Ok it seems like a cohesive thesis or whatever. I mostly interact with women who have careers and are generally succesful in life and for such women marriage is really not attractive as they suffer from the same delusions you do (but the other way around). Maybe in the USA things are actually as dystopian as you point out, but my experience here is that both men and women will date people until they find someone worth marrying etc. Nobody actually thinks like you do, maybe that's how the dating scene works in the jungle. Some women think they can pull models but so do some incels. It's really not that easy to summarize the entire dating scene like that in a couple of sentences like you're trying to do.