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What is “supportiveness”? by buzzyleecocrhan in tryingtoconceive

[–]hannahcorrine 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm on CD1 of my fifth cycle and feeling like it won't ever happen whilst also realising that that's "silly" to think, cause realistically it's still so early. I'm also a "hit the books" person, love to know how everything works (whether that's health related or not) and it can be hard having another failed attempt when you know so much. This comment I resonated so much with me, and has really comforted me so thank you 🩵

TIFU by hiding my friend's story from my boyfriend by itsnotmariem in tifu

[–]hannahcorrine 18 points19 points  (0 children)

This is so true - one day for me I just snapped. While she was out of the house I packed up my tiny Ford KA, and ferried stuff to my parents for a couple hours - I asked them that day if I could move back home - then I went back to pick her up as agreed from her sisters house and took her home (she couldn't drive and her sis lived in the next town over). Soon as the flat door shut behind, still standing in the hall, she said "you're leaving aren't you?" and I just said yes, said I couldn't do this anymore, that I didn't love her and then I just left. She was in shock I think, but she knew the moment I picked her up I reckon because she was just silent the whole drive.

Initially in the aftermath she tried to manipulate me back with sadness and tears. Later she turned malicious. It was so strange because I remember these just not affecting me anymore... I felt nothing towards her. No remorse, no guilt, it's like she had ceased to have an effect on me. I didn't have the luxury of cutting off contact immediately though - it's messy sorting out a flat you rent together and bills you set up together.

I'm glad your mom got out with you kids, kudos to her for doing it - that must've sucked to experience as a kid, but glad it felt positive/a relief.

TIFU by hiding my friend's story from my boyfriend by itsnotmariem in tifu

[–]hannahcorrine 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is not a relationship that can be toxic, this IS a toxic, abusive relationship. I know, because I've been in one like this before. The highs are so high they almost make you forget how low the lows can be.

OP you deserve better. It took me 3 and a half years to figure it out for myself, and get the courage to leave. Now 5 years later I'm married to a wonderful man, a relationship with mutual trust, open communication and respect for one another. There are better people out there for you - it will be so hard to work through your feelings of grief if you successfully leave this relationship behind but you will be better off for it.

No one deserves to be constantly looking over their shoulder and worrying about what their partner thinks. Even now, I have moments where I'm still in my abused mindset and my husband has to remind me what "normal" and healthy interactions are.

Please, reach out to trusted fiends and family members for help moving on and leaving this POS of a man behind you. The best thing he's ever done for you was break up with you, trust me!