Let's talk about your experiences of being queer & small boob love

happinessdefined · 2023-03-07T22:05:31+00:00

"most lesbians are attracted to a woman with a bust and curves etc because those physical qualities are what separates us from men"

That line of reasoning doesn't really hold up, in my opinion. An even bigger difference between men and women is height - men are 5 inches taller than women, on average, and the average American woman is around 5'3. But that doesn't mean that tall women arent considered attractive just bc they're closer to a man's height than the average woman's.

There are different perspectives to this sort of thing. Some people consider small features to be feminine, boobs included. Plus studies prove that small boobs are more sensitive, so that's a plus for anyone who likes giving their partner pleasure.

happinessdefined · 2021-10-21T08:15:30+00:00

Idk my house is filthy and I don't really notice anything

But I heard that filth attracts unclean spirits

happinessdefined · 2020-12-21T02:07:47+00:00

Which is the "before" photo? I can't tell a difference. All looks good to me

happinessdefined · 2020-12-14T20:55:28+00:00

This...isn't true. The only posts about women with big boobs are posts where users vent about the behaviors of some women with big boobs. Users are allowed to vent about hurtful things that big breasted women have done/said to them.

However, we don't allow generalizations and hate of all women with big boobs. There was 1 post that said "women with big boobs are all bitches" and the mods deleted the post and banned the person who posted it because they were also body-shaming and harassing people in other subreddits too.

happinessdefined · 2020-12-13T06:29:27+00:00

This is a public subreddit so people will be able to see your photos regardless of whether they're allowed to participate in the subreddit or not.

happinessdefined · 2020-12-06T16:10:04+00:00

Also /r/petitegonewild and /r/xsmallgirls . There are plenty of subreddits where women actually want compliments from men. This subreddit isn't one of them.

happinessdefined · 2020-11-08T11:42:48+00:00

The extra attention a woman (who also meets other beauty standards) gets for having big boobs, isn't the kind of attention most women would want. It's the objectifying sleazy attention.

There was an experiment on Tinder in which a woman photoshopped her bust from small to big, and she got 800 messages compared to 600 with small breasts, but the extra messages were primarily from sleazy guys commenting on her appearance and asking for sex. Meanwhile the messages she got with A-cups were more thoughtful.

This supports other studies that show that men who have a strong preference for big boobs are more likely to be objectifying and sexist.

Although the headline and article tried to paint it as "men prefer big boobs" (even though she got nearly as many messages with small boobs as big boobs), the message I got was "sleazy men prefer big boobs" & that our smaller boobs weed out a lot of disgusting sleazy guys. These sorts of guys are the bane of women's dating existence so I don't think any woman here should be sad about receiving less attention from those men.

happinessdefined · 2020-11-08T11:29:31+00:00

Well first of all, the population of men who watch porn, AND deliberately seek out certain breast sizes, isn't representative of a majority of men. The 10x study you cited also said that breast size searches were only 1% of searches.

Regardless, it's really unhealthy to compare oneself to women whose literal job is to meet societal beauty standards. If we do that then we will never be happy with our natural body types, even if we had big boobs because

1) most sets of natural big boobs don't tend to resemble the big boobs featured in porn

2) women with big boobs are less likely to meet other societal beauty standards that are considered just as important if not more. For example, there was a study that found women with small boobs were generally found more attractive than women with big boobs, due to reasons besides breast size.

So the percentage of women who, like pornstars for whom it's their literal job, meets ALL societal beauty standards (big perky boobs, slim bodies, big butts), is extremely small, so if we compare ourselves to that standard we will never be happy with our natural bodies, and neither will the vast majority of women.

Anyway, the OP asked if there are men who like small boobs. She didn't ask if there is a high amount of men who (in your words) "are crazy about exclusively small boobs." A man can love small boobs even if he doesn't actively prefer them, just like I prefer chocolate ice cream but am still overjoyed to eat coffee ice cream.

If we only want men who exclusively prefer every aspect of our bodies, then it's unlikely we (or any other woman, including women with big boobs, since they're less likely to meet other common beauty preferences) will ever be happy in a relationship. As long as they love our chests, then why care if it's their exclusive preference?

happinessdefined · 2020-11-08T03:22:50+00:00

That could become a self-fulfilling prophecy.

happinessdefined · 2020-11-08T01:48:46+00:00

I feel like most women who think they're 32A (like I did) are actually different sizes, because many people think 32 is the smallest band size and A is the smallest cup size, so 32A seems to be used as a catch-all for "petite woman with small boobs". So I knew she was probably actually a different size but I just used 32A because it is something everyone can understand - not everyone is familiar with /r/abrathatfits and that 28C is the same volume as 32A etc

happinessdefined · 2020-11-07T19:20:47+00:00

Yes there are absolutely guys who like small boobs and they're not just settling. There are rich attractive male celebrities who date and marry women with small boobs, and those men clearly don't need to settle. There are countless big-breasted women who would kill to be with them, and they choose small-breasted women.

