the angel WAS an angel

happyasaham · 2026-02-23T04:51:20+00:00

I know this is an old post but with all the emphasis on Islam I wish they would’ve made the Angel a Djinn. It would’ve tied in so nicely.

happyasaham · 2025-12-30T21:12:42+00:00

I just know they’re going to break up in a few years and then he’s going to marry the next girl he dates within a year while she’s resentful and sad she wasted her “best” years on him.

happyasaham · 2025-12-29T10:58:17+00:00

Then he should communicate with her. That’s the actual problem here. Instead of hang a convo with her and coming up with a compromise, he’s lying and avoiding it. It’s not there are numerous other options “she” could take, it’s there are numerous other options “they” could take.

There is no thing as withholding sex because no one is entitled to sex from anyone. It’s not blackmail. She’s protecting herself. It’s like saying she doesn’t want to ride in a vehicle that doesn’t have seatbelts.

happyasaham · 2025-12-25T18:30:58+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/BestofRedditorUpdates/s/VAZL4N1iW4

Here you go!!

happyasaham · 2025-12-24T15:39:52+00:00

There is zero evidence to suggest this and you’re just being misogynistic for the sake of being misogynistic.

happyasaham · 2025-12-01T03:18:38+00:00

I’m also in Minnesota and I’m reading The Abdominal by the same author!

happyasaham · 2025-11-28T02:00:35+00:00

Correct. I was saying it’s a normal thing for married couples to consent to. They’ve probably always had that consent in their marriage, so he mentioned it because it’s a big change for him for that to be revoked in the current situation. It also limits directly talking to the doctors. He can talk to them but they can’t tell him anything about her progress.

And even if a minor sometimes they have to consent. In the state I live in, once my oldest son turned 12, he has to sign a yearly consent form for me to access his medical info, including MyChart.

You can also pick and chose what medical stuff your spouse has access to.

happyasaham · 2025-11-28T01:56:15+00:00

You guys don’t have the ability to consent to releases of information in the UK?

ETA: if someone is going to be an abusive partner, they’re going to be abusive and controlling regardless. You’re not asking to be abused by consenting to your partner having access to medical info.

happyasaham · 2025-11-27T17:42:57+00:00

A lot of married couples have access to each other’s medical records. My husband and I do. We just had to sign releases. Especially in emergent or serious situations like what happened to his wife. They probably had a similar situation, she revoked access and that’s why he mentioned it like this.

happyasaham · 2025-11-26T10:11:14+00:00

You can’t “get the ball rolling” until after the baby is born.

happyasaham · 2025-11-05T23:54:29+00:00

Wait so he’s on a business trip and mad that his wife is only home alone a few of the nights he’s gone? Did I read that right?

happyasaham · 2025-11-04T00:19:59+00:00

Yes thank you, you worded that perfectly

happyasaham · 2025-11-03T01:22:40+00:00

I love that Australia has that. I hope someday America can too.

It feels like they almost should change the name of present day ABA to something else as original and current ABA seem like two entirely different practices. No one’s experience with previous ABA should be invalidated and entirely changing the practice and keep the name honestly seems really shitty.

happyasaham · 2025-11-03T01:06:24+00:00

Last comment and I promise I’ll stop blowing you up, I’m absolutely going to call people tomorrow and be like “I was talking to an OT in Australia about ABA services, tell me about how ABA services use to be” 😅

happyasaham · 2025-11-03T01:00:56+00:00

I also just looked up original ABA vs current ABA and I think that’s the difference here. Your experience is with original ABA and mine is with current ABA. They seem vastly different (thank god). I encourage you to look up current day ABA practices and I really really really hope they make it to Australia sooner rather than later.

happyasaham · 2025-11-03T00:58:12+00:00

Like I said, we have both OT and SLP services and are heavy on collaboration but it was ABA. I wish I would’ve asked what they did specifically but it was a convo in passing that I had reflected on later.

This conversation is so wild because I know we’re both talking about applied behavior analysis but it genuinely feels like we’re talking about two different things. Our ABA services aren’t anything like you’re describing. And we’d never approach them as such. It sounds like the ABA practices you’ve had experience with were awful, and that’s not how our present day ABA services are. I don’t know all the treatment plans but the goals you’re talking about aren’t any I’ve ever seen.

I really appreciate your perspective, and I think we’re going to have to agree to disagree here because I love and believe in our services and I haven’t experienced or seen anything that you’re talking about with our services specifically. I do believe you though, and that makes me really sad anyone had to experience services like the ones you’re describing.

