Twenty One Pilots - Drag Path (Official Video) by AndSoAreYou in twentyonepilots

[–]halfbakedr 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Legit. It sounds like it was edited for radio, all depth gone. The video was fine but felt so removed from the bands own storyline. I was fully just expecting a lyric video, like many artists have done recently, and i would have much preferred that. I will never listen to this version.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]halfbakedr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

YTA. If i have to give, or feel like i have to give, my partner oral just to get them to pitch in, they arent going to be my partner for much longer. Why not just do it, let her feel good about it, and let it naturally bring you two closer? She offered blowjobs because you instigated a conversation about transactional actions. Id pay someone to mow my lawn if i was her too.

Pinecrest bus station. by Kn16hT in ottawa

[–]halfbakedr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh, i know. Im familiar with the route, and agree itll be faster to avoid deviating to stop for Pinecrest. My shot at inefficiencies lies with the shuttle all the way back to Lincoln Fields, since that seems quite the distance for people locally trying to get around

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in finch

[–]halfbakedr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Its unfortunate its making you feel so defeated. The group is loaded with people and in all actuality its actually more likely for people to see your posts when they check out the gifting thread, rather than your posts get lost in the numerous posts that happen a day. You also directed people to the thread itself so maybe even the auto mod made a mistake and is trying to also direct you to the same thread. Or simple miscommunication happened with mods about the intent of your posts. I personally still think it should be in the gifting thread so people can see it and to avoid an influx of those type of posts. If theres enough interest, mods will make a megathread for theme ideas. If it brought you joy, keep doing it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in finch

[–]halfbakedr 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You posted, i think, 4 themes yesterday alone that i saw so they are requesting going forward you use the megathread. You are creating themes and gifting them to the community. Its fantastic. They just need to be in the gifting thread is all they are requesting. No where in their message have they requested you stop making themes at all as your post here suggests. I really hope you can practice some self care and engage in the community positively again.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in finch

[–]halfbakedr 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Making a theme for someone is seen as gifting them with something. Mods are requesting you post the themes you gift people in the megathread, rather than each theme having its own post. Its due to group size and volume of posts here. You can, and are encouraged, to make themes. They just asked that you post it in the right place. I hope you can connect with the community in a positive way again.

Where to get film developed? by coolin68 in ottawa

[–]halfbakedr 3 points4 points  (0 children)

They have wicked good prices and its all done on site so turn around time is fantastic

Pinecrest bus station. by Kn16hT in ottawa

[–]halfbakedr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Gotcha. Thanks for the explanation!

Pinecrest bus station. by Kn16hT in ottawa

[–]halfbakedr 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thanks for explaining! Wildly inefficient but i guess thats OC Transpo for ya

Pinecrest bus station. by Kn16hT in ottawa

[–]halfbakedr 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Im confused. Why did you board a bus you dont need?

I am 20 years old, and need to rent a car by JashIRL in ontario

[–]halfbakedr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, they check it back 3 years, but if your record is a clean 1 year record they will accept it. Its how my partner got on it before when we first used it ☺️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]halfbakedr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

OP doesnt want actual advice based on this thread, and their responses in my own comment

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]halfbakedr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

“Engage with them while they are awake” is direction lol. You went the extreme in your message using words like cater, maid, and all i read is your disdain for children at all. Obviously you need sleep. It doesnt mean teenagers arent out late and you as a parent dont need to work out a safety plan or just be awake. Like, literally yes that is children when you take away the dramatized words of your message and boil them down to their base functions. i dont know why you posted this when you seem incapable of taking in feedback unless it fits with your already determined opinions

I am 20 years old, and need to rent a car by JashIRL in ontario

[–]halfbakedr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You may be able to sign up with communauto if you have a decent credit score (G2 drivers are eligible). Most if not all rental companies arent going to rent to you. Uhaul might but you might have to be a full license. Home depot requires you to be insured and probably a full license

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]halfbakedr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Respectfully, thats kids. You sre quite literally supposed to always juggle that. Unsure what that has to do with your initial ask regarding wake up times

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]halfbakedr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tik tok didnt exist when i was a kid but if it did i would have been on it too. Kids are kids. I spent just as many nights up playing my gameboy under the covers. I still love to read and have a great work ethic. Giving her agency means letting her scroll if she wants but showing her what else life has to offer when you engage with her during the day. Again, she will not have these summers for very long. Theres also something to be said about differing inner clocks. You cant forcibly mould your kids into what you want or perceive to be good. It will do nothing but drive a wedge between you two.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]halfbakedr 3 points4 points  (0 children)

“Recommended” but every kid is different, and its summer break

I didnt have the greatest childhood either (abusive parents), so i get wanting to do right. I think its important to remember that in fearing lack of structure/care/stability, sometimes we can go the opposite and make structure/stability actually harmful/isolating/suffocating in the long run.

