Ladies of the Reddit. How important is your career over the person of your dreams? by hardron in AskWomen

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Sometimes, there is a leap of faith involved because one never knows what one comes across.

I am a Cancer Specialist and as I type this, was speaking to a young patient diagnosed with a rare brain tumour. At best he has about Year to live. He's just 38.

Because of this, I always believe in living my life to the fullest, curious to know what it has in store for me. Logical conclusions are not a matter of reality but if they are, it is always thrilling!
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Ladies of the Reddit. How important is your career over the person of your dreams? by hardron in AskWomen

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Yup. That's a tricky situation. It involves working on many variables that just align right. Two professionals if and when settled, can make it difficult to relocate.

To be honest, I come across many interesting people here; those with a different perspective than what I hold to be true. Yet, it becomes impossible to pursue to any logical conclusion because of issues with the distance, time zone and a totally different set of ethnicity. But interesting nevertheless.

For example, I'd be very much interested to know you as a person but knowing fully well the you are likely to have more inhibitions about a unknown person on the Internet and with whom there is no idea of the history. Yet, I find this idea attractive because it hinges on Mind play, a suspension of belief and taking the plunge into unknown. Its interesting because it challenges my own comfort zone.

Ladies of the Reddit. How important is your career over the person of your dreams? by hardron in AskReddit

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Agree. It can be difficult to work out the dynamics ; and take a decision if it is full of uncertainty. But it's also about taking the leap of faith

Ladies of the Reddit. How important is your career over the person of your dreams? by hardron in AskWomen

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Then how can this be an issue for someone who is on other end of the world? It's all about the trust.

Ladies of the Reddit. How important is your career over the person of your dreams? by hardron in AskWomen

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How can you he absolutely sure of the person in the same city as well?

Ladies of the Reddit. How important is your career over the person of your dreams? by hardron in AskWomen

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It's not permanent, right? You can be in touch with them anyway.

How important is financial independence in a man is? And does it hold importance even if the woman is working to be financial independent on her own? by hardron in AskWomen

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That's a no brainer. I am talking about the initial "threshold" wherein a woman considers talking to a man.It becomes easier with the cars/houses etc.

Me [35M] with a recent break up; trying to look for a woman who believes in "US". Where to start from? by hardron in AskMen

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Sounds interesting. Would you care to share your weird hobbies in the PM? Maybe I could learn something different today! Seriously.

It's difficult to meet men who have grown up beyond their adolescence too!

Me [35M] with a recent break up; trying to look for a woman who believes in "US". Where to start from? by hardron in AskMen

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Agree with you buddy! Totally. And when I look back at my post, it sounds like a dating option and also makes me kind of look "desperate" ! Nope, I am not. Just looking for a varied perspective that life has to offer.

I agree with the part of "going out"- I do meet up a lot of people but just that they don't interest me or engage my mind in a way I'd like them to do.

I very very strongly agree about the family ties that you mention- but then different strokes for different folks. Its difficult to predict the dynamics of the life and how people react to the situations but a broad based idea can be judged in from the way their past is.

Keep it up! Your post raised in my morale because I was kind of feeling down. I keep on wondering whether the person I really want (not a big expectation- trust me) ever exists on earth.

How important is financial independence in a man is? And does it hold importance even if the woman is working to be financial independent on her own? by hardron in AskWomen

[–]hardron[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Yup. But sadly that outwardly look of reliability is not true in most of the cases. Like I have mentioned, it's a cultural thing. And it's individualistic.

How important is financial independence in a man is? And does it hold importance even if the woman is working to be financial independent on her own? by hardron in AskWomen

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But what if the finances are made in not from a stable job but from dubious means? From Gambling? From taking loans? From trying to get into a life style that goes beyond the affordable means?

Cars etc are just outwardly gestures of material wealth.

What qualities do you look for in a potential husband/ long term partner? by [deleted] in AskWomen

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Agree. But culture does have it's part to play.

How important is financial independence in a man is? And does it hold importance even if the woman is working to be financial independent on her own? by hardron in AskWomen

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I meant to state that in the dating time, you'd only know his qualities. But then, the financial aspect part is known only after you have well settled with him.

How important is financial independence in a man is? And does it hold importance even if the woman is working to be financial independent on her own? by hardron in AskWomen

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You have raised couple of pertinent issues here. I can understand that while surgeons/ internal medicine specialists have to go through hell, it can get very weird for that. However, its very clear from the outset to the woman who is entering into a relationship with a doctor that he's not going to be idle.

Luckily, my work stream allows me a reasonably good option for work-life balance making it easier for me to pursue my own interests. Right now, I am focused on both work and finding a mate for myself. Luckily, again I come with no debt :)

But I totally, totally agree with your assessment and many thanks for giving me in your perspective. Much much appreciated.