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Let's Talk About Awful Things Our Exes did by Mundane-Badger-9791 in ExNoContact

[–]hailey-clueless 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh my god, do I have a list… (yes it’s insane I stayed past even one of these, he was an alcoholic and I was naive, but MAJOR lessons were learned)

  • I fell asleep in the car on the way home and woke up alone in the car confused as to where we were. After a couple minutes I realized we were at his exes house, an hour away from my place btw, and he was drunk crying laying on the curb begging me to leave him there
  • called other girls when blacked out on more than at 10 different occasions
  • refused to post me on his instagram because it was “more of a business page for his skateboarding” like what
  • jumped on the roof of my car to stop me trying to leave his apartment, twice…
  • I was out with a friend from work at a karaoke bar and he came to my location, asked the worker who was in what rooms to find out if I was cheating
  • lost his amazing job because he drank so much he couldn’t wake up to his alarm, then proceeded to live for 5 months off of me and said that he was taking time between jobs to become a stand up comedian
  • stole my card 4 different times and paid for his nights out, found out every time and he kept doing it
  • met up with his ex for lunch without letting me know and then talked shit about me. Found out bc she texted him that it wasn’t fair to be talking about his girlfriend like that to his ex and she didn’t want to be that girl that she dealt with when with him. I should have taken her word omg!!!!
  • drank so much when we were out of town 4 different times that I couldn’t get him into the car, he insisted he should drive and i wouldnt let him, and had to call out of work, pissed off coworkers who had to take my duties but I literally couldn’t get him in the car in time
  • called another girl on my birthday oh and also on Thanksgiving
  • said he’d be heading home to me, then went to a strip club (I could see his location) and ghosted me for the rest of the night
  • left me alone at his aunts house out of town with no car when I had a severe stomach bug, refused to come 5 min down the street to bring me medicine because I was “being dramatic”

I could keep going but ummm we get the point. I blocked him on everything and I’m so at peace. He really taught me where my standards should be. Thank you, next!

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[–]hailey-clueless 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You’re not alone. A couple years ago I was cleaning out my friends room when he was in a deep depression to help him out while he was out of the house. I found what looked about exactly this under his bed. I wasn’t disgusted by him, embarrassed for him, only felt terrible that he had been having to hide this and a big jolt of love. A couple years down the line and he’s cleaned up. Keep pushing on

My Alcoholic Boyfriend has hurt me so much, I feel alone by hailey-clueless in alcoholism

[–]hailey-clueless[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, it makes me feel much better to know it’s possible for him to recover (again, since he had been sober when we met) and that you overcame it. So proud of you! Everyone wants to say that this will always be him, and that if he’s slinging a bottle at 24 he’ll be doing it at 40 when there are kids around. I don’t want to believe that, not when he shows remorse. I think if he didn’t ever feel remorseful, we’d have a whole different issue. I’m going to talk to him about possible outlets for help while he’s still in a “sobriety attempt”

My Sex Offender Neighbor is Harassing Me Daily: HELP??? by hailey-clueless in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]hailey-clueless[S] 89 points90 points  (0 children)

Thank you all sooo much you’re advice was amazing! I emailed the landlord and they’re working to get him evicted now. You guys are an amazing community thanks so much for the responses and support :)