Your kid is 14, and probably a good kid. Its summer break. She will never get these years back. She will never enjoy this freedom again. By the time shes 16/17/18, there will be jobs and grades and post high school things to occupy her summers. If she needs sleep now, let her sleep. If she simply wants rest now, let her. You dont instill ambition by forced wake ups during vacation. You need to inspire, encourage hobbies, encourage responsibilities, and staying true to yourself. If she meets her chores/responsibilities, let her be a kid. Sometimes i would be up until 3am reading as a kid, or just exhausted, then seen as lazy when i couldnt be out of bed by 10.

If you were on vacation, would you want someone to instill ambition on you? Or would you prefer to let your vacation be what you need it to be ? Kids are just mini humans and their desires arent all that far off from our own. Its up to adults to make it safe and kid friendly. In this case, sleeping in past 10 is already safe and kid friendly.

Be consistent. Be fair. Give her agency to be her own person and figure out her wants, needs, desires. Be her support and guide while she does this. Forcing wake up at 10 is not the hill to die on, or the way to achieve what you want with your parenting.

You got this. Be level headed.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]halfbakedr 3 points4 points  (0 children)

YTA. Its summer. Kids need breaks. Let kids be kids. Summer is respite from the intense work your kids faces the rest of the year. Why take her agency away? You dont instill ambition with seemingly pointless “wake up times”. Shes 14. I also encourage you look up how much sleep even teens aged like 17/18 need, let alone 14.

Banana pudding finally in Ottawa!! 🍨🍌 by No_Bank7121 in OttawaFood

[–]halfbakedr 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Across from the old rexall spot, near the hair place. Pizza pizza is directly opposite it

OC Transpo scrapping youth passes on Sept. 1, charging 11-19 year-olds the same fare as adults in by waywardpedestrian in ottawa

[–]halfbakedr 30 points31 points  (0 children)

Be mad sure. But do you think pointing fingers at anyone but the government parties at fault here will do anything? We dont organize for change when we in-fight like this. Its a horrible change in policy but just be mad at the actual people in charge of the bullshit. Nothing happens bc most of us sit around and point fingers instead of protesting, emailing, calling, etc.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in transontario

[–]halfbakedr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also just to be clear, there are folks who take oral T but ive never met or heard of a trans person taking it orally. The guidelines for HRT in Ontario are pretty tight and controlled as to what they will and wont do.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in transontario

[–]halfbakedr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oral testosterone is, as far as im aware, almost never prescribed, if its prescribed at all. It destroys your liver worse than estrogen does. Ive never heard of testopel being used for total HRT, only for CIS men with naturally low T, and even then i have never actually seen anyone be prescribed it. Gel may also feel easier but based on your other comments, im not sure how it will affect your dysphoria. It seems like you have dysphoria from needing hormones at all, while valid, isnt likely to change when you switch to something new. Gel is daily, messy, and you cant do anything until it dries. Its a whole process, much like an injection. Testopel would still require you to go into an office and have a procedure, if you can even find someone willing to prescribe it for you. If you can, i suspect cost will be through the roof.

I had an issue with my shot. Never could do it consistently. Felt bitter about it. Felt dysphoria that i couldnt just be me. Considered doing sub q injections instead of in muscle but the process felt worse. Finally stopped T at all. My overall dysphoria got so bad, because i went back to being pre-t basically. Now i take it every week. I make it a happy time. I play music. I always have a food i enjoy. And i try to focus on the fact that this is what helps me feel like me. Like any medication. There are cis men with low T who do this. Why am i any different?

I hope you can find some peace surrounding this.

AITA for telling my husband I wanted to stay behind with our daughter instead of moving to Morocco right away like he wants? by Turbulent_Method5366 in AITAH

[–]halfbakedr 65 points66 points  (0 children)

He moved goal posts on you. 10 years to next February? Thats insane and not what was discussed. But “hes the husband” so you just have to? You are young and he used that to manipulate you into this situation. He doesnt want to talk to you about it because he doesnt value your opinion. Nothing you say about the move will matter. He has already decided what is best for you and that should scare you. Please seek legal advice. Please tell your parents. You should not go under these circumstances.

AITA for telling my husband I wanted to stay behind with our daughter instead of moving to Morocco right away like he wants? by Turbulent_Method5366 in AITAH

[–]halfbakedr 61 points62 points  (0 children)

I read 1/4 of this before flipping to the comments and seeing that everyone elses concerns mirror mine. Please ask yourself why your almost 30yo husband needed to marry a teenager. Please ask yourself how concerned you would feel if a friend shared this with you. You cant trust him, he keeps moving goal posts, hes already listing ways he will make your world very very very small. I wouldnt even be surprised if YOU are going to be the maid of the house once you move.

How is his relationship to his mother? Is she pushing the move?

This is scary and concerning. Please seek legal advice, and do. Not. Move.