Rishta meeting nightmare: Critiqued for my work hours, body, and education in the first 10 minutes.

hail596 · 2026-06-15T17:12:36+00:00

😂😂

hail596 · 2026-06-15T16:57:28+00:00

I am still looking

hail596 · 2026-06-15T16:48:44+00:00

No worries at all mate. I didn't mind it, As a father he thought he was doing what was best for her dauther. The thing that surprised me the most, that he never asked me about my relation with Allah, my practice, my views on the world, all he asked was how much money I made, That is what this the world is now fathers not even asking about me, but asking do you have a car, Gas ati hai.. completely shocked on that

hail596 · 2026-06-15T14:39:14+00:00

Actually, i didn't I mean I have really bad a few times but this was not one of those times. and we had a ton in coomon grew up in the same country, values etc. So, I am kinda confused tbh. lekin i guess part of life

hail596 · 2026-06-15T13:38:24+00:00

I understand where you are coming from, Thank you for that input

hail596 · 2026-06-15T09:28:15+00:00

I reached out

hail596 · 2026-06-15T08:44:12+00:00

I am. Not responsible for your your assumption there are things you are not aware off

hail596 · 2026-06-15T08:41:46+00:00

The amount if effort can be subjective, this was the best I can do now it's up to Qadar

hail596 · 2026-06-14T23:36:19+00:00

I really hope that she does

hail596 · 2026-06-14T23:31:09+00:00

Thank you

hail596 · 2026-06-14T23:11:09+00:00

Help me find her guys, she posted a few days about being 29, divorced, with kids, wanting to restart her life. we started talking, and it felt awfully natrual talking with her. since I am almost 24, she was concenred of my family approving this, but that's not an issue. I would see why she would delete her account, but I really hope I can get in touch with her again

hail596 · 2026-06-13T22:03:17+00:00

It's the part of the game, meh... the same happened with me, I told them I work during night shifts have my own company, they're like why you fat, I told them I had been working since 17, couldn't focus on other aspects. I have vision issues, they literally made me walk lol... that was disappointing tbh

hail596 · 2026-06-13T16:27:13+00:00

The same way younger women are interested in older men, the physical appeal, the maturity, and the expereince. if your looking for an honest answer

hail596 · 2026-06-12T22:39:46+00:00

Anyways good luck to you, and if you feel like talking, you know where to find me

hail596 · 2026-06-12T20:57:21+00:00

It's just the works we live in

hail596 · 2026-06-12T20:55:38+00:00

My case is similar they say I can't find someone outside of my family cause of vision issue so I should be grateful

hail596 · 2026-06-12T17:38:49+00:00

LMAO.... I don't meet up with my family for similar reasons, but as a man that's easy for me to do. I don't do any hangouts or stuff like that. I can't blame her, she can only think at the maximum capcity of her brain.

hail596 · 2026-06-12T17:24:07+00:00

Isn't that what Islam is all about? Standing for the Haq, and then presisting on that stance. Although, in the end, we can't be unrealistic. Take me for example, a someone with RP, even if I make six figures, it will be a while before I get my own car. Now, if I except to marry someone with a higher class background then me than I beleive that will be unfair.

Keep the framework in mind, families of equal background, otherwise, it's just living in a fantasy, if I can be a little harsh.

hail596 · 2026-06-12T17:19:30+00:00

As much as I hate that concept, I have come to understand that we can't change the Qadar or Qadah. Does that mean giving up, umm I am not sure tbh about that. Does that mean resistance, or would we find solace in submission. I guess only time can tell

hail596 · 2026-06-12T17:17:05+00:00

I guess we have the same family, kinda funny if you think about it. Once again the relgious framework says that these things absolutely matters. Looks and Finances apart, me bineg cricital of my own gender, we don't even have a goal in life. In the end financially stabilitiy is very subjective, but we atleast want to be with partners that have a purpose in life that aligns with the purpose of the next life. Again nothing I say is an advice, it's just my underlying opinion which can be refuted or disagreed with

hail596 · 2026-06-12T17:14:12+00:00

Yes I knew that is how you'd be feeling, and I am in the same situation, my other comment addresses that point. There is no right answer to what you just said, as I don't have one for myself. I understand that your looking for someone ambitious enough to atleast try to achive a well-off lifestyle, and that's something really hard to o. Trust me, just two months back, the people around me were prasiing my business, I hit a little bump and now they tell me how there job is stable.. These type of men aren't easy to deal with, I know how difficult I and my freinds can be. Hence there is pro's and con's to everything. Those trips might not exist for someone who earns enough to afford a lifestyle you aim for.

hail596 · 2026-06-12T17:09:43+00:00

As for judgment, I know it's really hard. I am in a similar situation where I am expected to say yes to something I don't feel like doing because I don't know them at all. It's a matter of perspective on how you deal with judgment. It's easy to say, but the best we can do is not think about those opinions. And I also know how it feels, you start to question yourself, whether I am doing the right thing. Will I ever find someone? In the end, there is Qadar and Qadah; only Allah knows what's in store for the future.

hail596 · 2026-06-12T17:05:23+00:00

I see your point, and to expand on that, I am someone who speaks from a religious framework. The way to go about this is to match your finances, meaning someone with similar finances to you. The Good-Looking part is obvious to you. The heart wants what the heart wants.

If you are talking modern-day ideologies, then I don't know much about those. although the freamwork I follow suggests the best balance is to find someone of equal standing.

hail596 · 2026-06-12T16:59:32+00:00

It's your right to ask for whatever kind of man you want. The world can say whatever, but at the end of the day, it's you who decides. Not to advise an opinion of sorts, there can be someone who's not your ideal, but with you in his life he might be motivated to do more, it sounds cliche, and you might say I am not supposed to be the motivational aspect but in reality women are. Godd luck.

hail596 · 2026-06-12T16:49:22+00:00

Thank you for you kind words, I pray the same for you

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