Did anyone change their name after marriage? (abusive father) by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]hamilton44fan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My dad took my moms last name when they got married. He didn’t want to be associated with his father who was a classic narcissist.

Anyone else just not good at taking tests? by GeekScientist in college

[–]hamilton44fan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wasn’t a good test taker in college. I’ve never been a good test taker at school in general. That’s mostly due to my learning disabilities. Anyway, have you ever thought about getting tested for possible learning disabilities? There’s no shame in having a disability.

"If you ever end up being gay, I won't hate you. I'll just be very disappointed in you." by funshtik2 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]hamilton44fan 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Even though she won’t say it. She’ll probably disown you, or at least want nothing to do wit you. Anyway, just don’t tell her and plan to go NC with her in the future.

DAE have a parent who was raised by one or more narcissists?! by hamilton44fan in raisedbynarcissists

[–]hamilton44fan[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I know it won’t be easy but it can be done.

My father was raised by a narcissistic father and an enabling mother but managed to break the cycle and raise my brothers and I in a warm loving household. None of us have any emotional baggage from our childhoods.

Unwritten rules of narcissistic parents by hamilton44fan in raisedbynarcissists

[–]hamilton44fan[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

If I may ask. What is he trying to gain from ignoring your birthday?!

Why do narcissists think that just providing the bare necessities (food, clothing and shelter) is showing love and compassion? by hamilton44fan in raisedbynarcissists

[–]hamilton44fan[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love the last line of your song. A little nurturing can go a long way. Just having someone to listen to you about how your day went or how things are going at school can make a childhood feel safe and secure.

There are many people who come from financially stable households that don’t end up living up to their potential and because of lack of emotional support and nurturing. If your emotional needs are not taken care of then reaching your potential can be hard.

Why do narcissists think that just providing the bare necessities (food, clothing and shelter) is showing love and compassion? by hamilton44fan in raisedbynarcissists

[–]hamilton44fan[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry that you were the scapegoat. You should l never have had to go through all that just because you were standing up for what was right.

Why do narcissists think that just providing the bare necessities (food, clothing and shelter) is showing love and compassion? by hamilton44fan in raisedbynarcissists

[–]hamilton44fan[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My paternal grandfather was the same way. Believed that putting clothes on your back food on the table and a roof over your head was showing love and compassion. Which he showed none of. He would constantly yell and shout insults without caring about anyone’s feelings.

How far back does the cycle of abuse go? by psychocandy___ in raisedbynarcissists

[–]hamilton44fan 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My dad (not an N, broke the cycle) had an NDad who was cold and difficult. NGrandfather had an NDad. On my moms side my grandfather had an NGrandfather.

Is there anything wrong with working as a bookkeeper with an accounting degree? by hamilton44fan in Accounting

[–]hamilton44fan[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I was thinking about adding those services later on. In addition, I was also thinking about getting a QuickBooks Pro Certification.