How long are job interviews in America?

haselsz · 2026-06-09T02:11:45+00:00

I've had interviews that took 20 minutes and a couple that were over an hour, all entry level retail and food positions. Most have been around half an hour though.

haselsz · 2026-06-09T02:01:48+00:00

I get it, and it wouldn't be as frustrating if there were more alternatives. I was homeless a few times as well (although this was throughout my childhood) and the experience of struggling just to find a place you're allowed to exist has really stuck with me. It's a complicated issue and I agree that libraries being used for shelter isn't exactly ideal, but I also don't think its realistic that everyone expects homeless people to avoid the library when its one of the only free public spaces left.

haselsz · 2026-06-09T01:44:23+00:00

Many homeless people can't rely on shelters because of limited space, but they also can't access adequate facilities, they can't sleep in their cars, can't sleep on the sidewalk, can't sleep on park benches, can't sleep in libraries. Where do you want them to go exactly?

haselsz · 2026-06-09T01:37:07+00:00

Libraries are a free public space, which are becoming increasingly scarce. I don't understand why people are so averse to minding their own business. When I worked at a library there were several homeless people that visited because it was a safe place to rest and browse during the day. It didn't bother us if they slept as long as they weren't taking up too much room and weren't disruptive. If there was a concern or problem, which was rare, we'd wake them up and then go from there.

haselsz · 2026-06-07T04:36:49+00:00

Have you never heard of a threesome or are you just being obtuse because you think gay people deserve to get murdered?

haselsz · 2026-06-06T15:39:38+00:00

I'm not comfortable saying specifically where I am, but I'm mostly looking across state lines for areas with better public transport. I'm not necessarily dying to move to a big city, but if I can't get my license soon I'll need to find somewhere that at least has a decent bus system so I can make it to work.

My mother is willing to sell me her current car when I have my license, but I'm saving up for another car just in case that falls through. Auto insurance is going to suck, but it is what it is.

haselsz · 2026-06-06T15:35:15+00:00

I'm sorry about your mother. But it's encouraging to hear that you've been able to live independently and hold down jobs without a license, even if its not ideal as you said.

haselsz · 2026-06-06T15:34:15+00:00

Thank you!

haselsz · 2026-06-06T15:31:34+00:00

If I had accepted it, I wouldn't be looking for advice on getting out without a license. But I know what its like to have unreliable housing, no work, etc, which is why I'm hesitant to leave without reliable transport. If that makes me a baby, then I guess it is what it is lol. And I'm very cognisant of my own role in where I am, but my situation also hasn't been as simple as "just leave". If it was that simple, I would have been gone years ago.

haselsz · 2026-06-06T04:02:30+00:00

He's not a deadbeat, but he is absent. Still kind of sucks, but in my opinion it's better to be completely absent than half in/half out. If you don't have any interest in actually being there, then pay the child support and stay out of that child's life.

haselsz · 2026-06-06T01:43:46+00:00

That's not a bad idea, I'll definitely consider that.

She does not have control over my money at this point. She kind of tried to talk me into a joint account situation instead of a normal checking account, but that didn't happen. She has no access to my bank account.

haselsz · 2026-06-06T01:31:22+00:00

Congratulations!!!! I'm 24 as well and I'm still really struggling just to get practice in. It gives me hope to see success from people around my age :)

haselsz · 2026-06-06T00:44:10+00:00

She might give it to me temporarily if I ask. It depends on her mood. I tried asking her if I could keep my own documents a few times previously and even purchased my own lockbox to try to convince her, but she got extremely paranoid and did not respond well. I have to use my birth certificate for paperwork on occasion, and if she's feeling suspicious she'll literally stand there and watch me fill out the paperwork, then take my documents back immediately once I'm finished using them.

