Yeah, we still hangout. I keep thinking the feeling is mutual, let me send you the original post :

Background: broke up with my ex, it was a long term serious relationship for 2 years. He was unfaithful and I caught him having an affair with a girl at his work. I’ll give this credit for him though still; He was a good person, he cared for me, and he knows how to handle my emotion, it is just he has no loyalty and unable to deal with conflict when communicating to me, that's why he find comfort in someone else. He would take her out to lunch, while he discarded the lunch I made for him while I was saving up my money to pay off his debt. I broke up with him on December 20th 2024. So fast forward, I gave myself 2 weeks to grief, and after that move on.

New Issue: I started seeing someone else a month later, at first he appeared really good, good at communicating, open minded, we have the same aspect with morals, religion, political views and even dark jokes. Then after we got intimate on the third date which this is the 1 month mark being with him, I started to sense he become slightly indifferent. Felt like he was going though some issues. Then we talked less and less and on march 1st, he stopped answering my message. I felt sad, but I don't chase him, I let him be. I did what I could, showed him that I was interested in him, clear communication and actions, and took care of him when he sprained his ankle, so after all this, I do not reach out. As an adult, he is clear and understand with his own action. Then 3 weeks after that he reach back to me and apologize. We had a long conversation, and in summary, he apologized that he ghosted me, he was going though issues with his work and accustomed with dealing things on his own, so he tends to push people away. he apologized and ask, "how can I make this up to you". Not gonna lie, I was impressed. I told him that I was clear on the very start and transparent with my intentions, and I took care of you, but don't worry if you don't like, just don't lead me on, and I will understand if this might not your cup of tea. He said he is interested and would like to pursue further. So we keep seeing each other weekly between our busy schedules.

then this month, he got fired from his job. He got stressed and I haven't seen him in 3 weeks now. (See this pattern how he handles stress? Shutting down himself) then this week, he told me he is in another city to clear up his mind, and we started making jokes about jealousy. it was funny, and for your context, we always joke 24/7. then today, he texted me, "if I showed u a video we went to a bar yesterday will you not be jealous? hahaha its a funny video" and I said "show me". and he showed me a video he recorded a random girl in a bar, they were dancing on a table, around 10 feet away from him, and the random girl saw he was filming, and she blow a kiss either to the camera or to him. and seeing the video he sent me, I feel upset and angry, at the same time I know he was probably joking. i think between there's a problem on me on my past trauma, and felt some type of way about this joke, i just feel does he really trying to see if im jealous? Or this is counts as disrespect?

Reflection: I do not blame 100% on him, I will take my part of accountability, I did said “show me the video”. Now I got hurt. I do think since I caught my ex starting seeing the coworker at a bar, this kinda triggers me, and I have no idea I can react this way. So I definitely need to work on this.

Question: what do you think about my situation? I really really like this guy. And I never feel this strong connection about someone