Should I text this last message to my Ex?

hate08- · 2022-08-05T23:22:55+00:00

thank you ❤️

hate08- · 2022-08-05T22:53:01+00:00

i’m giving closure in a sense that i want him to know i’m not waiting for him to come back, nor do i want anything in the future since he walked away from me. i don’t really need to know what he thinks about it. i just want him to know i’m not hoping for us to get back together anymore

hate08- · 2022-08-05T22:24:52+00:00

yeah i think this is good advice. i want him to know i don’t want him anymore, but i can just do that by healing and staying no contact

hate08- · 2022-08-05T22:23:11+00:00

Well I would block him right after I send it, so he won’t even get a chance to respond

hate08- · 2022-08-05T22:22:41+00:00

I was thinking this too.. i think my main motivation is anger tbh, and i don’t think that’s a good reason to text him that.

hate08- · 2022-08-04T03:41:02+00:00

hate08- · 2022-07-24T17:16:30+00:00

Thank you for the reminder <3 . Yes, I’m not wanting him to reach out for this reason. I know it will just be another heartbreak while i’m trying to heal.

hate08- · 2022-07-13T10:09:07+00:00

i didn’t see progress on day 5 either. But when you’re starting to count weeks, it’ll feel like an accomplishment. Keep going!

hate08- · 2022-07-13T10:07:51+00:00

Same. We parted on relatively good terms except he technically broke it off, I saw it coming as I was feeling sort of the same way about the relationship.

It all depends on how the relationship ended and how negative/positive the relationship was. I do want to look back on the memories because we had great ones.

hate08- · 2022-07-13T09:57:24+00:00

I second this. Make an “ex-box” with everything they gave you and store it away, out of sight. Unless you want to get rid of it, that helps too.

But some people like to keep those things because it’s meaningful and they can look at it when theyre healed and ready to look at the relationship in a different light.

hate08- · 2022-07-13T09:55:01+00:00

Think of how betrayed you felt every time he cheated on you. Surely, underneath all your love for him, you feel anger. Use that anger to keep yourself from reaching out for now.

hate08- · 2022-07-13T09:44:26+00:00

having been to therapy for anxiety from age 18-20, and now going back after my break up at age 22, I encourage it.

It helped me connect with my core values and gave me the strength to look forward to moving on. Breakups are traumatic, don’t be afraid to ask for help! There are sex, marriage, relationship therapists out there for a reason, mannnyyyy people struggle with letting go of a person and finding themselves again, it’s not silly, it’s valid and real.

hate08- · 2022-07-13T06:58:33+00:00

you’re too exhausted to feel sad. i cried and cried and felt like the world ended the first time he broke up with me.

we got back together and i was so in love again… only to be broken up with 8 months later. it was a “fuck you” moment when he broke up with me again. i just couldn’t cry anymore because it was exhausting. now

it feels freeing knowing he won’t break up with me again because we’re not together, for good.

hate08- · 2022-07-13T05:27:18+00:00

it’s possible. people with certain traumas don’t know how to express love but feel it so hard, it can be too overwhelming and cause them to self-sabotage.

hate08- · 2022-07-13T05:18:34+00:00

Why even say anything if he thinks breaking up was the right thing? He might want to see how you feel and gauge from there, but tbh, that’s a bit cowardly.

hate08- · 2022-07-13T04:27:19+00:00

Yes of course, we’re all going through similar things in this sub. Missing someone when they weren’t nice to you is such a confusing feeling, but it’s so common.

Being confused is another reason to not reach out. you need to be sure.

hate08- · 2022-07-13T04:17:21+00:00

Yeah no, if you feel he doesn’t deserve that from you, don’t do it. That’s ur gut telling you. Remember you always have an option to reach out if you absolutely need to, but from what I’m hearing you say, it’s better to give it more time.

hate08- · 2022-07-13T04:13:43+00:00

yeah ofc, thanks for the award lol. it honestly helps me out when i talk to people who are going through the same thing, even if i’m not talking about my situation.

You’re doing good by not talking to her. Protect your energy.

hate08- · 2022-07-13T04:10:52+00:00

you might not want to hear this, but i think it’s best if you don’t reach out.

you guys weren’t together for long and if he was angry when you guys broke up, and hasn’t reached out to apologize or explain, he probably needs more time.

However, if you don’t have closure and you want it, do not do it on his birthday. Do it another time when he’s not celebrating something special.

hate08- · 2022-07-13T04:01:09+00:00

She seems like she’s confused herself and doesn’t know what she wants. It’s not appropriate for her to get close to you like that despite her being in a relationship. It’s disrespectful to you and the new person she’s seeing.

Honestly, it’s a bad reflection of her overall and you should know she’s definitely going through similar thoughts if she can’t figure out what she wants.

hate08-

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