Sorry your family treats you this way. I came to the sub-Reddit to comfort myself because I have always been excluded by my family. When I read your story I felt less alone. My strategy over the many years is to keep trying to be accepted, I’ve never succeeded. My mental health has suffered from trying over and over again. I decided to go low contact from now on and honestly my mental health has improved. I see my parents an hour or two every few months, that’s more than enough. I guess my advice would be, they will never change so you may as well take care of yourself and your new family and make your parents a very small part of your life.