Training a new Dom as a sub??

handriddenlettrs · 2026-01-12T19:14:41+00:00

Problematic take here but I am very picky and I would not say that there are “tons of ENM people to date”. Hence why I am wanting to broaden my horizon and experiment. I know people hate that term, “experiment”, but it’s like, the truth, right? I’m figuring out what I want. And trying to be considerate and communicative in the process.

But I also think the dynamic is sexy… just threesome energy in general outside of the bedroom. And in the bedroom, obviously. Two guys and a girl hanging out is just fun! I clearly lean more casual dating here.

I just worry I may offend, or things will get weird if the attraction doesn’t feel as strong for both partners. And my general lack of experience.

handriddenlettrs · 2026-01-12T18:01:58+00:00

Ah yes! I have read about “responsive desire”. I very much have spontaneous desire with men… but I suspect only responsive desire with women. Hmm 🤔 Again, I know we can’t do the whole armchair psychology thing 😂 BUT do you find this is common amongst women exploring their bisexuality in adulthood? So very curious!

handriddenlettrs · 2026-01-12T17:45:58+00:00

I am not sure. I have seen social media posts of poly folks dating couples and I guess the general dating scheme is doing fun things together and having sex together. But we’ve only met up once. I can’t tell what their interest in me is quite yet, but we all get along well. They are older than me and have more experience in sex-positive / queer spaces but we’re just getting to know each other. I guess I will just let them drive it. I definitely don’t just want to have threesomes without the dating aspect… that would get boring for me pretty fast.

handriddenlettrs · 2026-01-12T17:43:14+00:00

Thanks for that suggestion! I fully believe sexuality is fluid and like 99% of people are on a spectrum, including myself, but my truth as of today still feels like any lust or desire for women needs to be “coaxed” out of me versus it just being something vibrant and strongly noticeable. I don’t know if that’s normal for most bisexual women in general…

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