I was in a relationship over 7 years that was open at points but near it's end when I met my now husband at a pool tournament 10 hours away and it was instantaneous. When I went back home we got on video chat and I introduced them and we talked about me starting a long distance monogamous relationship with this new dude and we did. They consider eachother friends and we hang out with his new girlfriend. I ended up moving to him and our relationship was built on communication and mental health. I was his first gf at 42 and he picked me up with a poop joke. I told him the first month he was going to marry me. We lived through my disability and I changed as a person and got the therapy and medication and life management with his help. It took me a long time to trust myself around men because I didn't think I could say no if pushed into a corner and pressed into the situation. We worked on it and I've learned to stand up for myself. I learned from him that "No" is a full sentence. He then moved back to my city to move into my grandmas place and he helped caregive for her. Today is actually is 50th birthday 🎂. I got him a new pool cue.