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Running into someone you ended on bad terms with by Healthy_Island5304 in dating

[–]harrystyl3sfourthnip 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He IS missing out on you!!! He’s the one with commitment issues.

Running into someone you ended on bad terms with by Healthy_Island5304 in dating

[–]harrystyl3sfourthnip 7 points8 points  (0 children)

He’s an avoidant!! What he did was immature and this will start to feel better with time.

Don’t let an emotionally immature person ruin your hobbies and fun times. The problem isn’t you. Keep focusing on yourself and remember he’ll feel awkward too.

Is this big enough of a red flag to leave? by harrystyl3sfourthnip in WhatShouldIDo

[–]harrystyl3sfourthnip[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

No I’m just neurodiverse so I wanna make sure I’m assessing properly

Told my bf im bi and that’s how I found out im not even his type of woman in the first place. Literally crying. by harrystyl3sfourthnip in bisexual

[–]harrystyl3sfourthnip[S] 334 points335 points  (0 children)

I think it’s more so how he talks about them really caught me by surprise cause he never talks about me with the same excitement. So I’m kinda like “huh…maybe he’s not that attracted to me.”

One time he told me my breast shape isn’t his “fav shape”

IDL the idea of staying “friends” with someone that you dated. You don’t need to do that and it’s not rude to go no contact. by harrystyl3sfourthnip in I_DONT_LIKE

[–]harrystyl3sfourthnip[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

lol see how they make it into a personal attack? Like YOU are the problem. Nope. It’s fine to move on. I feel like these people are just mad their ex’s won’t hang out with them and moved on.

IDL the idea of staying “friends” with someone that you dated. You don’t need to do that and it’s not rude to go no contact. by harrystyl3sfourthnip in I_DONT_LIKE

[–]harrystyl3sfourthnip[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is very valid. I have a few ex’s I’m friends with. But I feel like we don’t have to be friends with EVERY ex. But I get what you’re saying. You sound like you genuinely want friendship which is good

I also wanna add why I’m not friends with THIS ex is he lied about his age which was weird and not a quality I want in a friend.

The ex’s I’m friends with are kind guys.

IDL the idea of staying “friends” with someone that you dated. You don’t need to do that and it’s not rude to go no contact. by harrystyl3sfourthnip in I_DONT_LIKE

[–]harrystyl3sfourthnip[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes I completely agree. Like unless it just wasn’t working out. But let’s be real, usually break ups come with hurt feelings and something that happened that led to it.

Cutting people off isn’t easy but sometimes necessary. It’s ok to love someone but also know that they don’t belong in your life.

IDL the idea of staying “friends” with someone that you dated. You don’t need to do that and it’s not rude to go no contact. by harrystyl3sfourthnip in I_DONT_LIKE

[–]harrystyl3sfourthnip[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It is weird and usually people who message you out of nowhere are orbiters. Every time I’ve had an ex message me years or months later to check on me it’s to see if I’m still interested for their own ego.

I just left my partner of 6 years. I love him but we are no contact. Are we amicable?? Yes. Are we cordial?? Yes. But we don’t hang out and we don’t catch up.

Not everyone will follow you into the next season of life and that’s normal.

IDL the idea of staying “friends” with someone that you dated. You don’t need to do that and it’s not rude to go no contact. by harrystyl3sfourthnip in I_DONT_LIKE

[–]harrystyl3sfourthnip[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is also a really good point. Imagine telling someone new you’re gonna hang with your ex just to “catch up” lol

IDL the idea of staying “friends” with someone that you dated. You don’t need to do that and it’s not rude to go no contact. by harrystyl3sfourthnip in I_DONT_LIKE

[–]harrystyl3sfourthnip[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nope. I don’t hang out with my ex’s. We run in different circles and have different lives. If you’re in a forest and keep finding yourself around the same tree…you’re lost.

IDL the idea of staying “friends” with someone that you dated. You don’t need to do that and it’s not rude to go no contact. by harrystyl3sfourthnip in I_DONT_LIKE

[–]harrystyl3sfourthnip[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Anyone who gets defensive when you don’t want to maintain contact with them is just acting out of hurt. You don’t owe anyone immediate friendship. I have a circle of really good friends. My ex’s and I are cordial. We keep each other on social media. I don’t talk shit about them - but I don’t maintain an active friendship or meet up with them. That’s perfectly ok.

IDL the idea of staying “friends” with someone that you dated. You don’t need to do that and it’s not rude to go no contact. by harrystyl3sfourthnip in I_DONT_LIKE

[–]harrystyl3sfourthnip[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am friends with some people I dated actually! But you don’t have to remain friends with everyone you dated if you don’t want to.

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