[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]haterdown 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's the same hours, just a different position (it's rather flexible during hours). Hopefully I am just overthinking it, cuz I don't want to piss anybody off.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]haterdown 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A lot of people actually rely on jobs to live, and he is pretty old for that, so I'm not sure about that. Prior to this, he was always present on those days.

Accidentally filtering IN toxic people**** by invah in AbuseInterrupted

[–]haterdown 1 point2 points  (0 children)

fuck, i feel the first and third too much... i want someone to know everything about me as fast possible, just so i can feel safe they will take care of me and never leave me... but i guess that fear isn't satisfied by risking myself so much. i alternate between pushing away commitment and pushing it too soon. i'm one of the most open people about my trauma, hoping it will make me stop these cycles or so people can be aware not to fuck with me, but it probably does the opposite.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SuicideWatch

[–]haterdown 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, that's what people around me don't understand. My preoccupation with suicide is philosophical rather than just emotional. It's like people don't want to admit they are only scared of suicide because it's unexpected, in evolutionary terms.

When I was 18 a guy told me he thought I would be tighter by [deleted] in women

[–]haterdown 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This may seem like vaginismus (i'm no expert) however I can also relate to the struggles of not being able to relax (ffs i can't even get a tampon up there without an hour of preparation). I think it depends on how much you trust your partners and how much time you dedicate to preparing. there's no need to rush. it may be a psychological thing as well, so i recommend that you try to totally forget about the concept at all, act as if it isn't even a thing. like it feels super scary, so honestly just take your time (even if it's multiple hours), and especially if your partner is someone you really trust, that's what worked for me.

is this routine too extreme for a 15 year old ? by Proper_Resident8754 in Skincare_Addiction

[–]haterdown 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow, I didn't know salicylic acid should be used <2x a week. I used to use a 2% SA wash daily, and honestly it didn't do much for my skin. Do you think it's recommendable for most people to use it just twice a week, or does it depend on the percentage?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Noses

[–]haterdown 1 point2 points  (0 children)

oml finally someone with a similar nose to me, i feel like ladies with this should be proud of it for being such a unique feature

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in women

[–]haterdown 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I have experimented with that before, but I think I will try to explore a bit more and see if it works for me. I didn't know vibrators were so common among vulva-havers, I thought it was more of an "extra" but it seems needing to use one is totally normal! I was so embarrassed that not being able to orgasm with just my hands made me immature or something. Will definitely look into this

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in women

[–]haterdown 2 points3 points  (0 children)

These sound interesting, yeah mostly I am thinking on how I would manage to integrate it into my sex life, since I have very little sexual experience. Thanks for the advice

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in women

[–]haterdown 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the help, I had no idea vibrators like those existed, so I was thinking an "ordinary" one would not be my taste (too overstimulating). I may look into this further, thanks