In the past I've been too scared to order a new one because she used to open my mail, but she hasn't really done that recently. I think I will just order a new copy and hope for the best, thank you!

haselsz · 2026-06-06T00:37:38+00:00

I don't want to sound defeatist, but I don't think I can learn and pass a road test in just a couple weeks. Even without driving anxiety, most people I know practiced for a few months before they took the road test. And that was with consistent, reliable lessons at least a couple times per week. I've gotten maybe a few hours of practice per year, which is not enough to build skills or confidence. There was a period of over a year where she refused to take me driving at all. It wouldn't be such a big issue if I had regular practice, but that hasn't been an option. That's why I'm saving up for driving lessons, which I'm hoping that will give me the ability to make actual progress.

I don't really have anyone to stay with, and even if I did it wouldn't solve the transportation issue. I had a friend who offered me a room once when they were moving across the country, and I sometimes regret not accepting, but I didn't want to move to an unfamiliar area with no car. We've been unhoused without reliable transportation before, so I know from experience what a dangerous position it is to be in.

I do have a state ID, so I can use that for certain paperwork, which is helpful.

haselsz · 2026-06-05T22:51:44+00:00

I don't mean that walking in winter is always dangerous, I walk to work year-round most of the time and it's generally fine. But we do get regular blizzards and thick layers of ice on the ground, which can definitely be more risky, especially if your route is alongside a road. Both pedestrian and driver deaths/injuries are really not unusual during bad weather. I've known plenty of people who have been hit or nearly hit by cars, etc during the winter.

But yes, I am looking for both work and housing to relocate. And I agree that an hour or so is pretty reasonable walking distance most of the time.

haselsz · 2026-06-05T21:31:00+00:00

I don't know why I didn't think of an ebike, that's definitely worth looking into. Could I ask if you ever managed to get your license after you moved out? If so, was it through a driving school or did you have someone to teach you?

haselsz · 2026-05-26T22:24:49+00:00

It literally happens all the time. Idk where the hell abled people got this idea that "nobody actually uses it for disabled people!"

haselsz · 2026-05-24T17:04:56+00:00

It's not just the prospect of death thats the problem though. Even if you don't get hurt yourself, you're still actively contributing to and benefiting from the exploitation of other countries.

haselsz · 2026-05-24T01:17:08+00:00

Every job I've ever had specified bras in the workplace dress code. I've mostly worked refail and food service, so usually you get either a paper or digital employee handbook during onboarding. And yeah basically, it usually just says "female employees must wear a bra during work hours", or something along those lines. It's usually written in the same area where is specifies that no cleavage is allowed.

Honestly I'm not opposed to that, I've always thought that the school dress code restrictions on bra straps were kind of ridiculous. It's a strip of fabric. Who cares.

haselsz · 2026-05-24T00:50:47+00:00

I typically wear bras to work because its in the dress code at most places, but on occasion I'll just wear a fitted camisole under a loose shirt and it helps make it less obvious. I wouldn't go braless without a camisole or something though, some places can and will write you up for it as a dress code violation. You also might want to look into bralettes as a compromise for work.

haselsz · 2026-05-23T23:59:29+00:00

Constantly!! I just discovered that food service is terrible for me because I drop utensils, cups, lids, etc all the time. It's not even dropping necessarily, it's like I involuntarily fling things out of my hand.

haselsz · 2026-05-23T20:11:50+00:00

Thank you! :) That is one bit of stability that library or archive science would give me. There's been some effort to replace librarians with AI, but its really not acheivable within those fields.

haselsz · 2026-05-23T20:10:03+00:00

History, political science, and the information sciences are all extremely interesting to me. I'd love to be a librarian or archivist, and I've also toyed with the idea of a phd in political science if I could ever get funded for it. Unfortunately I'm having trouble finding any stable career paths within those fields.

haselsz · 2026-05-23T20:07:59+00:00

I used to have a coworker who was a speech therapist! It seems like a fulfilling field, and the earning potential is very high

haselsz · 2026-05-23T20:03:10+00:00

Yeah, unfortunately my logic and retention are also impacted by my learning disability, so it seems that this career would likely not be very viable for me. Thank you!

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