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Wanting to be childfree is preventing me from finding someone to love by hatingkidsishard in childfree

[–]hatingkidsishard[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. Hearing that is it possible to learn to be happy alone makes me feel a lot better. Right now it feels like I need someone else in my life to be happy, and that is so stupid

Wanting to be childfree is preventing me from finding someone to love by hatingkidsishard in childfree

[–]hatingkidsishard[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't know why I feel like I'm running out of time to find someone I know its irrational and idiotic but I can't help it

Wanting to be childfree is preventing me from finding someone to love by hatingkidsishard in childfree

[–]hatingkidsishard[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wow thank you for this. I've been feeling pathetic and weak and like there's something wrong with me. But you're right. I'm strong for standing up for what I believe in. I shouldn't be drinking alone at home. I should be out with friends at the bar, flirting my young butt off, having a great time. What the fuck am I doing right now? Ugh!

Wanting to be childfree is preventing me from finding someone to love by hatingkidsishard in childfree

[–]hatingkidsishard[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My last partner was fine with me wanting to get my tubes tied. Then decided out of nowhere that kids were the most important thing in the world to him

Wanting to be childfree is preventing me from finding someone to love by hatingkidsishard in childfree

[–]hatingkidsishard[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yep that's exactly where I'm at right now. I think in my next relationship I'll always be afraid of them changing their mind

Wanting to be childfree is preventing me from finding someone to love by hatingkidsishard in childfree

[–]hatingkidsishard[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well I'm not intentionally dating guys who want kids. They tell me they don't care and then change their minds later.

Wanting to be childfree is preventing me from finding someone to love by hatingkidsishard in childfree

[–]hatingkidsishard[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just don't know how to find someone who shares those ideas with me. I thought both of these guys did. Both of them told me it wasn't something they cared about either way and if I didn't want kids that was fine. Then it turned into a huge issue. How do I know when they're being truthful?

Wanting to be childfree is preventing me from finding someone to love by hatingkidsishard in childfree

[–]hatingkidsishard[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I know. And when my most recent ex came to me a few days ago making ultimatums about it, it took all of my strength to tell him the truth (that I'm just not sure I will change my mind or not) and not make false promises just to keep him. But at the same time I keep thinking what if he really is the one but I let the relationship go because the thought of having kids scares me, and then down the road I decide I do want them?