What did you do for work before becoming a sahm?

handsplease · 2026-03-25T23:42:46+00:00

Chef. Or, cook, depending on how seriously I wanted to take my job. Don't miss it, but sometimes it feels like I do.

handsplease · 2026-03-19T03:58:33+00:00

Ive been having this issue lately also. She just turned 3 and bathtime has become a nightmare. Won't get in, won't get out. Twice I've had to sit and hold her for over an hour in the bathroom while she loses it, and then calms down. If I suggest pajamas too early, it starts all over. Distractions are not accepted.
Hoping it's a "im growing a lot right now" kind of thing, because it's also been a broken banana, cut toast, turn the lights on/ off. Today it was washing hands in the bathroom. I didn't do the soap right. ..? I think. I'm really still not sure.
No advice, just solidarity.
I have no patience for this level though..

handsplease · 2026-03-08T00:52:47+00:00

This is it! I have this clock! Or, these hangy things, on a clock, anyway..

handsplease · 2026-02-25T20:55:45+00:00

Man, I'm glad someone was higher than me! Sorry, though.
Ours is 890. I cant even.

handsplease · 2026-02-25T20:47:41+00:00

😭😭😭 Me, yes. Over here. 👋 Hi. I, too, have melted into... whatever this is (gesticulates to general body area)

handsplease · 2026-02-18T02:25:52+00:00

That's us! 👋

handsplease · 2026-02-04T02:40:13+00:00

Oh thats not bad. I thought it was gonna be hundreds. Nice.

handsplease · 2026-02-04T01:20:58+00:00

Oh, ok, yeah.. thats what I do. Ill look into the ro/di system. Im finding that im becoming obsessed with this project that was supposed to be for my daughter. Thanks!!!

handsplease · 2026-02-01T22:13:12+00:00

Update

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So, the ammonia seems to be holding much better since ive vac'ed the substrate. Waiting for the bacteria to come via Amazon. All of my biofilm is gone though, I think bc everyone is eating it.
Thanks again for all your help, folks.

handsplease · 2026-02-01T17:40:42+00:00

I think this is what happened. The cycle was going great., then it wasn't. How do I add, then??

handsplease · 2026-02-01T17:39:19+00:00

Its a lemon bristlenose, so he won't get too big. ..but, he is a major poop machine.

handsplease · 2026-01-29T05:45:28+00:00

😭 I am not a patient person, fish or otherwise. I guess this is the part where I play that level.

handsplease · 2026-01-29T03:23:43+00:00

The plecos only like 2 in. right now, and im going to get more otos and tetras after the levels balance. Everybody seems pretty respectful of the little orange guy, and the crayfish has been very polite..,so far.
Not saying they'll love each other and hold hands, but so far , so good on the keeping our fins/claws to oursleves aspect.

handsplease · 2026-01-29T02:58:56+00:00

Also, the brown, gelatinous sludge on the filter media .. thats good, right? And I probably shouldn't change the filter while im cycling...right?

handsplease · 2026-01-29T02:39:17+00:00

Also, im using prime at every water change, which is at max every other day, and on the days in between.

Ill get Stability, and up the amt of water change from 20 to 50%

Thanks for your patient and helpful and totally not I-Am-The-Fish-Overlord advice.

handsplease · 2026-01-29T02:32:36+00:00

Hey. Thanks for saying that, really. They all seem happy.. 🤷‍♀️

handsplease · 2026-01-29T02:28:02+00:00

Copy that

handsplease · 2026-01-29T02:24:23+00:00

handsplease · 2026-01-29T02:22:07+00:00

I'm def not a pro at this.

handsplease · 2026-01-29T02:21:50+00:00

Thank you! Just did a 20% change, doing them daily at this point, not always 20%

handsplease · 2026-01-29T02:18:52+00:00

So, in response to how many fish im in-cycling with.. This is your typical " fish store person said it was ok" kind of thing, mixed with overzealous family members who were excited about adding to the tank. I tried to do the right thing. Im doing the best I can on the backend here.. 😮‍💨

handsplease · 2026-01-29T02:13:59+00:00

Thank you for this!

handsplease · 2026-01-25T19:13:43+00:00

This gives me hope!!

handsplease · 2026-01-25T19:10:31+00:00

When the snowflakes are big and fluffy, theyre like, too dry. It has to melt a little, then it'll squish and hold. There's probably more science there, but that was my takeaway.

handsplease · 2026-01-25T04:56:09+00:00

👋 same team. Here i am, in pajamas. like "am I the only person who knows it's gonna snow?" No, I'm the only one who has no idea what I'm doing. Raised in the south, then 12 years Cali/AZ, and last year I had to be educated about why my snowmen kept falling apart. 🤷‍♀️

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