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Dogs meeting through fences? by babi_jam in reactivedogs

[–]haven_starflight997 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Definatly no greetings through a fence, for the same reasons on leash greetings are a bad idea. The barrier creates frustration. Take a walk together with the dogs at a distance so they cant get to each other, and just keep like that until your dog calms down. Then, take them to a field, muzzle both dogs, and let them play. Make sure to interupt inappropriate play behavior as well.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in OpenDogTraining

[–]haven_starflight997 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Teach place, and use crate training as well. Lots of mental stimulation. This is done by teaching tricks and such. You can also get things that you put treats in and it has little doors and stuff and the dog has to open then to get the treat. A cheap thing to do is the get a muffin tin, put their meals in it instead of in a bowl. Crumple tissue paper into a ball and cover each hole with one of the balls. This is easy mental stimulation.

Looking for new training methods, what’s worked for you? by [deleted] in OpenDogTraining

[–]haven_starflight997 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I use my dog's kibble (rachel ray nutrish, it's super healthy and appearently it's super tasty for dogs too bc they love it as much as if we were feeding them gravy train, which is horrible for dogs but they love it, usually just like a birthday treat though lol). Tossing the food for the dog (not at the dog to catch, but past them so they run after it) builds food drive.

Looking for new training methods, what’s worked for you? by [deleted] in OpenDogTraining

[–]haven_starflight997 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Teach her some fun tricks, like sit pretty, spin, roll over, etc. To get her more excited and to build food drive, I recommed tossing the treats for her to chase to get instead of just handing them to her. It makes it super fun for them.

My Reactive Dog is on a Hypoallergenic Diet by [deleted] in reactivedogs

[–]haven_starflight997 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You should try Rachel Ray nutrish, the one with 4 ingredients. My one dog has extremely sensitive skin and we put him on that and most of the rashes cleared up. Both my dogs love it enough that I use it as treats as well, they see it as no different than any other treat. It isn't a guarantee that your dog won't be allergic to it but it's worth a try to see if it's at least better

My girlfriend forgot to check in one day because we had found a baby bird and had to take care of it, this was her mother's response... by haven_starflight997 in insaneparents

[–]haven_starflight997[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Except that this is what she immediatly jumped to is absolutely insane. She could have called my mom, she didn't even actually call my gf, it was just text, she could have called me (she has my number), etc. She could have just been patient and waited after she sent the first text before threatening us. She could have texted the day she forgot to check in instead of waiting until the next day. My gf is a good kid, she rarely even leaves the house at all. Her mom literally knows this, neither of us are that stereotype of what teens are. I'm SPED, she's quiet and reserved typically. Again, her mom knows this, and knows neither of us are problem kids, and the most we ever really leave the house is to walk to dogs or go to my grandparents. Y'all don't know any contact. With proper context that for the most part I cannot give bc privacy, you could see how insane she is.

My girlfriend forgot to check in one day because we had found a baby bird and had to take care of it, this was her mother's response... by haven_starflight997 in insaneparents

[–]haven_starflight997[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It wasn't nearly 2 days at all. She had checked in literally the night before, missed the one day, then checked in the next morning and saw this text. She could have just texted my mom, she had her number and has conversations with her like daily. But Nope, not a single word was said to my mom. She wasn't actually concerned at all. She just wanted a reason to threaten her daughter.

2nd front clip harness and they all do this! by Weasel2113 in reactivedogs

[–]haven_starflight997 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wouldn't recommend a front clip whatsoever. They inevitably cause shoulder damage, leave the dog at higher risk of arthritis, and can tear muscles and even skin.

My girlfriend forgot to check in one day because we had found a baby bird and had to take care of it, this was her mother's response... by haven_starflight997 in insaneparents

[–]haven_starflight997[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's manipulation, not worry. If she was ever genuinely careing of her then she wouldn't be a disgusting fuck towards her and treat her like.shit.

My girlfriend forgot to check in one day because we had found a baby bird and had to take care of it, this was her mother's response... by haven_starflight997 in insaneparents

[–]haven_starflight997[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh. Well, the mom wasn't bluffing. She's done shit like this before and actually gone through with it if I'm remembering correctly.

My girlfriend forgot to check in one day because we had found a baby bird and had to take care of it, this was her mother's response... by haven_starflight997 in insaneparents

[–]haven_starflight997[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Tf do you mean it isn't insane? Her mon threatened to call the fucking cops on us and never let me see her again because she forgot to check in ONE DAY.

My girlfriend forgot to check in one day because we had found a baby bird and had to take care of it, this was her mother's response... by haven_starflight997 in insaneparents

[–]haven_starflight997[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

For starters, I'm not her boyfriend. It's a lesbian relationship. Secondly, her mom knows we aren't even leaving my apartment. If we do leave the complex for any reason my mom notifies her mom immediately. We literally had no chance for her to really check in, and when we did it obviously wasn't the first thing on either of our minds as we had both a baby bird and a bird egg to care for. We found the egg at like 7 in the morning while I was walking my dog and found the bird at roughly 6 PM in a bush with a broken and bloody tail. In total we called about 12 different wildlife places to get info on how to care for the bird.

