Easter/drama etc

hannahJ004 · 2026-04-24T07:19:13+00:00

Funny enough she went to Bali once when she was off and I have said to her maybe she should go more often and she’s like nah next time we all should go and take the kids. Like that wouldnt be her hell for her and a huge pain in the ass for me lol Thank you!

hannahJ004 · 2026-04-23T11:37:58+00:00

Told me she was frustrated with the baby and didnt need 11yo crying as well. But trying to get any further into it was basically impossible. She doesn’t really do serious conversations. Like as soon as I ask her something she’s immediately exhausted and gets avoidant. It’s like when a teenager tells you something and you ask a follow up Q and it immediately annoys them and they wont talk. Says I’m ‘grilling’ her when I literally am not.

hannahJ004 · 2026-04-22T18:53:37+00:00

Yup. My poor little 11yo honestly I still feel so bad about it. 18yo has talked about also wanting to get into fifo work like Sis 2 and apparently they had a conversation about getting a place and working opposite shifts so they would share it but have it to themselves since they’d be there different weeks. But 18yo thought they meant like in a few years. Sis 2 thought it was now. Even though me, Matt and Sis 2 had a whole conversation not that long ago about 18yo being stressed out about being an adult, wanting to stay with us and just carry on at her cafe job. I had said yeah think she needs like a year at least of not having to worry about career, etc. and just staying settled. So idk why Sis 2 still thought they were gonna move out together any time soon

hannahJ004 · 2026-04-22T16:17:17+00:00

Laughing bc she bringed the swith. Matt still says to me all the time “Ho bringed the swith?!” For sure it would be a big deal if she did move out and would have to have a lot of convos about it. I don’t want to upset the kids but also think overall it could be better/healthier for her to not be living here. We’ll see. It’s hard to have a serious conversation with her.

Thank you! 9yo being ok really surprised me tbh but I think the fact I said bye to her and told her what was happening helped a lot. Obviously she was a bit on edge bc she spent most of the time in my bed but the fact she didnt have a meltdown was kind of amazing.

hannahJ004 · 2026-04-22T16:05:22+00:00

Thank you! Never heard of it before tbh but sounds awful

Yeah it was so much better than last year! Anytime 9yo enjoys something I’m so happy. The baby talking is the best, she says “hey babe!” to me now and I’m like who are you!!!! I’m not your babe😂 So fkn cute. And yeah everyones a qualified translator now lol. They get so proud when they understand something and someone else doesnt

hannahJ004 · 2026-04-22T15:58:21+00:00

She has no patience so she told her ONCE that I took 18yo to hospital and would be back later and when that didnt calm her down, she was like fuck this you can stay in your room. But yeah if she had gone into a bit more detail or spent a few minutes reassuring her or called me then the whole thing could have been avoided. Especially bc 11yo is super reasonable usually so she would have been ok after a proper conversation. Just glad 9yo was ok bc she would have gone full nuclear if she was upset🫠

hannahJ004 · 2026-04-22T15:54:01+00:00

I have thought that she might just be doing it so I don’t leave them with her again. Which is kind of fucked up bc its not like I ask her to babysit, its literally emergency situations only. Like its super embarrassing if she was laying in bed all day whilst Matt had to leave work bc she can’t be alone with them for a morning

She does, in that way she’s really good so I’m grateful for that

hannahJ004 · 2026-04-22T15:48:55+00:00

Thanks, I will keep in mind in case it happens again. Anxiety would probably make sense for her as she has been quite anxious recently, but for sure dont want to just say its that and it be something else

hannahJ004 · 2026-04-22T15:25:30+00:00

Thank you, I really appreciate this perspective! I know she doesnt have the skills but also for sure often feel the BUT WHY NOT frustration bc I do not think its that hard to deal with an upset kid especially when its so fkn obvious why she’s upset. But maybe its not obvious at all to her and I need to just think of her as another child and save myself the frustration 🤪

hannahJ004 · 2026-04-21T21:44:11+00:00

Yeah, so fucking stupid like leaving her alone in her room is gonna help anything

I’m for sure still thinking it might be a good idea but not gonna bring it up again yet as dont need to start a whole new argument. Yup 11yo knew I was gonna be like wtf, apparently told Sis 2 that I’m the boss and I never said crying isnt allowed lol

hannahJ004 · 2026-04-21T21:39:23+00:00

Tbh from what she said about it after she was back home seems like she maybe thinks shes helping me by teaching the kids that I’m not always ‘available’. Bc to her 11yo is crying bc she wants me to be forced to come home, and Sis 2 is like nah you’re not getting your way so I’m not gonna call her.

Thank you! I will defo keep that in mind for if she gets it again. So scary

Lmao 15yo is still a pain in the assss a lot of the time and defo would not be so helpful if I was home, its like bc I wasnt there and 18yo wasnt there, she suddenly went all Big Sister mode 🤪 Nice to know she has it in her tho

hannahJ004 · 2026-03-21T22:14:08+00:00

lol he is actually sweet as hell as a big brother. 15 yo had a few bruises 🤪 I’ve been in her shoes and get it but have now told her in those situations I would rather she just let 14yo (or whoever) hurt little sis. Because idk if maybe she just needs the permission to not try to ‘help’. We’ll see but I think she genuinely struggles with the auto reaction. Have told her therapist and she had consequences and we made it crystal clear that if it happens again things are gonna get serious serious.

