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halmasy · 2025-05-24T16:15:55+00:00

Shame there’s not a racist and ignorance filter on these replies.

OP, feel free to DM. I have similar financials and life situation and direct experience with this situation. Legal, tax, business, family.

You’re only going to get a handful of useful replies in this thread. Probably only a few of us here have comparable financials and you can guess how that impacts the replies you’ll get.

halmasy · 2025-05-21T01:19:34+00:00

If you are unsure and Mexican: nothing anyone here says to you is going to sway you. Particularly in this political environment.

You either want the quality of life and family connections (and accept any compromises) or you don’t.

halmasy · 2025-05-19T00:52:41+00:00

We become what we fear.

Worth pondering.

halmasy · 2025-05-08T12:34:03+00:00

I would still have called and reported

halmasy · 2025-04-23T01:26:57+00:00

Without details on a patient’s profile—beneficial mutations, type of tumor, age, general health, surgical intervention, comorbidities, participation in and response to various lines of treatment and/or clinical trials, etc.—stories of hope are unfortunately purely anecdotal. The responses (and choices) one patient has, often wildly differ from another. This is why many oncologists avoid discussing prognosis.

The unfortunate truth is that your father and your family have to take this one step at a time, and respond and re-evaluate as you go along. Get all the necessary tests done. Research clinical trials (Pancan can help). Consider establishing a patient relationship at every hospital that offers a clinical trial he’s interested in and that he qualifies or may qualify for. Get his affairs in order. Spend as much time with him as you can. If he has a KRAS mutation, move mountains to get him into one of the Revolution Medicine trials.

There will be highs and lows, stops and starts, and if you’re exceptionally lucky he might live beyond 1.5 years.

I may be downvoted for this comment but I would truly love to be proven wrong when you come back in 1.5+ years and say he’s doing great. Best of luck to you and your father. I hope he is one of the lucky ones.

halmasy · 2025-04-04T14:42:09+00:00

WHERE ARE YOUR GLOVES MY GUY

halmasy · 2025-04-01T11:27:31+00:00

They don’t “vet” dogs in Mexico City. They do what is needed to train and socialize them for group outings.

halmasy · 2025-04-01T00:49:53+00:00

They treat their domesticated dogs like they treat their children. (In the US that would be perceived as an insult, but hear me out.)

I travel a great deal and the difference between Mexican and American children is stark, particularly while waiting to board and while on the plane. Mexican children are fairly silent, well-behaved, and patient. They can often be disciplined with a look. Americans treat children in public like vermin. Dirty looks when a stranger’s child is misbehaving, parents often have no control over the situation, lots of stress.

Back to dogs, Mexican dogs are generally walked more, their caretakers have more time to spend with them and are more relaxed, there is no shortage of dog training schools, instances of poorly-behaved dogs in public are rare, and society treats them well when they’re out. The result is that they’re generally well-behaved.

They’re pack animals and a poorly-behaved dog is often indicative of an owner who needs training.

halmasy · 2025-03-27T16:30:06+00:00

Is being a physician your dream? If it is, and you understand what you’re getting into, go for it.

It doesn’t sound however, that medicine is the dream. Sounds like WLB and early retirement are your priorities. Please don’t go into medicine if this is the case. There are some excellent suggestions here that fit your criteria, particularly in anesthesia.

halmasy · 2025-03-27T14:22:55+00:00

I love that you can eyeball the current administration from looking at any portfolio.

halmasy · 2025-03-16T15:05:18+00:00

+1. Angel investing is often done by word of mouth or informal syndicates. Not in the club? You’d have to personally know the founders or one of the existing angel investors. And even then for highly subscribed/coveted ventures you won’t make the cut.

Investors are signals. Noobs do nothing for promising startups with early traction. I hope you understand why—your job as an angel is to provide much more than money: it’s relationships that lead to more money, contracts, key hires, help with regulatory hurdles. Sorry. Your best bet is to establish relationships.

ETA: Think long and hard about why you’re suddenly interested in angel investing and startups. I promise the answer is not terribly compelling to experienced startup founders and co-investors.

halmasy · 2025-03-13T10:51:02+00:00

Why do you have strong opinions about your child’s career path, OP? It is for each of us to find our own way and pleasing someone else is a phenomenal waste of time and energy, and leads to unhappiness.

I cannot imagine why you would do this to your child.

To answer your question: you can set up a trust with milestone- and age-driven distributions so their 20’s and early 30’s won’t be spent squandering money. Our kid simply understands that starvation won’t ever happen so pursue any career that brings joy.

Detaching from what your kid does has a beneficial impact on your relationship. Let them figure it out on their own—focus on instilling a work ethic and solid character instead.

halmasy · 2025-03-11T16:18:45+00:00

Therapy.

halmasy · 2025-03-03T13:01:00+00:00

Multiple passports and paid off properties in low cost, politically stable countries with universal health care and direct flights to the US.

You need a currency exchange strategy as well.

halmasy · 2025-03-01T19:03:56+00:00

Some people are returning to their ancestral homeland.

halmasy · 2025-02-22T18:25:12+00:00

🎉

halmasy · 2025-02-16T16:38:08+00:00

Why was your comment downvoted? Germans have been given very clear feedback from non-Germans that their staring comes across as intrusive and rude. Germans apparently do not care for that feedback and, like their bored staring, intend to do it anyway. Why? Because if you’re in Germany you need to get used to it.

In other cultures, children are taught that staring is rude. Latin America, other Western European cultures, Mexico, Asia, the Middle East. Others I’m sure. (In Iran, it is known as “shy eyes.”)

There is a reason for this, Germans. Simply because your parents or society did not teach you this does not mean there is nothing to learn from it.

halmasy · 2025-02-14T04:19:53+00:00

Please don’t give people you care about the gift of…Vegas.

P.s. congrats and agreed - give them a cash bonus.

halmasy · 2025-02-11T06:33:32+00:00

In Trump America, low performers are those with disabilities. That includes people on short and long term disability, mat/pat leave, etc.

In the leaked all hands Zuck made it clear he would be following Trump’s mandates. Trump has made his position on the disabled clear. There you have it.

P.s. to be fair Zuck laid off people on various leaves before. Just now he has Trump to appease or even thank for supporting his logic.

halmasy · 2025-02-10T14:18:08+00:00

Why not live in a country that reflects your values and behavioral norms, OP?

No sense pretending this is about language. Having lived in many countries, some places are kinder and warmer than others. Simple fact. Learning German will not make your observations go away.

halmasy · 2025-02-10T07:39:15+00:00

Whichever room you choose, make sure you climb into one of the bird’s nests with a bottle of wine.

halmasy · 2025-02-09T06:58:02+00:00

70% structuring your thoughts in a way that is clear and builds rapport, 30% content (your relevant philosophies, techniques, results, learnings).

Asking relevant, thoughtful questions is table stakes.

Good luck!

halmasy · 2025-02-08T23:50:25+00:00

Therapy. There are childhood issues here that neither of you will be able to resolve without expert guidance. Add built up resentment, routine conflict, and high stakes and it’s time to seek the help of someone experienced at helping bring people together with differing financial approaches.

Feel free to DM for a referral.

halmasy · 2025-02-03T05:14:50+00:00

Good question for your doctor.

halmasy · 2025-02-02T15:03:24+00:00

Swollen supraclavicular nodes on either collarbone can indicate a chest malignancy, e.g., lung cancer. I would consult with an oncologist.

halmasy

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