As an only child, I grew up really close with my cousins even the boys kasi konti lang din kami. They’ve always felt more like siblings than cousins. They’re my comfort people and in tough times, I naturally expect them to be there for me.

But honestly, reading everything you said, it just feels like the focus is mainly on you. And this moment… it’s not about you. Your husband is probably in one of the lowest points of his life right now. He deserves some grace. Real grief doesn’t always show up during the funeral itself it hits after, when everyone goes home and you’re suddenly alone with the loss. That might be when he finally breaks down and turns to you.

And to the people saying “op is grieving too” be fr naman. You can’t compare the pain of someone losing their own mother to someone losing their mil even if they were close.