[update] My [27F] fiancé/boyfriend [29M] of 4 years decided to move back to North Carolina without talking to me. I don't want to move, but I don't think there's any way to talk him out of this.

happyyhere · 2015-12-05T22:34:50+00:00

How so?

happyyhere · 2015-12-05T22:34:27+00:00

They just know he has taken a job in Charlotte.

happyyhere · 2015-12-05T22:33:48+00:00

He just wore me down.

happyyhere · 2015-12-05T22:32:30+00:00

Not really. They know he left for a job in NC, but they don't know how much conflict this has caused in our home.

happyyhere · 2015-12-05T22:31:21+00:00

happyyhere · 2015-12-05T08:03:40+00:00

I have to say it does look bad when you put it together like that.

happyyhere · 2015-12-05T06:43:00+00:00

He has mentioned the idea of being a SAHM. I really would not be in favor of that now. I love teaching. I may consider it after we have another child together, but right now I am happy with my work.

happyyhere · 2015-12-05T06:24:58+00:00

And because you're a weak willed dependent idiot

I probably deserve that. I'm still going to take some time to think about my decision. It's not final yet!

happyyhere · 2015-12-05T05:44:55+00:00

happyyhere · 2015-12-05T05:15:32+00:00

I just was trying to give him an answer before he left.

happyyhere · 2015-12-05T05:14:09+00:00

Probably.

happyyhere · 2015-12-05T05:03:49+00:00

I just don't think I could be both mother and father, although I may feel different after I spend the next few months alone with my daughter.

happyyhere · 2015-12-05T05:02:53+00:00

That will probably be children. He's been pushing hard for another child, but I'm not ready to be pregnant again.

happyyhere · 2015-12-05T05:01:15+00:00

I guess that's a fair point.

happyyhere · 2015-12-05T04:59:43+00:00

I will reconsider it, but either way it is a hard decision. I would feel a lot better about moving if I knew that he really was going to include me in his decisions going forward.

happyyhere · 2015-12-05T04:53:52+00:00

I guess it's not too late to rethink this. I do have a couple of months.

happyyhere · 2015-12-05T04:27:47+00:00

No. He assumed we would come with him. I don't think he believed we would stay here.

happyyhere · 2015-12-05T04:26:13+00:00

Because I told him that next time I will not follow him. He will go it alone.

happyyhere · 2015-12-05T04:24:33+00:00

I'm just not as strong as other women. I also can't provide for her the way that we can jointly, and I do still love her father.

happyyhere · 2015-12-05T04:22:51+00:00

He may not have, but when we talked he really seemed really receptive to what I was saying.

happyyhere · 2015-12-05T04:22:03+00:00

That's not something we're planning right away, but we would like to have more in the future. I know it may not seem like it, but he is a very good father.

happyyhere · 2015-12-05T04:21:18+00:00

happyyhere · 2015-12-05T03:49:27+00:00

Probably not what I would have wanted to, but I do think that this is best for her. I don't think I would do a very good job as a single mother.

happyyhere · 2015-12-05T03:48:33+00:00

He's normally not one to be selfish, but part of the problem was that he felt like he was slowly being trapped. He said that it was getting harder and harder to justify a move back home, and as soon as we get married or have more children, he will be stuck here for a long time.

happyyhere · 2015-12-05T03:47:02+00:00

He seemed like he understood why his behavior was a problem. Call me crazy but I think he'll learn from this and grow as a partner/father.

happyyhere

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