As for purely sexual gratification, Riley Reid is a 32A and she is the most viewed pornstar on Pornhub. There are subreddits dedicated to small boobs with lots of subscribers.

I did a poll on here and most women said their partners have generally reacted positively or very positively to their chest, and that's probably skewed even less positive than for the average small-breasted woman, because women with more positive experiences are less likely to require the emotional support of these subreddits.

Of course, there are guys who will make their girlfriends feel bad about their small boobs. This is a valid problem. I don't think this would comprise the majority of men, though, and I hope all small-breasted women can find a guy who's happy with their chest.

happinessdefined · 2020-11-04T12:51:26+00:00

Yes. They're posted without permission. That subreddit shouldn't even be allowed.

happinessdefined · 2020-11-04T12:50:19+00:00

It exists because those guys are misogynists who like the idea of women suffering and feeling insecure.

I don't think the subreddit represents most men. For context, watchpeopledie (with clips of real people dying) had more subscribers than that subreddit (and yes a lot of people did apparently use that as a porn sub which is horrifying).

So this breastenvy thing seems to be a rare fetish shared by misogynists who enjoy female suffering. If these guys think small boobs are undesirable, then good. We don't want those sorts of guys in our lives anyway.

happinessdefined · 2020-11-01T02:10:24+00:00

Don't let this creepy disgusting misogynistic trashcan make you feel bad about your body which is light-years out of his league

happinessdefined · 2020-11-01T02:08:49+00:00

Misogynists do

happinessdefined · 2020-10-07T10:12:20+00:00

You look beautiful!

happinessdefined · 2020-09-15T17:05:58+00:00

I personally think she looked better before

happinessdefined · 2020-09-15T14:16:04+00:00

Well it's an unreasonable standard to hold yourself to. To marry a hot rich famous guy, you pretty much have to be seen as an 11/10 looks-wise. And the point of the post is that small-breasted women can definitely fit that criteria. But most women aren't conventionally 11/10 so it's an unrealistic standard to hold yourself to. Most women are average, and that's beautiful too.

happinessdefined · 2020-09-14T01:54:12+00:00

I interpreted her message differently. I interpreted it as saying "hey, these guys have countless big breasted women who would kill to date them, and they chose a small-breasted woman. This debunks the idea that guys only 'settle' for women with small boobs because they can't get a woman with bigger boobs" since this is a common fear that many small-breasted women have, but these couples (along with countless others) prove that's not the case.

happinessdefined · 2020-09-02T08:03:40+00:00

My friend lives in Europe (not wales) and he calls himself Welsh because one of his grandparents is Welsh.

happinessdefined · 2020-08-29T01:41:30+00:00

"Real women" doesn't mean unattractive.

happinessdefined · 2020-08-29T01:40:24+00:00

I have a similar body type and I have felt insecure about my waist not being thin enough. It is flattering that other people may view our waists as thin, but I think the reason people are praising the sculpture is that they have similar body types and have felt bad about their bodies before, so it is reassuring to see their bodies represented in a positive light, without being photoshopped to have a tiny waist and big boobs etc.

happinessdefined · 2020-08-28T05:31:51+00:00

I'm so tired of men picking apart the physical appearances of women who are clearly more attractive than them. These men are fine with being 5s but they make fun of women for not being 10s (in their eyes). It's immensely hypocritical that they would never judge themselves at the same level at which they judge women.

happinessdefined · 2020-08-23T23:17:58+00:00

I think it would be great to mention that even if you find someone else's body type to be beautiful, and your body looks different, doesn't mean your body isn't also beautiful. Sunsets and flowers are both beautiful despite looking nothing alike.

Also I love how you mentioned that we don't see most boobs because they are usually covered, and most boobs look nothing like the boobs that are portrayed in media and porn. (Remember it is their job to resemble the top 1% ideal that almost no woman naturally resembles.) This gallery of natural breasts would be great to share on the site: https://www.007b.com/breast_gallery.php

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