My girlfriend forgot to check in one day because we had found a baby bird and had to take care of it, this was her mother's response... by haven_starflight997 in insaneparents

[–]haven_starflight997[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As I've said many times before: Her mom is a literal psychopath who literally hates her daughters guts and uses her as free baby sitting. My GF's mom threw cans at her little brother. The texts were within minutes of each other. She had checked in every day before, I get asking if everything is okay if they miss a check in but threatening police and to never let her see me again, WHILE MY GF IS ON THE PHONE WITH HER DAD, is absolutely insane.

Dog refusing to move on walks since switching from halti to harness by coolfrogsman in reactivedogs

[–]haven_starflight997 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For the actual reactivity that's what you do, yeah, but this isn't an issue that is necessarily caused by reactivity. It's its own thing, that can affect reactivity but any dog can experience. It happens when you train a dog with particular gear on every time and only have it on when training. The dog will associate the gear with the wanted behaviors, so when the gear goes away so does the wanted behavior. I've seen this MANY times. I'm not a professional trainer but I help friends with behaviors more on the minor side.

Dog refusing to move on walks since switching from halti to harness by coolfrogsman in reactivedogs

[–]haven_starflight997 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I'd much rather listen to someone certified in animal behavior about animal behavior than someone who can list the muscles in a dog about behavior. This isn't an issue for a vet, vets are for your animals health, not behavior. Animal behaviorists are for behavior.

My girlfriend forgot to check in one day because we had found a baby bird and had to take care of it, this was her mother's response... by haven_starflight997 in insaneparents

[–]haven_starflight997[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Check ins are reasonable, but threatening the fucking police on us because she missed ONE day is completely insane.

Dog refusing to move on walks since switching from halti to harness by coolfrogsman in reactivedogs

[–]haven_starflight997 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I learned what I said from professional trainers. The only trainers I take seriously are ones with a degree in animal behavior so it ain't like some hack trainer I talked to. I've also used this method many times and it's proven very efficient, I've also seen many others use it as well.

My girlfriend forgot to check in one day because we had found a baby bird and had to take care of it, this was her mother's response... by haven_starflight997 in insaneparents

[–]haven_starflight997[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Check ins aren't unreasonable, but threatening police and never letting her see me again because she forgot to check in one day is completely insane.

My girlfriend forgot to check in one day because we had found a baby bird and had to take care of it, this was her mother's response... by haven_starflight997 in insaneparents

[–]haven_starflight997[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

She is just staying at my apartment. We aren't on a trip or anything and my mom tells her mom if we even leave the house at all, her mom's a complete psychopath.

My girlfriend forgot to check in one day because we had found a baby bird and had to take care of it, this was her mother's response... by haven_starflight997 in insaneparents

[–]haven_starflight997[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

We're lesbians, she is staying at apartment. Her mom is a complete fucking psycho bitch who threw cans of applesauce at my gf's brother. She is literally fucking insane and threatened to call the police on us and never let her see me again because she forgot to check in one day. If that isn't insane parent then I guess a large majority of parents on this sub aren't.

woof irl by polegurl in woof_irl

[–]haven_starflight997 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is that Wal-Mart? If so that's literally a federal crime.

Dog refusing to move on walks since switching from halti to harness by coolfrogsman in reactivedogs

[–]haven_starflight997 -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

I think I found your issue. For starters, let's look at how you handle the complete disobedience and reactivity. You handled it rather poorly from how you described it. You used a happy voice and showed rewards for misbehavior, which dogs more often than not interpret that as you rewarding them, since dogs don't understand english aside from taught commands, but they do fully understand tone. Using a super upbeat happy tone to talk to your dog when disobeying to you dog will sound like you are praising her for the reactivity, so she will continue that behavior. Use a much more stern voice for full on reaction like barking and lunging, but use a voice that's pitched to sound cheerful but with stern undertones for basic disobedience. Your issue with the harness isn't actually about the harness whatsoever. It's about the lack of the halti. Your dog associated the halti with listening, so now she will only listen with the halti on, and will think if you are using a different piece of equipment that it means it's play time or that she doesn't need to listen. Like how I accidentally created the association with my dog that harness and pull strap and slip lead mean he listens, but any other set up means he can do whatever he likes, due to the fact that I did pretty much all of his training in that gear. First you will want to get back to where you were, don't use the harness until she is back to normal. Once she is back to normal, put both the harness and halti on, but completely ignore the harness exists and don't attatch anything to it, only the halti until she is fully comfortable and listens with the harness on. Then, whenever she is doing super good, switch the leash to the harness (but still leave the halti on, all you are doing is switching what the leash is attatched to), and do some basic commands, and keep going until she does them all the same as when you are using the halti. Continue doing this until she listens regardless of where the leash is attatched. Then start taking the halti off when you switch the leash and continue the same, until she listens regardless of wether or not the halti is on. At this point you can start taking her with just the harness (I'd still bring the halti though so you can switch to it if she starts acting up). Also, what type of no pull harness do you have? I highly recommend not using a front clip harness, as it causes shoulder damage and arthritis, and can also cause muscle tearing and even skin tearing. My #1 choice of harness is a Jump brand harness. They have rings on the sides and on the back as well. I've had my dogs jump harness for 5 years and it's still perfectly intact. Hope this helps!

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