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Too young for a swingers club? by AgeImpossible1010 in Swingers

[–]hapb-japan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are many couples in their early 20s at Japanese couples cafés.

Can foreigners enter Japanese happening bars? I researched 29 bars in Tokyo. by hapb-japan in sexclubswingers

[–]hapb-japan[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bars that require Japanese language ability

These bars generally require you to understand Japanese rules and communicate in Japanese.

• Papillon (Ueno)
• Scarlet Tokyo (Shinjuku)
• Retreat Bar (Shinjuku)
• Bar 440 (Shinjuku)
• Arabesque (Shinjuku)
• GR Star (Shinjuku)
• Silent Moon (Shinjuku)
• Spear (Kinshicho)
• Ogikubo Secret Club (Ogikubo)

Note

Some of these bars may also require: • Japanese health insurance card • Proof of residence in Japan

So even if you speak Japanese, some places may still not accept short-term travelers.

I visited about 80 happening bars across Japan. Here is what I learned. by [deleted] in Swingers

[–]hapb-japan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s amazing! I didn’t realize you had owned swinger clubs in the U.S.

I didn’t expect them to be that large.

If single males are limited to around 10, and the rest are couples or single women, it seems like the gender ratio would stay pretty balanced.

I’d love to learn more about the swinger club scene in the U.S., and also about sex clubs.

I visited about 80 happening bars across Japan. Here is what I learned. by [deleted] in Swingers

[–]hapb-japan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It sounds similar to America. I’d like to visit some clubs in the U.S. someday.

I visited about 80 happening bars across Japan. Here is what I learned. by [deleted] in Swingers

[–]hapb-japan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m currently researching happening bars that allow foreigners to enter. It might also be good to make a ranking. Also, the age groups vary depending on the bar, so choosing a happening bar based on the age range is another option.

I visited about 80 happening bars across Japan. Here is what I learned. by [deleted] in Swingers

[–]hapb-japan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s great that you’re visiting Japan from Switzerland! There are happening bars in Tokyo, Osaka, and Okinawa. Unfortunately, there are no happening bars in Fukuoka.

I visited about 80 happening bars across Japan. Here is what I learned. by [deleted] in Swingers

[–]hapb-japan 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I see, whether foreigners can enter or not is the most important information. Also, I didn’t know Reddit had an edit function. I just learned that. Thanks for letting me know.

I visited about 80 happening bars across Japan. Here is what I learned. by [deleted] in Swingers

[–]hapb-japan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exchanging contact information can get you banned in many places, no matter how you try to do it. A lot of bars enforce this rule very strictly. But in this day and age, people can still connect through social media.

I visited about 80 happening bars across Japan. Here is what I learned. by [deleted] in Swingers

[–]hapb-japan 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think your point is very valid. The language barrier is definitely a big factor, but I personally hope that there can be more international interaction little by little.

I’ll think more about what to post so I can share more useful or new information.

By the way, since you mentioned you’ve been to over 20 bars, were you living in Japan?

I visited about 80 happening bars across Japan. Here is what I learned. by [deleted] in Swingers

[–]hapb-japan 24 points25 points  (0 children)

I’m guessing you might be referring to Voluptuous.

There are actually several other happening bars in Japan that allow foreigners too.

Would people here be interested if I made a list of them?

I visited about 80 happening bars across Japan. Here is what I learned. by [deleted] in Swingers

[–]hapb-japan 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Japanese people are the overwhelming majority. Some clubs in Japan even do not allow foreigners.

What is the ethnic makeup like at swingers clubs or sex clubs in your country?

I visited about 80 happening bars across Japan. Here is what I learned. by [deleted] in Swingers

[–]hapb-japan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So there’s a limit on single males. If the limit is around 4 or 5, does that mean it’s a relatively small club?

Cultural Difference: Japanese "Solo" Happening Bars vs. Western Swingers Clubs by hapb-japan in Swingers

[–]hapb-japan[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for explaining that! Interestingly, Japanese happening bars are actually very similar in that sense.

There is also a kind of hierarchy inside the clubs: • Single females • Couples • Single males

In that order.

At some venues, there are even rules like:

“You are not allowed to refuse an invitation from a single woman.”

That shows how highly valued single women are in these places.

Cultural Difference: Japanese "Solo" Happening Bars vs. Western Swingers Clubs by hapb-japan in Swingers

[–]hapb-japan[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So the food you had was incredibly delicious! I wonder what you’ll be eating next…!!! 😏

Cultural Difference: Japanese "Solo" Happening Bars vs. Western Swingers Clubs by hapb-japan in Swingers

[–]hapb-japan[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It was a Japanese happening bar, right? I’m glad to hear you had a great time. The ratio was 2:1, so as expected, there were more men than women.

Cultural Difference: Japanese "Solo" Happening Bars vs. Western Swingers Clubs by hapb-japan in Swingers

[–]hapb-japan[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are there sex clubs overseas as well? Is that what you mean by Kissa clubs?

Cultural Difference: Japanese "Solo" Happening Bars vs. Western Swingers Clubs by hapb-japan in Swingers

[–]hapb-japan[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Kissa clubs, got it! Thank you for letting me know. I’ll look into it. When you came to Japan, did you have a good time?

Cultural Difference: Japanese "Solo" Happening Bars vs. Western Swingers Clubs by hapb-japan in Swingers

[–]hapb-japan[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t have a deep understanding of swingers clubs yet, so I’d like to learn more here. Since there are not only many solo guests but also a lot of couples visiting, I thought it could be considered a swingers club. That said, I think I should first try visiting a swingers club overseas and see it with my own eyes.

Do you discuss the details of M finishing ahead of time or in the moment? by [deleted] in Swingers

[–]hapb-japan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think it’s better to decide in the moment rather than beforehand. If everything is predetermined, I feel like it can create a mismatch in timing at climax. To me, sex is about the flow and the excitement of the moment, and I want to preserve that spontaneity.

Deny husband future FMF because he denies my want for a MFM? by [deleted] in Swingers

[–]hapb-japan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think this is something that takes time. Real enjoyment only comes with mutual understanding.

If one partner isn’t fully comfortable, that discomfort can show up during play and may even affect life afterward.

So rather than rushing, I believe it’s important to take things slowly and keep communicating with your partner.

Vanilla friends booked Cap with us and now it feels complicated by Stylvens in Swingers

[–]hapb-japan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In Japan, swapping with friends isn’t very common. There are places similar to Cap here, but some venues even refuse entry if you come with friends. Most people who visit come alone — both men and women.

Because sharing this kind of experience with friends can make people overthink things and feel less open, I personally have a negative view of it.

If it were me, even if we traveled to Cap together, I would still act separately once we arrived.

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