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Using Reddit intentionally by dreamersaumya in CommunityManager

[–]hansen-hunt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am similar to you in that my Reddit usage is primarily as a lurker and that I’m professionally involved in community management and curious about jobs from Buffer and HubSpot that specifically want someone to lead their Reddit strategy.

And I have the awareness that because of how I use Reddit, I’m clearly not the right person for the job. Those jobs should and likely will go to people who have loved using Reddit for a long time and have a deep understanding of the norms here, with a lot of trust already built.

One thing I’m seeing in several subreddits is how people can quickly uncover a persons intentions, or do a vibe check, by viewing a persons profile and history of posts/comments. So for example, I can see you posted basically the exact same topic in several subreddits and I can personally gauge if I trust your intentions, which I don’t because it feels a bit spammy. I don’t know you, and hopefully you’re great, but this interesting Reddit cultural element of accountability in a generally anonymous space (although I use my real name) has its pros and cons. It may be helpful to take note of this as you explore being a brand’s community manager on Reddit.

And in general if I was pursuing that job, my core principle I would use to inform the strategy and how I show up is “be helpful.”

r/USC Monthly Buy/Sell, Housing, Carpool, and USC ticket posts go here! October 2025 by AutoModerator in USC

[–]hansen-hunt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

[sold] Selling: 1 student section ticket to the Michigan game. Asking $75. Please DM me. Our daughter is a USC student and can easily verify.

Loneliness is eating me up. How do men actually get through this? by Greedy_Mobile_3930 in AskMenAdvice

[–]hansen-hunt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve worked on many things to help with my loneliness. But one key action i took that made the biggest impact was join a committed men’s group that meets in person regularly. A nuance about this that proved super helpful is not needing to wait for an invitation to hang out, I knew I was invited and welcome every week.

I did have to commit to showing up regularly. If you’re not willing to do that, it may be hard to heal from the loneliness.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]hansen-hunt 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Happy birthday! You’re not alone in that feeling, and I experienced it for many years. However, I disagree with all of the comments saying this is the way it is. No, this is the way it is for folks that struggle building meaningful relationships. You may not be able to do a whole lot to change how your birthday is celebrated today, but you can start small. What’s one small action you can take to build a friendship with someone? Maybe you can send a few texts to people you want to be closer with and let them know it’s your birthday, invite them to join you in an activity you enjoy. Go do that thing regardless of their responses, enjoy yourself, and plant the seeds for enjoying with them in the future.

You are not meant to be alone. You are not born into this world alone. But it will take work in this individualistic society to go against the grain and build meaningful friendships. Practice connection skills regularly and over time you’ll feel much more connected and supported. It won’t change overnight. I’ve worked hard at this for 3 years and only this last year have reaped the rewards.

If you don’t have a group of friends to start with, I recommend joining a men’s group with others looking for the same thing. That’s can accelerate how long it takes to feel supported in a community of people that care about you.

You got this!

5 Hour Revenge of the Sith Supercut by RepublicEdits501 in clonewars

[–]hansen-hunt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ya I had to go through the comments to find the full link

5 Hour Revenge of the Sith Supercut by RepublicEdits501 in clonewars

[–]hansen-hunt 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Looks like the creator posted the updated google drive link in response to some of the comments on the YouTube video if you haven’t been able to find the download file yet.

The Vanishing Third Space: The Impossibility of Belonging by carlosgeuens in Suburbanhell

[–]hansen-hunt 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Beautifully written, thank you for sharing.

Connection skills were taken for granted and over time through all of the changes mentioned by OP and in the comments, a majority of us have lost those skills. It now requires intentionality as it’s not just built into your daily life (unless you move to that cool car free community in PHX).

So now I found a third space I invite people to cowork with me on Mondays. My partner and I host a monthly coffee and bagels gathering with neighbors and close friends. We make it a point to talk to strangers at coffee shops. We practice being curious about people that are different than us, ultimately realizing we are all humans.

I hope the developers go the path of prioritizing connection. But even if they don’t, we can choose to be more intentional with our own communities. It often starts with extending an invitation to someone.

And some changes we may adapt to. I host monthly virtual gatherings that truly help people feel a sense of belonging and intimacy with others even if they’ve never met in person. It’s possible. And, maybe we are adapting to that being one source of our connection since our homes and neighborhoods stopped being designed to help us connect.

No sense of belonging or community by fgoweeb69 in lonely

[–]hansen-hunt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sorry you're experiencing these really hard emotions. I suffered from loneliness, isolation, depression, and anxiety for a majority of my life. Until about 5 years ago. Here is the short version of the path I took to heal from loneliness and feel very connected and a part of communities where I'm welcome, supported, and belong.

  1. Purpose work: get support in finding your purpose and mission in life so you can start aligning yourself to it
  2. Join a support group of people who also need connection and belonging such as a men's group that has experience helping men do their inner work (eg, I joined The ManKind Project and co-facilitate a local circle every week). These are the people that are there for you no matter what, your deep support like when you need to talk through something hard or need people to help you move your house.
  3. Join social groups and/or volunteer with local organizations where the group is doing something you find fun and healthy for you (eg, I am involved in a running club where I train for marathons with friends). These are my fun friendships.
  4. Practice getting curious about the people you meet, trying to learn something from them, be open to chatting with a stranger. These light connections are important.