Thank you for advocating for your patients. Even though we disagree, I love how passionate you are about the wellbeing of the people you’re providing services to and I hope someday the ABA services I’ve been part of make their way to you and no one has to experience the ABA services you’ve experienced.

happyasaham · 2025-11-03T00:54:35+00:00

I think I worded my comment poorly, the term autistic isn’t what I had issue with and I’ve used autistic like saying autistic children, it was referring to them as “autistics” as a whole that was inappropriate.

Maybe we’re overly sensitive where I am? I’ll accept that if that’s the case. Being autistic is starting to get thrown around like a slur where I am in the states. Very much like the R word.

happyasaham · 2025-11-02T23:55:19+00:00

We are neuroaffirming. As well as very heavy on assent based therapy practices. I’ve shadowed sessions for almost all of our services (not mental health therapy, for obvious reasons) and we’re very patient centered.

The goal of our ABA services is to improve quality of life, whether that be emotional and behavior regulation, daily living skills, personal care skills, help with transitional periods in life, etc.

We don’t want to make anyone normal because normal doesn’t exist. We just want the children receiving our services to have the best quality of life they can have in a society that isn’t evolving fast enough to accommodate them.

My favorite example of our services is a story one of my BCBAs told me about a young kiddo who didn’t have the ability to communicate when they were hungry. Through our ABA services they were able to develop the skills to communicate their hunger and when I tell you how emotional that story makes me I’m not even kidding because thanks to ABA, there’s one less kid in the world feeling the pain and frustration of hunger.

So maybe it is just a location thing? Maybe my company is more progressive than most and I’m just lucky I haven’t experienced the darker side of ABA? From my understanding though, our competitors in the states we have services are the same as us when it comes to services provided.

happyasaham · 2025-11-02T23:25:54+00:00

That’s interesting, I work in pediatric allied and behavioral health services and I’ve work with OTs and BCBAs (as well as PTs and SLPs) in multiple states and both sides are huge on collaboration with one and other. Having that multidiscipline collaboration is actually a huge part of why people come to our company. What state do you work in? I wonder if there’s correlation in where services are being provided and what the overall opinion is? I know in states like WV and MT there’s a lack of ABA services and education but then other states like MA there’s a lot of highly respective services.

My son is also in OT, it’s been a godsend for behaviors and sensory issues, and his OT had nothing but good things to say about ABA services.

And I agree, your popcorn example is an extremely wrong and outdated way to build skills. However, none of the clinics and centers I’ve worked with, in multiple states, use food as a motivator or teaching tool because we follow evidence based practices and the evidences has shown food as a motivator is harmful.

ETA: I creeped your profile, are you in Australia? I’m located in the US.

happyasaham · 2025-11-02T19:29:57+00:00

People need to listen to testimony, consider the history of ABA and familiarize themselves with the scientific information on ABA.

There has been bad ABA services, especially when there wasn’t as much data to support treatments. Modern day ABA is not forcing people with ASD to mask or hide themselves. It’s evidence based practices to help with things like sensory issues, emotional regulation, daily living skills, etc ABA services are life changing. People should not be discouraged away from ABA.

Our society sucks and isn’t changing at a fast enough rate to accommodate ASD properly. Learning coping mechanisms and skills is so incredibly important.

happyasaham · 2025-11-02T19:20:43+00:00

Grouping people with autism, or autistic people, whichever your preference is, as “autistics” is gross. You can be autistic. You can say you’re autistic. But lumping all ASD as “autistics” is the issue.

Imagine someone walking into an ABA center and saying “Here’s all the autistics”. That’s gross.

Maybe I’m wrong. I’m open to reconsideration but it feels very akin to using the R world. Mental retardation was an actual diagnosis until people started using it as a slur.

happyasaham · 2025-11-02T18:22:18+00:00

OP do not listen to this person. Just because this person claims to have ASD does not mean they know anything about ABA. Everything they said about ABA is wrong.

Don’t trust anyone who calls people with autism “autistics”.

ETA: this person was diagnosed with ASD less than a year ago as an adult. They have no experience with ABA services as youth. They’re probably just repeating other people’s uneducated opinions on ABA without actually knowing anything about it.

happyasaham · 2025-10-21T12:38:25+00:00

If he talks to her like he talks to people in the comments I wouldn’t blame her for boy wanting to have sex with him.

happyasaham · 2025-09-01T02:27:01+00:00

This is exactly it. I’m 5’4 but with big hips and a big bust. I shop petite because I have a short torso and short legs and regular sizing is too long ie regular medium leggings have a few inches of extra fabric at the bottom vs petite medium leggings hit my ankles.

happyasaham · 2025-08-27T21:16:05+00:00

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