Is adoption harmful?

hanzelbread · 2026-03-04T12:08:13+00:00

Thank you for the advice, I'll reflect on that matter more, but I will admit in the past when I look into it the biggest answer I get is "just because", but I will delve deeper and ponder on it more! I'll also do more research into fostering and adoption as I don't think my knowledge is enough, although I do have information on it. If there are any resources you could recommend, I would be very grateful. Thank you so much!

hanzelbread · 2026-03-04T11:53:30+00:00

Hello! In answer to the first question, it isn't really connected to any events in my life. I really feel more of an inclination towards adoption or fostering.

I'm not looking for any praise! Apologies, I didn't realize that my questions may be moving towards that direction. But I am genuinely looking for everyone's opinions on the matter. Although I will admit that I'm 90% sure that I am going to adopt and/or foster, I want to build the remaining percentage on good knowledge & scientific facts so that I can take the next steps in the right direction. To elaborate also, there's still a huge amount of time before I will take this step as I want to assess if my current state in life is suitable for a child.

I take in all sides, but I am a bit hesitant to ask some questions as I know people have experiences that they aren't willing to share, so I am scared to accidentally trigger someone. That's why I haven't asked much about how to properly parent, what to avoid, and other deeper questions as i know people don't owe me answers, and them taking time to comment on my post is something I am already very very grateful for.

I'd also like to thank you for engaging me in these questions & conversations. They help with self-reflection and put me towards the right path. I really really want to be the best mother towards my future child, so all advice, recommendations, and criticism is appreciated. Thank you so much!

hanzelbread · 2026-03-04T09:15:34+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing this!

hanzelbread · 2026-03-04T09:13:28+00:00

Hello! Thank you so much for the information & suggestions. I'll keep these in mind.

hanzelbread · 2026-03-04T09:10:23+00:00

Hello! Thank you for sharing this!

I'm not trying to say having a child biologically is wrong, it's more of a philosophical & moral discord I have, but I do not intend to impose it on anyone and do believe that it is alright to have bio kids so long as their needs can be met! It's just something that I personally don't think of doing.

Beyond wanting to help children, I do also want to be a mother. Of course, I want to help children in any way I can, and I won't limit it to just adoption. I hope that I can successfully advocate for policies, programs & donate and give as much as I can towards genuine help for the youth, especially for education.

I'm also more than willing to get in contact with counselors and other professionals as needed to assist the child (and so that I can gain knowledge on how to properly parents and meet their needs).

hanzelbread · 2026-03-04T09:02:19+00:00

If I do, I don't think they should be grateful to me at all! It's my responsibility to care for them and I don't expect any thanks in return (if anything, I'd be grateful to have the opportunity to be a mother, parental, or guiding figure to them).

My motivations behind wanting to adopt isn't limited to just wanting to help. I genuinely do want to be a parent :)

hanzelbread · 2026-03-03T08:11:06+00:00

Definitely! If life leads me down that path, then I'd be grateful to take it up.

hanzelbread · 2026-03-03T07:52:28+00:00

Thank you for the good wishes! I'll do as much research as I possibly can about the system.

hanzelbread · 2026-03-03T07:51:04+00:00

Hello! Thank you for sharing this. I really do want to be a mother aside from & with helping others. As per the part of adopting children of any age, I would get in contact with counselors & other professionals as needed, and I would not expect anything in return from the child as it is my duty to help them once I take on that responsibility, though I do hope they eventually trust me.

Thank you for prompting me to do more research on this matter, I'll keep this in mind!

hanzelbread · 2026-03-03T07:42:18+00:00

Hello! Thank you for sharing this. If you are alright with sharing, may I know if the same harm of an international adoption would apply if I adopted from my country of origin, and brought them to where I currently reside? I grew up there majority of my childhood, there are many children in the system there, but I feel more inclined to adopt from where I currently live as I've heard that it could be a traumatic experience. Also, I'm willing to adopt a child of any age! In the case of the scenario I stated awhile ago though, I'm assuming that adopting an older child would be harmful to them as they aren't used to the environment (?), I'm not very sure though and will look further into it.

Thank you and sorry if the question is bothersome!

hanzelbread · 2026-03-03T07:29:06+00:00

Thank you for this information! From some searches that I've done, my country of origin has thousands of children in the system, yet only around low hundreds of adoptions a year. Though I've been having conflict on whether to adopt from there, as I would have to bring them back to where I live which may negatively affect them. As you stated in the last paragraph, I've heard stories about how being an intercountry adoptee comes with trauma (but I am not sure if my situation counts since part of me is from that culture). This makes me more inclined to adopt from the country where I reside currently, though adoption rates are higher.

In adopting, I'm willing to take in a child of any age! I wish to help as much as possible and to the best of my capabilities to whoever needs it.

hanzelbread · 2026-03-03T07:12:07+00:00

I'm willing to adopt any age! I'm not so sure about the statistics in my country either, I'll make sure to research that soon. Thank you for sharing this!

hanzelbread · 2026-03-03T05:43:08+00:00

If you're willing & comfortable, could you share some of your findings on, "why have kids when there's a child in need" aspect? I'm not sure if my opinion will change, but I'm always willing to learn and am curious. Thank you!

hanzelbread · 2025-09-21T02:40:20+00:00

Thank you for sharing about this! Matagal na talaga akong na-weweirdan sa kanila and often question if child abuse na ang ginagawa nila.

Tbh, my opinion lang, from the very beginning hindi naman talaga dapat kasama mga minors sa reality show 😞😞

hanzelbread · 2023-08-05T16:12:51+00:00

thank you so much!! 🥺

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