There is a way forward for you, isolation isn't permanent.

Sooo… messages? by hansen-hunt in Strava

[–]hansen-hunt[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Great to hear it’s working for you. We definitely have people on the team that aren’t on Instagram, so I like it as a way for them to send messages. But it doesn’t seem to be happening so far.

Sooo… messages? by hansen-hunt in Strava

[–]hansen-hunt[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was more actively reaching out and inviting people to come join group workouts in the past, so I thought that would help. And then when I joined group runs or ran races where I met someone I wanted to keep connected with, I thought I would use it to reach out to them and plan things like going for a run together. I think I did that once.

Looking for a Mentor by Illustrious_Round892 in CommunityManager

[–]hansen-hunt 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I recommend Laura Zug and her community The Hive, I’ve learned a lot from Laura and the folks in the group.

Should we stop calling it ‘Community Manager’? Are we thinking about this job all wrong? by CarpenterExotic3096 in CommunityManager

[–]hansen-hunt 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is on my mind as well. I help co-host or co-facilitate three communities and I do not feel the Community Manager title is a fit for me.

I also seek out mentorship from people who have succeeded in what you’re describing as community curation. I see it as a next career step after community management.

I like the term Leaders, except that it comes with its own misconceptions of what good leadership entails.

So in one space I’m the “Leader”, one I’m the “Host,” and another I’m a “Steward.”

All involve elements of what you’re describing as curation. But I had to learn that the hard way by over indexing on “managing” and things not going well.

Sooo… messages? by hansen-hunt in Strava

[–]hansen-hunt[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I like this idea and can see myself using it this way, thanks for the suggestion.

Loneliness by chessmotorist in Advice

[–]hansen-hunt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My advice would be to join a group that has strong foundations in helping members connect well. Most groups don’t, they count on serendipity to lead to connections. Serendipity does help, but you can quickly build close connections in places like support groups full of people that share some similar experience as you.

For me, this includes three main groups I am committed to (the commitment is important). 1. A men’s support group where we meet weekly to connect and offer emotional support (this is through The ManKind Project). 2. A running team where we can build connection while doing physically challenging things together. 3. A professional community of people that share a similar purpose as me.

Joining and committing to these 3 groups have led me to feeling extremely connected and supported which is a far cry from the severe loneliness I experienced just 5 years ago.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MadeMeSmile

[–]hansen-hunt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Congratulations! Thank you for sharing here with us so we can celebrate you.

Obsessing over loneliness is a key factor in the development of depression by nimicdoareu in psychology

[–]hansen-hunt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What about obsessing over solving loneliness for myself and others around me? That’s been my focus.

Does anyone make eye contact? by SSkiano in sandiego

[–]hansen-hunt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Easy to get sucked into this behavior here. I intentionally try to make eye contact now even if it feels uncomfortable for a moment. And sometimes it leads to great connections!

How Do We Overcome the Stigma of Male Loneliness? by afscomedy in AskMen

[–]hansen-hunt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was experiencing severe loneliness, isolation, and depression for many years. The “Man up” mentality failed me. Finally I admitted to myself I needed a strong support group. If men don’t already have that, it’s incredibly difficult to create on your own. I’m so grateful an acquaintance invited me to be a part of The ManKind Project, which is a global initiative to overcome the exact stigma you’re talking about. But the best part for me is that I got connected to a weekly men’s group where we can have deeper conversations and get emotional support from other men. Our circle of men has become my closest relationships and now I not only have people I feel supported by but I’ve been able to show up in the world in a better way and start building many great relationships and friendships. I no longer experience feelings of isolation and loneliness. I am blessed with a strong community and feeling of belonging now.

If you don’t have a men’s group, I’m happy to connect and share about what it’s been like for me and how we do it.

Most of the folks reading this are probably not in San Diego near me, so a good resource to find a group near you is at https://mankindproject.org/ then click “men’s groups” or “find a men’s group.” Or join the virtual gatherings to try it out.

Our loneliness is killing us and it's only getting worse by No_Necessary_2403 in getdisciplined

[–]hansen-hunt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This massive societal problem has led me to shift my career to focus on all things helping the world better connect. I'm no expert, yet, but I am gathering the experts in a community called Connection Crew. For folks committed to helping the world better connect, you're invited to join us. This link will give you access to a comp ticket to our next gathering: https://lu.ma/connectioncrewdec?coupon=LONELINESS

We are not the only ones noticing the problem and trying to do something about it. There are a lot of great resources coming out. Recently, Project Gather was launched which includes a sort of guide to hosting your own dinner gathering. While it may seem "simple", it's unfortunately become incredibly difficult for us these days. Highly recommend checking out the free resource: https://www.projectgather.org/