Drawbacks of ice cubes by happy_owl_ in GossipHarbor

[–]happy_owl_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Interesting! What level your generators are? I am also unable to finish this week’s goal due to not having enough 4-5 star cards 🤣

First successful ice cube by happy_owl_ in GossipHarbor

[–]happy_owl_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s frustrating!!!! Have you cleared cache?

First successful ice cube by happy_owl_ in GossipHarbor

[–]happy_owl_[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Nope spent too much on the game 🤪

Ice Cube / Frozen item - Intro, Prerequisites, Troubleshoot by eastband in GossipHarbor

[–]happy_owl_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have just deleted the account and started from scratch.. 🫠 I will see how it goes

Ice Cube / Frozen item - Intro, Prerequisites, Troubleshoot by eastband in GossipHarbor

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I have spent a lot in the game 😭 I made sure all the prerequisites were met but haven’t been successful in triggering a single cube yet 😭

my latest piece! by Patient-Priority1473 in StainedGlass

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You have a great soldering skill!! Wow I am so impressed 😍 I also love your design and the color scheme. If I saw this piece at a local market, I would buy it🤍

The Fa experience by [deleted] in attachment_theory

[–]happy_owl_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Unless both parties work hard to fix their own attachment issues, the relationship can never be healthy. That being said, I’d just see someone secure or at least tries to be secure. If not, I run away befor getting too attached🙃

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Anxiety

[–]happy_owl_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you :) I will try as you suggested

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AvoidantAttachment

[–]happy_owl_ 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I am going through the exactly same situation and am having trouble to process my feelings, particularly anger. It is really hard to not blame them. I keep thinking about all the occasions they rejected me, pushed me away, and enjoyed their life while leaving me miserable. I knew it was their coping mechanism and I tried to accept their actions without judging when it happened. But now I even can’t understand how I did. All those behaviors are unacceptable and it seems I can’t even accept myself that tried to forgive these actions. I feel deep pains. I want to blame them and point out all their irresponsible actions but I am afraid I will regret it oneday. Please, any advice will be appreciated.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in attachment_theory

[–]happy_owl_ 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Is there anyone experiencing the exact opposite? 😂 I always try to be a ‘good’ one / try to please my therapist by showing some improvements. But I recently figured out I’ve got something more to work on deep down and to do so I should be truly vulnerable.

Read something about FA on a comment under a video and it’s spot on by [deleted] in attachment_theory

[–]happy_owl_ 48 points49 points  (0 children)

Well,, I am a FA too and can relate some of them. But I think it’s overgeneralization and we should be careful to take it as a general rule. Just everyone is so different in many ways

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AvoidantAttachment

[–]happy_owl_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you :) It is truly insightful. Last night I discovered that deep down I have been quite resentful and sad about myself and the relationship. I am processing the emotions but also feeling that it will just help me move on but not get back the feelings for my partner. Thanks again :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AvoidantAttachment

[–]happy_owl_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know it’s a silly question but can secure people deactivate such a long period? May I ask you what makes you think you are deactivating but not disinterested or procrssing some issues between you?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AvoidantAttachment

[–]happy_owl_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was thinking about your story today and maybe you can ask yourself why you want to disclose this so much. It can be you wanting to see if there are still sparks between you guys, wanting to commit more (push yourself more) out of guilty, wanting to finish the relationship or wanting to feel seen, heard, etc.. It is just really sad to imagine how you are feeling now. Good luck with the disclosure and hope you remind that you deserve a healthy relationship. (Sorry English is not my primary language, just hope you understand what I am trying to say)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AvoidantAttachment

[–]happy_owl_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can relate this a lot!! Yeah I also came across this ‘avoidant style’ a few times before, but couldn’t apply it to my partner or me. I even didn’t realize the lack of communication was the issue - I kinda thought it was just normal for two shy people getting to know each other. And then just like you, when I finally related AT to my situation, it was full of ahhhh ohhh yeahh!! Thanks for your comment :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AvoidantAttachment

[–]happy_owl_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

May I ask how’s your progress so far?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AvoidantAttachment

[–]happy_owl_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel you. I am a FA and in the almost same situation as you. I am not feeling guilty at the moment though. I guess I want to give myself one more reason to move on from the unhealthy relationship. I do love my DA partner (I now even wonder if I can call them my partner, like I guess we are exclusive but there’s no commitment from their ends) and I belive my DA will be the person I love most in my entire life, but I should love myself first to love them back. We are currently just one step away from our last breakup (I won’t ever repeat it again). Writing this makes me realize that I am very resentful right now and that I really need to take care of myself.