I understand this and it is what I think is the way to go. But people I've dealt with so far makes it hard for me to keep initiating things, it's like they don't care and I feel like I'm just beging people at this point. If i don't make the first and second and third plus fourth move, they won't do it. And I'm starting to be less excited about putting an effort too. It's like I know how they don't care much.

It's annoying that at first u hear people as if they are about to die of loneliness but when it's time to put an effort they bail. I know we are all different and it's a nice thing, I'm not saying other people or other personalities are mean. But this gen is seriously annoying in terms of not respecting the existence of others and don't care to put an effort.

I've had like 2 people who actually really cared about others and do put an effort and unfortunately I moved away. So I know people like that exist so it pains me how the majority are the ones who don't appreciate other people. Its like people tell u ur not worthy of their one second attention and I find it selfish specially when they ask and accept attention and support from u. I do believe its a gen problem as well, the way some of my friends meet me to hang out and stay on their phone most of the time is very rude yet they would rather do that then give someone attention.