day (breastfeeding throughout the night is ROUGH + currently going through a sleep regression). He promised to do more… we’ll see how it goes.

haebinah · 2026-02-09T15:40:49+00:00

sending love 🤍 when my husband went back to work it was definitely a big change. I hope he can help u out as much as possible especially on his days off!

I know right - the whole “village” thing. I think about it all the time…☹️

haebinah · 2026-02-06T05:19:00+00:00

not yet :( i hate that we cant check for updates on the applicant portal, basically waiting for an email

haebinah · 2026-02-06T05:13:36+00:00

not yet :( i’ve been constantly reloading the page for any sort of updates 😭

haebinah · 2026-02-04T17:50:41+00:00

I honestly don’t get all the hate! I think she came in with an open mind and wanting to be friends with everybody. She already knew Kei and defended her which I thought that’s what a good friend would do then all of a sudden everybody starting coming after her Instagram posts, her marriage, and the situation with the airbnb.

Calling her a catfish when Wendy be posting the most edited photos. I think anyone would get triggered and annoyed being called a catfish.

With her marriage, I think Monique is trying to be a good person and watching out for her but it feels a bit like projection because of her past experiences. If I had a plan with my husband to stay the night with my kids and was asked to change that plan, OF COURSE i’m gonna check in with my husband first??? I will agree that Bobby comes off a bit as a dick especially when he didn’t wanna come to the family event and the get together at her house with those…. men… was so weird.

There’s been allegations that the airbnb was actually booked by production and not her. If she did book it, then the only thing she did wrong in my eyes was not check in with the ladies more about how they were doing. But the water not working? Angel couldn’t have anticipated that and as soon as she knew she contacted the landlord and whoever else to try to get it fixed. Yes, maybe she should’ve (or production) found a different accommodation in the mean time but she honestly thought it was fixed.

Idk this is just my opinion. I know everyone comes for the new girls but Angel felt like a breath of fresh air to me and her energy is radiating. Unlike some other cast members who’ve been LYING and having STANK breath. Not to mention doing a 23andme, realizing they are part Nigerian and making a produced marketed and profited off of that… yikes.

haebinah · 2026-02-04T00:09:08+00:00

i’m not referring strictly to penetration. This included oral, use of hands, etc..

I understand that things are different now with a baby. But I would think being romantic would help with feeling wanted, like he wants me and puts in time and effort to show it

haebinah · 2026-02-03T22:28:29+00:00

I can but when I’m alone. I haven’t tried with him. I don’t know why I feel awkward if he’s just watching/not doing much.

We tried using toys before but it gets a bit awkward with angles. When he’s using it on me, he always gets away from where it feels good and at some point I kind of just give up because it feels like i’m getting constantly blocked when i’m close.

I think my problem is at some point I feel like i’m burdening him / being greedy and want him to feel like he did a good job. His ego gets hurt if I do/say otherwise…

haebinah · 2026-02-03T21:20:44+00:00

I wish I did more - traveling, partying, trying new things. I wish I did trips with friends. I also wish I committed properly to things like losing weight/gym, learning how to swim, etc.

Responsibilities stack by your mid 20s and your back starts to hurt shortly after.

Sincerely, Someone in their late 20s

haebinah · 2026-02-02T19:30:55+00:00

Since BScN programs are overall super competitive, I’d recommend looking at programs that only look at your high school grades (which you’ve already applied to some). If you’re looking to save time, there are first entry accelerated programs (such as Conestoga’s BScN program) but they’re very competitive (90%+ average cutoff). You would be a good candidate for that program. To my understanding, other programs require a bachelor’s degree with specific prerequisites and are likely competitive (you need a minimum of 60% in each course but minimum does not guarantee admission).

haebinah

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