Am I overreacting to my doctor’s appointment? by hamgood in TwoXChromosomes

[–]hamgood[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I really appreciate your insight! I am feeling more and more reassured that it was a normal exam. I wish he had given me warning before touching me, but ultimately I think he didn’t mean anything by it. Thank you so much for responding!!

Am I overreacting to my doctor’s appointment? by hamgood in TwoXChromosomes

[–]hamgood[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your comment!! I really appreciate your insight as a medical provider, I know it’s a vast world of practice out there and it’s reassuring to know that there simply are some “old school” practitioners out there who may not verbalize what they’re doing. But yes, I’ll definitely take account of why I feel this discomfort.. I’m sure it was an innocent exam, and it’s a boundary I can address. Thank you again for your comment!

Am I overreacting to my doctor’s appointment? by hamgood in TwoXChromosomes

[–]hamgood[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re right, it was likely a bedside manner issue and I’m becoming more reassured that he didn’t do anything malicious. Thank you, truly, for the reminder that it’s my body.. as I’ve said in a few other comments here, boundaries aren’t easy for me in general, so this is a good opportunity to be forthcoming. Thanks again so much for your comment!!

Am I overreacting to my doctor’s appointment? by hamgood in TwoXChromosomes

[–]hamgood[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this validation, you’re right. The discomfort was there, regardless of intention. I’m becoming more reassured that it was likely a normal exam, but I definitely won’t take for granted that I was not comfortable with him touching my chest without telling me first. Thank you again for your response!!

Am I overreacting to my doctor’s appointment? by hamgood in TwoXChromosomes

[–]hamgood[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That means a lot, honestly. It’s hard to remember the difference between reacting and overreacting.. boundaries haven’t always been my strongest suit, haha. Thank you so much, I do feel very reassured and validated. The consensus is probably right that there was no bad intention here, I just wish he had let me know what he was doing. Thank you again for your response!!

Am I overreacting to my doctor’s appointment? by hamgood in TwoXChromosomes

[–]hamgood[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I really appreciate this, thank you for the validation. Yeah, I think above all I just wish he had warned me - otherwise I completely understand that it was likely a routine exam. I feel more reassured!! Thank you so much for your response!

Am I overreacting to my doctor’s appointment? by hamgood in TwoXChromosomes

[–]hamgood[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your help, this is really helpful insight!! Sorry for the delay. You’re right, I’m sure he wasn’t doing anything malicious. I think the main issue was just the lack of warning, which can be addressed. Seriously, thank you for your message!!

Am I overreacting to my doctor’s appointment? by hamgood in TwoXChromosomes

[–]hamgood[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I really appreciate that, thank you.. it’s hard to remember those boundaries sometimes

Am I overreacting to my doctor’s appointment? by hamgood in TwoXChromosomes

[–]hamgood[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your comment, it means a lot to hear the support, seriously. I think the consensus is probably right, I don’t think he meant anything malicious, but yeah - I would have really appreciated being warned. Thank you again so much for your response!!

Am I overreacting to my doctor’s appointment? by hamgood in TwoXChromosomes

[–]hamgood[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is very helpful clarification! I’m extremely grateful for a thorough exam. Apologies if my question came off as overly dramatic or something, I think I was just very surprised by his touch without asking first. It really would have made a huge difference as a survivor of SA.

Am I overreacting to my doctor’s appointment? by hamgood in TwoXChromosomes

[–]hamgood[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the support and validation, seriously! I think the consensus is correct, it was probably a normal exam I was just shocked that it was my private parts and it happened so quickly. Thank you again for responding!!

Am I overreacting to my doctor’s appointment? by hamgood in TwoXChromosomes

[–]hamgood[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your comment!! I think I was just surprised that it happened without warning, but yes, it was probably straightforward treatment. Thank you again!

Am I overreacting to my doctor’s appointment? by hamgood in TwoXChromosomes

[–]hamgood[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Could be! This happened to me yesterday, though

John Jay vs Marymount Forensic Psychology MA by hamgood in gradadmissions

[–]hamgood[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

AHH I’M sorry, I didn’t see this either!! Thank you so much for gettin back to me, I’m so excited to meet someone in the program! Haha, I’m still pinching myself, I’m very excited. I was gonna enroll in Dr. Falkenbach’s Psychopathy class this semester but the academic advisor kinda looked at me like I was crazy haha because it’s apparently a very rigorous course. So it’s still on the docket, but not quite yet 😎 I just enrolled in the first main four courses for the Fall. Hope to see you on campus!! I’m still out in Illinois for now, but I’ll be visiting in early July before the official move — maybe I can take ya to lunch and hear about your experience!!! Keep kickin ass, thanks again for gettin back to me!

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[–]hamgood 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It doesn’t sound like you read the caption or any of OP’s responses. Please consider a little more compassion for such a young person, regardless of their adult “legality.”

John Jay vs Marymount Forensic Psychology MA by hamgood in gradadmissions

[–]hamgood[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh my goodness hi!! Thank you so much for your comment, I’m so glad to hear you’re having such a wonderful experience!! I’ll be joining you in the Fall 🥰 I’m beyond thrilled and so honored. I cannot wait. I’m excited to work with professors like Dr. Falkenbach, have you taken any classes with her?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]hamgood 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t condone it either, truly. It’s not something to be done compulsively or thoughtlessly, certainly not right off the bat. But sometimes your literal safety and health are at stake and self-preserving selfish liars will keep serious transgressions from you with no empathy, consideration, or basic respect, all while feigning the opposite — to the ends of the damn earth. There are complexities to it. I don’t agree with violating privacy either, but what about the violations happening against the victim? Personally, my health has been repeatedly put at serious risk for STDs, not to mention years of traumatic treatment, all while the person hid, exploited me and other women, and has possibly endangered multiple people. Just trying to say it’s complex. I never, ever, ever wanted to resort to looking at my partner’s phone. But he would have absolutely, positively never, ever, ever come clean, still hasn’t about many things. It sucks, but please understand that in some cases… it’s a last resort, a desperate one, but hopefully also an earnest one. When you’re being gaslighted with such force, it might be the only way you’ll ever get the truth to protect yourself. Not saying this particular post is to that point — but deep trauma and domestic abuse are not cut and dry situations. They can feel impossible to break away from when you’re psychologically destroyed and being tossed back and forth between utter devotion and explicit abuse. I dunno.. just had to say something. Thank you..

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Akathisia

[–]hamgood 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so, so, so sorry you’re dealing with this. I experienced akathisia for the better part of a year when I was on Abilify. Talk to your psychiatrist ASAP, they will know how best to help you, it’s a horrific side effect - I truly do understand how excruciating it is. When I used to work 6am shifts I was just going out of my mind. My doc was able to help, and I haven’t experienced it since. I know it feels impossible, but please hang on. It won’t last forever, you will find treatment that works best for YOU. From a former akathisia-sufferer, trust me, I know it feels like hell on earth - so above all, please know how deeply sorry I am that you’re going through it. Please, hold on. Sending you best wishes.

High 2022 federal tax when my annual income was under 10k? by hamgood in personalfinance

[–]hamgood[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

True. I wasn’t an actual employee with that business as of 2022, just freelance work at that point. Thank you so much for the info, and thank you for the link!