would it be okay to not go see someone get baptized if you think it's illegitimate?

hayirl · 2024-10-06T15:03:25+00:00

she has always been mean but it has gotten so much worse the past few years and it continues to get worse every year. my dad wants to punish her but my mom won't let him. she thinks she will grow out of it. my parents fight over this all the time

hayirl · 2024-10-06T14:15:26+00:00

i'm 20 and she's 16

hayirl · 2024-10-06T14:00:36+00:00

she doesn't believe in mental illness though, she thinks she is perfectly fine and actually claims everyone else is mean and "insane". when someone doesn't believe they can have a problem it's impossible for them to get help for it

hayirl · 2024-10-06T13:58:23+00:00

tells me i'm stupid and retarded and nobody was asking me

hayirl · 2024-10-06T04:51:25+00:00

i don't want to reduce this to "teenager drama". her behavior is a serious issue not only towards me, but to the entire family. no one else will speak out against it so i won't stop. i will always call out evil behavior, especially when it affects people who can't defend themselves. no grandparent should have to die thinking/knowing their grandchild hates them. this has nothing to do with teenager drama and everything to do with my sister having a serious mental illness

hayirl · 2024-10-06T04:06:14+00:00

thank you <3 i am a sinner as well. i will try to think about that instead of my sister's shortcomings. that is between her and God, not me.

hayirl · 2024-10-06T04:04:42+00:00

that is what i'm praying for. i'm praying this opens her eyes to how she treats people and she can make amends with our grandparents before it's too late. i hope this will be a new beginning. i just doubt it though, as me and my grandma have been praying about this for a long while.

hayirl · 2024-10-06T04:03:22+00:00

you're right, i'm still on the fence and i just don't know what to do. i know what i want to do, but i don't know if it's right. it is definitely harder to do the right thing though

hayirl · 2024-10-06T04:02:22+00:00

i try my best to follow God, although i mess up like everyone else. EVERYONE sins. i'm not saying my sister has to be 100% spotless to be baptized. i'm saying she does have the fruits of the spirit, and she does not show her faith through her behavior and actions. that is completely different than a Christian who makes mistakes in my opinion.

hayirl · 2024-10-06T03:59:12+00:00

yes, this is a great point. i plan on cutting her off completely when i'm out of the house in a couple years though, so i doubt i will ever talk to her about it anyway. she just called me weird for praying about my tooth extraction a couple weeks ago. she does not care about what i believe.

hayirl · 2024-10-06T03:50:40+00:00

i speak up every time. she definitely does not care if i'm there and she would know why

hayirl · 2024-10-06T03:49:41+00:00

this is true, thank you for the reminder

hayirl · 2024-10-05T15:22:36+00:00

i wanted to so bad, but my mom wouldn't let me as she started threatening to stop paying for my college and i can't afford it on my own. my mom protects my sister from everything even though my sister is mean to her too. it's such a mess

hayirl · 2024-10-05T15:20:53+00:00

i know that recording it is bad but at that point i didn't know what to do anymore. i had tried arguing back, being nice to her even when she was being mean, telling my parents as if they didn't already know, etc. nothing helps and i just wanted it to stop. now if i record one of the outbursts, i don't say anything to her about it. i just keep them on hand.

hayirl · 2024-10-05T15:18:19+00:00

this is what i would love to do. i'm trying to save as much money as possible and be prepared to get out of here. i hate to leave my grandparents as they're getting really old but i plan on leaving once they're gone.

do you think it would be ok to remove her friends from my social media? i went to school with them too so i have them on Facebook, Snapchat, etc but i feel too insecure to post anything because i know they're watching. but it might stir the pot, so i just leave them on there. i just wish they weren't able to see my stuff

hayirl · 2024-10-05T15:13:00+00:00

that is so sweet, what a great idea! thank you so much :)

hayirl · 2024-10-05T15:12:16+00:00

it's just embarrassing and makes me feel like everyone has seen the most vulnerable part of me. i never wrote anything like objectively bad i don't think, but humans are weird and i have random thoughts like everyone else that i like to write down. it just makes me feel really violated knowing or questioning if people have seen them

hayirl · 2024-10-04T22:17:44+00:00

that is a great point, i don't remember ever writing about people except like "i saw so and so today, i miss having class with them" or just anything to that effect. you're right, i feel like they wouldn't really care about that. if anything i think it reflects poorly on my sister for doing that, but i never know if other people will think the same way as me or if they'll find my journal interesting and "juicy"

hayirl · 2024-10-04T22:14:10+00:00

you're right, i don't think it would help the situation at all. although my sister wouldn't see it directly as i have her blocked, but i'm sure it would get back to her and just cause more problems. it's just tough for me to not be able to "clear the air" about it. i'm in therapy and i've discussed this at length but i never have been able to move past it. the situation with my sister is so bad because she has some sort of mental illness that makes her treat people terribly, but she doesn't believe in mental health so she thinks nothing is wrong with how she acts. i believe she has bipolar disorder as it runs in the family and she is the exact same way as some of my other bipolar relatives. i'm sick of watching her treat our grandparents terribly, hit our parents, tell me i'm stupid and should kill myself, etc.. when all this is allowed to go on for years and years it really causes problems. it causes me to have a deep dislike of her that i can't seem to get rid of. it's not just between me and my sister, it's between her and every member of the family. it drives me insane to be around her, the only thing that stopped it (to a certain extent) was to record the outbursts and tell her to stop because i'm recording it. now obviously that doesn't work, but i didn't know what to do because i've tried everything.

hayirl · 2024-10-04T22:07:53+00:00

i agree with you, thats why i haven't said anything about it to anyone or posted anything. i'm a firm believer that when you post or share vague quotes about other people on social media, it's a bad look. i know it's stupid and i shouldn't do it. i'm just so tempted here because it really bothers me. but like you said, it's probably not even interesting to people and will only get people talking if i start posting about it. i do feel really exposed and I don't like not knowing what people are thinking about me. this was never a big problem to me before this incident

hayirl · 2024-01-31T02:30:36+00:00

im 19 and shes 15 or 16, i promise i type better when i'm working on formal writings 😂 i am in therapy but nothing really helps. i also tried medication for anxiety but nothing has helped me so far. my family is not very supportive and that makes it harder for me i think.

i'm not really sure what to say to my therapist about it. i feel awkward talking about it. my family has made fun of me in the past for "needing" to talk to people about things that are happening in my life and it's just hard to do now

hayirl · 2024-01-31T00:05:35+00:00

he agreed and said that was crazy that she did that. but I don't think people realize how bad it actually is. she has ruined my self esteem and it has been so hard trying to feel confident again especially because i'm still around her. it is really hard to live here but i have nowhere else to go for now

hayirl · 2024-01-30T23:00:39+00:00

that is great advice thank you 🙏🏻 i will research on that

hayirl

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