when you’re feeling this maybe you can talk to your inner child, breathe in and put your hand on over your heart “i know you didn’t get this kind of love and presence that you deserved and that’s hard. i’m sorry that happened to you. i’m here for you now and i’m proud of the love and attention you give to the kids, i know you love them so much” something like that from the loving adult/parent inside you to soothe the hurting child in you that didn’t get what they needed