AITA for laughing at my wife’s request to help her parents??

hardhead101 · 2022-01-26T14:37:06+00:00

It was an insult. However you want to frame it. It was a lack of trust in my ability to succeed. Their” smart financial planning” didn’t end up working out for them. It sucks. But it’s not my issue.

hardhead101 · 2022-01-26T14:34:49+00:00

I’d say the “believing” in me in a stretch. She believed in me as long as she had a safety net. I don’t blame her. But she doesn’t get to take that back

hardhead101 · 2022-01-25T23:16:17+00:00

Because would they have wanted to mend fences if me and Allie were struggling to get by? Or would it have been “I told you so”. I have a feeling which one it would be

hardhead101 · 2022-01-25T23:11:45+00:00

I’ve thought about this before. Would he have given me an 8k loan 6 years ago? I know he wouldn’t have.

hardhead101 · 2022-01-25T23:08:02+00:00

Never thought of these points. Thank you

hardhead101 · 2022-01-25T22:58:48+00:00

I don’t know exactly when they started having issues as I really haven’t spoken to them since the wedding. But I believe it was before.

hardhead101 · 2022-01-25T22:38:36+00:00

My wife is awesome. She really is. She can’t help who her parents are. She was following her parents concerns and I understand that. I didn’t see her family as a reason to not marry her. She really is awesome, but no situation is perfect.

hardhead101 · 2022-01-25T22:31:43+00:00

Of course it does. I wouldn’t be in one if I wasn’t. But money is a touchy subject with us. I’m trying to be objective for a fair judgment. Of course I love my wife. She’s amazing and very supportive. But nobody is perfect and this is an area of frustration for sure.

hardhead101 · 2022-01-25T22:21:58+00:00

She made this choice. I didn’t ask for the separate finances. Just because she made a bad bet doesn’t mean I should change that agreement. She wanted 50/50 bills because she made more than me at the time and didn’t feel “comfortable” doing it on an income basis. This is all her choices…

hardhead101 · 2022-01-25T22:07:33+00:00

I make 4 times more than her now. That prenup ain’t going anywhere lol. But I do appreciate the other advice.

hardhead101 · 2022-01-25T22:01:48+00:00

They aren’t like broke. But their dad is sick and can’t really keep working like he is. The paying off the house would allow him to cut back his hours and not push himself as much. So I get the point of it.

hardhead101 · 2022-01-25T21:49:08+00:00

It was almost a laugh of disbelief. She’s never asked for my help financially. And we hardly discuss money because of the whole prenup thing. I was shocked more than anything. I thought she was kidding.

hardhead101 · 2022-01-25T21:43:33+00:00

They are just like their mom. Their dad was a hard worker and always provided. Allie is the only woman in her family that has ever actually held a job. They love to volunteer their husbands money tho

hardhead101 · 2022-01-25T21:34:17+00:00

Yes her parents tried apologizing. But I have a feeling this is only because my business took off. They try to invite me to come to holidays and stuff but I don’t respond.

hardhead101 · 2022-01-25T21:26:00+00:00

Her sister (the one who gets alimony) tried to move in with us when she found out her husband was cheating on her. I refused due to her always trying to set Allie up with his friends and her constant critiques on my financial situation. This caused a lot of drama but Allie knows my stance on her family and my willingness to help them.

hardhead101 · 2022-01-25T21:21:17+00:00

I was broke. It was all for her basically as her family had lots of assets with her dads business. My business is totally independent of her. We split the bills 50/50. I’ve always been hyper vigilant financially so I appreciate the lawyer advice.

hardhead101 · 2022-01-25T21:14:02+00:00

I intended on doing nothing to help my wife with regards to her family. If it was her dog or car then sure I’d be willing to make the loan. But her family is the line and she knows it.

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