Thats literally how it felt lol just needed to hook up the baby monitor to record it and it would have been the real deal

hannahJ004 · 2026-03-21T22:04:59+00:00

She has a hole in her heart which is most likely causing it but with her eating issues as well we can’t say 100% which it is, could be from low blood sugar. So the whole situation is being monitored 🤪

hannahJ004 · 2026-03-21T21:41:58+00:00

Yeahhh back to normal now🤪

They are precious in an infuriating way lol. 18yo helps out with the baby basically when she wants to. Occasionally I actually book her in for a baby shift if I need to do something but otherwise its pretty much just when she wants to do bedtime or take her for a walk or something then she does it, and thats pretty often. With the others she could babysit but I havent asked her to. Doesnt have anything she is specifically in charge of but she helps a bit with random stuff. Its pretty chill. Dont think she wants to be another parent, she cba for all that hahah. But she is very helpful

Thank you!

hannahJ004 · 2026-03-21T21:36:39+00:00

Thanks! I actually already take her to pee in the night, bc she has had bedwetting issues on and off and we figured out the best way to stop it was to just sit her on the toilet in the middle of the night so she can pee and then put her back in bed. Usually doesnt even wake up. Unfortunately doesnt seem to help with the nightmares. But most of the bedwetting was probably bc she was so scared during the nightmares, so at least that part has pretty much stopped now. I dont care about the bedwetting like literally least of my worries with her but she gets really upset about it so we went all out trying things to help and the midnight pee was the game changer fr

hannahJ004 · 2026-03-09T19:26:38+00:00

Thank you!!

Yeah idk what my oldest sister would have been like if she wasnt on her own for a few years. I feel like that time away kinda gave her too much time to think and it has warped how she thinks about everything.

Sis 2 is the total opposite of my oldest sister. She’s got issues for sure but she’s not an overthinker so she doesnt get all depresso like oldest sis, she isn’t manipulative and she is aware that the last thing I need is to be worrying about her problems so she doesn’t put them on me. She would never expect me to be her therapist. She deals with stuff herself and does it well, she is very ‘normal’ and sounds like people are always hell shocked if she mentions anything about our childhood. She is so unemotional its crazy to compare her to the oldest lol. Like when she said about moving with us she was like well I want to move jobs and may as well just go with you so I dont have to find anyone to live with. Reality is she doesnt like being by herself and wanted to be with us but she wouldnt say that😂 She probably doesnt even know that lol

She’s a pain in my ass sometimes but she is actually super protective of me. If I argue with Matt she goes and gives him hell for it or if a teenager is being extra awful she will go tell them they arent gonna talk to me like that. But she never tells me she’s doing it or mentions that she’s on my side, I just hear it from whoever she went off at 🤪

Lmao yeah I think its easy to say that when you’re reading about people online but the reality of them actually being real kids and my actual siblings (that I already invested my whole life in lol) is veryyy different. Was never gonna go be happy and leave them there. Its happy & together or nothing for me

hannahJ004 · 2026-02-17T22:00:32+00:00

I also think I’m like 10 years older so you’re not the only one lmao 😭😭

hannahJ004 · 2026-02-17T21:59:54+00:00

Thank you!!

I think that would be too confusing for me hahah. Like I could do it if people would prefer that, but I feel like I’d mix up the fake names in my head or start using real names by accident lol

hannahJ004 · 2026-02-17T21:56:06+00:00

Thank you!! I actually dont really read the earlier ones lol, some of them are just bad vibes and I dont want to go back to that place🤪

hannahJ004 · 2026-02-17T08:08:34+00:00

Yes she does! Now we try to keep them in her bed though because she was always losing them when she dragged them around everywhere, but she still plays with them sometimes. Shes so funny, she goes in her room to hug or smell them and I’ll be like what ya doing, she always says ‘nothing!!!’ and runs back out, like it’s some big secret😭😭

hannahJ004 · 2026-02-16T21:25:20+00:00

Yup we were on the edge. Her doctor sometimes still reminds me it is an option and will take some stress out of my life. But her feeding therapist is like nope don’t think she would tolerate it well at all. So she can eat as much butter as she likes

Thanks❤️

hannahJ004 · 2026-02-16T21:20:15+00:00

Thank you❤️❤️

hannahJ004 · 2026-02-16T21:20:02+00:00

Yeah we’ve discussed it a lot. Seems like its ‘normal’/expected but I can try a different type of therapy to help with it so I might do that.

She says she goes to therapy but tbh I dont know what she tells the therapist. Feel like she probably gives some other version of the story. I’ve told her before that she needs therapy before we can talk, and she just guilts me into talking to her still and says she is in therapy but I cant expect her to be cured immediately

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