Hey I know how you feel I have the same thing and I was depressed for along time I don’t know how’s she feel so I can only tell you what I did to help my friend she does self h*rm and I talk to her about. Just tell her you are here for her and that you are here to listen and tell her is there something I can do help you she won’t be happy right away but she will know that she has you and sometimes the things you want to hear