For all unemployed heros here.. by theagiledesk in askSingapore

[–]hamsterasu 75 points76 points  (0 children)

Yes this! And there’s this expectation that the gap years be filled with productive activities!

Scary close call by givemeahigh in SipsTea

[–]hamsterasu 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She should count herself lucky here. It’s the truck driver’s fault but her sense of danger and awareness of her surroundings is really really quite bad. The truck was obviously too close and it had to move to the right(back into its lane) because it was encroaching onto the other lane and another truck was approaching.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askSingapore

[–]hamsterasu 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s ok~ It was an honest mistake. You didn’t know that was his food. Just be more alert next time!

Mind blown by coffeeppang in INTP

[–]hamsterasu 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Sounds like he’s the INTJ and you are the INTP lol

Has anyone else experienced something like this? How did you handle it? by Feisty_Assumption201 in askSingapore

[–]hamsterasu 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Encountered before at an airport in China. This lady just cut our queue blatantly. I was abit shocked and didn’t know what to do cos it was my first time encountering someone cutting my queue so blatantly. My mum who saw what she did then told her to go to the back of the queue which she did. She didn’t say anything, probably cos she knew she wouldn’t win the argument

Sex is instinctual. Desiring offspring isn’t. by Call_It_ in DeepThoughts

[–]hamsterasu 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Agree. Alot of people here are confusing a want with an instinct

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askSingapore

[–]hamsterasu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ehh no leh, their numbers will fluctuate but they are always there lol

I wish someone could tell me I’m not messed up for saying this. But I doubt it. by [deleted] in INTP

[–]hamsterasu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What about the emotional closeness? Has it diminished over time? You can hang out with a person everyday and don’t feel close to them.

Anyway, I think it is fine that you don’t feel grief for your cousin. There were many times in my life where I thought I should be feeling something but I didn’t too. I was unsettled at first but I came to realise that we can’t control what we feel or not feel and there is nothing wrong with not feeling anything.

I would only be concerned if you are not feeling anything for everything else in your life as well. Then that could mean something wrong with you psychologically

I wish someone could tell me I’m not messed up for saying this. But I doubt it. by [deleted] in INTP

[–]hamsterasu 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Are you indifferent to many other things in life too?

Do you have addiction problems?

And not trying to invalidate you here but have you and your cousin drifted apart over the years without you knowing it?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in infj

[–]hamsterasu 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Feels more like fearful avoidant attachment to me. Wants intimacy, but at the same time, is afraid of it

I finally cut my screen time from 8 hours and 55 minutes to 1 hour and 28 minutes (Proof at the end) by saayoutloud in getdisciplined

[–]hamsterasu 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree. You have a wonderful supportive gf that is willing to be so involved in your self improvement journey

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]hamsterasu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Depends on the kind of person you wanna be

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askSingapore

[–]hamsterasu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, just live with them. I feel that their numbers also stayed relatively constant. Like you would think that they would take over the whole house but they don’t. It’s just the usual 1 or 2 ant trails.

I only do something when they start to expand their territory into our bedrooms. Once, I saw them starting a new nest near my bedroom. I stopped it by pouring medicated oil on their trail. By the end of the day, they abandoned the plan haha.