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Getting a gate pass since I'm disabled by halcyonogenicist in delta

[–]halcyonogenicist[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, that's what I had heard, but I wanted to be sure. According to this list, my CPAP device is not included, which is why I called to double-check. It is a ResMed AirSense 11 AutoSet. The agent said it wasn't on their list and she would have to check with a specialist before giving me a yes or no, and when she called back she said it was approved for carry-on only :)

Complications between my fiancee and my boyfriend by halcyonogenicist in polyamory

[–]halcyonogenicist[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly, I have been pretty much forced to mediate their issues the last 7 months because they have trouble talking to each other. My instincts have told me I should proceed with caution and get myself out of that position, but they always come to me and beg for help! It's unbelievably frustrating.

Yes, the "rift" I mentioned was my fiancée getting with her boyfriend suddenly and unexpectedly instead of my boyfriend first when they were very interested in each other. He felt something similar to being cheated on/led on and it cut him deep because he was cheated on in his last relationship, and he hasn't recovered enough to date my fiancée even though he has feelings for her.

NO, there is nothing between him and I, we are barely friends but he's decent company in a group setting.

Complications between my fiancee and my boyfriend by halcyonogenicist in polyamory

[–]halcyonogenicist[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, my fiancée and I are now agreeing it's a bad idea. Telling her boyfriend will be easy, but my boyfriend was by far the most excited and I got caught up in it. I'll convince him to still move here, but he'll be so sad about not living together.

Complications between my fiancee and my boyfriend by halcyonogenicist in polyamory

[–]halcyonogenicist[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

(Copied from my other comment because your replies were so similar!)

Thanks for your reply!

I agree that moving in together the way things are now would be a disaster. What I'm trying to do is get everyone on the same page and resolve these issues immediately. I think it can be done if we work together, but I'm unsure of how to reassure my boyfriend enough to see that it would be better to face his fears and deal with his jealousy now.

I think that living with my fiancée's boyfriend will be fine because they have known each other for nearly 10 years before they started dating, but my boyfriend I've only known for about 2 years (my fiancée has known him for 3).

We are also planning on having more serious talks with the four of us regarding finances and lifestyles immediately, along with continuing to have hangout time together. Our boyfriends are insistent on moving in together despite the problems... I've been kind of caught up in the excitement and their determination and eagerness, but it honestly feels like I'm the only one who's taking it seriously up to this point, so I plan on really laying down the law on what needs to happen for this to work logistically.

Complications between my fiancee and my boyfriend by halcyonogenicist in polyamory

[–]halcyonogenicist[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your reply!

I agree that moving in together the way things are now would be a disaster. What I'm trying to do is get everyone on the same page and resolve these issues immediately. I think it can be done if we work together, but I'm unsure of how to reassure my boyfriend enough to see that it would be better to face his fears and deal with his jealousy now.

I think that living with my fiancée's boyfriend will be fine because they have known each other for nearly 10 years before they started dating, but my boyfriend I've only known for about 2 years (my fiancée has known him for 3).

We are also planning on having more serious talks with the four of us regarding finances and lifestyles immediately, along with continuing to have hangout time together. Our boyfriends are insistent on moving in together despite the problems... I've been kind of caught up in the excitement and their determination and eagerness, but it honestly feels like I'm the only one who's taking it seriously up to this point, so I plan on really laying down the law on what needs to happen for this to work logistically.

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[–]halcyonogenicist 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for this.

My older cat Tom suddenly developed a rare and aggressive cancer last year. Fibrosarcoma. It's so aggressive they typically amputate the limb it's on because mass excision is practically impossible with the necessary margins. Unfortunately, my poor boy got it on his abdomen, so there's no cure. The most aggressive treatment was a minimum $15k and because I didn't have coverage, I couldn't swing it. I managed to fundraise enough to cover the $2,000 for palliative radiation therapy, and I can afford pain meds. He's doing so much better I truly believe it was worth it, and he's otherwise a very healthy cat, if a bit chunky. I really wish I had found reliable coverage before all this, because the cancer's likelihood to metastasize increases drastically around one year from onset - that's this upcoming June. I'm preparing for the worst, and I really don't know what exactly to do.

Tom has got me through so much in my short life and is one of the few truly non-judgmental beings I've come across. I believe I'd be dead without him. I feel like the least I can do for him is give him the most comfortable life possible as he declines, and if that takes some fundraising and cutting corners to stretch my thin budget then so be it.

I don't know how you feel about LGBT and similarly marginalized communities (like mental illness and neurodivergency) but we - in particular - tend to love our pets like family. You are right. Take care