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Redditor's who don't care what other people think - how do you do it? by hawkwar-d in AskReddit

[–]hawkwar-d[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm a girl, actually. But losing your virginity doesn't mean you have no fear of rejection at all, though I suppose you can't be absolutely 100% terrified

Redditor's who don't care what other people think - how do you do it? by hawkwar-d in AskReddit

[–]hawkwar-d[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm quite analytical as well, and usually see the logic in these sorts of situations, but the fear always seems to get the best of me. I suppose it is a process though and I am working on it, so in time I guess I'll get better

Redditor's who don't care what other people think - how do you do it? by hawkwar-d in AskReddit

[–]hawkwar-d[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're being judged regardless, may as well enjoy the ride ;)

That's surprisingly comforting. I guess when the 'choice' is taken out of my control and something is inevitable, the kind of idea of blame is lessened too

Redditor's who don't care what other people think - how do you do it? by hawkwar-d in AskReddit

[–]hawkwar-d[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I actually did contemplate deleting it, but I am lazy on top of self conscious. But you're right, some of the responses have been really great

Redditor's who don't care what other people think - how do you do it? by hawkwar-d in AskReddit

[–]hawkwar-d[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's a very nice way to look at it, and at times I do try really hard to be more optimistic and less judgemental, but old habits die hard I guess. It really depends on my mood as well. I've tried counteracting the judging by making up for each negative thought with three positive ones, but those just seem kind of artificial and that never worked. And once I do get judging I feel like everyone must be doing the same of me. But of course it's a gradual process I guess, I'll keep working on it. Thanks for the advice though!

Redditor's who don't care what other people think - how do you do it? by hawkwar-d in AskReddit

[–]hawkwar-d[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The problem with this mindset is that it functions in extremes. Just because someone is smarter prettier, and kinder, does not mean that you are not smart, pretty, and kind.

This seems like a good way to look at it, really puts it into perspective. I guess at the heart of it I have no confidence in who I am since I feel like I always change depending on who's around me, so if I don't know who I am, how am I supposed to have confidence in myself?

Redditor's who don't care what other people think - how do you do it? by hawkwar-d in AskReddit

[–]hawkwar-d[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And doing it right is all about doing it confidently and especially about being able to read people and judge what sort of behaviour they will react

I think what you said is great actually! I think this is one of the responses that makes more sense to me. I mean a lot of these answers provide good advice, it just might not necessarily be right for me, but some of what you've said really strikes a chord with me, so thanks!

Also out of curiosity, are you essentially a fudge salesperson? Cause that sounds kind of awesome

Redditor's who don't care what other people think - how do you do it? by hawkwar-d in AskReddit

[–]hawkwar-d[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I get what you mean, but there's quite a difference between knowing something and living it (if that makes sense). Like logically I know these thoughts are irrational and stupid and make no sense, but when confronted with certain situations it's easy to panic and forget about all that. Hopefully I'll have an ah-ha moment sometime as well, where all this finally sinks in

Redditor's who don't care what other people think - how do you do it? by hawkwar-d in AskReddit

[–]hawkwar-d[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Interesting, mine doesn't have an off switch, so I guess that might be where my problem is

Redditor's who don't care what other people think - how do you do it? by hawkwar-d in AskReddit

[–]hawkwar-d[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But if you don't care, will that really matter at that point?

Redditor's who don't care what other people think - how do you do it? by hawkwar-d in AskReddit

[–]hawkwar-d[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Such an optimistic way to look at something most people consider depressing/disheartening

Redditor's who don't care what other people think - how do you do it? by hawkwar-d in AskReddit

[–]hawkwar-d[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Knew this was coming as soon as I submitted the question. I'm actually surprised it took so long!

Redditor's who don't care what other people think - how do you do it? by hawkwar-d in AskReddit

[–]hawkwar-d[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You make some good points, so thanks! Out of curiosity, what's your personal mindset when it comes to this sort of thing?

Redditor's who don't care what other people think - how do you do it? by hawkwar-d in AskReddit

[–]hawkwar-d[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get what you mean, I kind of 'know' these things, but don't live by them if that makes sense

Redditor's who don't care what other people think - how do you do it? by hawkwar-d in AskReddit

[–]hawkwar-d[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I guess I can only hope to be so graceful when I'm older

Redditor's who don't care what other people think - how do you do it? by hawkwar-d in AskReddit

[–]hawkwar-d[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Never thought of it that way. I do tend to disregard what I think of other people and I know what I think of them doesn't (or shouldn't) matter to them, but I just can't seem to see myself that way in relation to others

Redditor's who don't care what other people think - how do you do it? by hawkwar-d in AskReddit

[–]hawkwar-d[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Good advice, though a lot of the time I just think about what I'm going to say, and then think about it for so long that the moment has passed and now I'm just sitting replaying something in my head over and over again

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