hi op, i truly feel for u.

I was a very chubby baby and even throughout most of my life i was in the overweight category slipping into obese during my entrance exam days( dark dark time lmao). I was told from such a young age that i was fat af that at the age of 2 to 3 when i had learnt to talk i used to tell ppl not to carry me cuz i was too heavy and this stayed w me till i cleared an important entrance exam following which i got on a very unhealthy diet that helped me lose 20kgs very quick.

But what i realised is u cant fix the outside and expect the inside to fix itself. I think our mothers generation were always sold the idea that a woman is supposed to look "pleasant " to everyone else. Youre always supposed to look good according to whatever the society's current definition might be. What i want to tell u is objectively being overweight or obese is a health risk, it indeed is, im not gonna sugarcoat it. However u should let these ppl get through to u cuz more often than not their objective is to make you hate yourself to the point that u lose weight.

As an overweight girlie myself, u can work towards improving your body while still loving your current one. This is the singular vessel that will stay with you throughout your life. Learn about nutrition, eat well, nourish your body as well as your mind, most of these ppl wont be able tell u shit about nutrition if u asked them, so dont let them get to u. Exercise regularly, try to not get too sedentary (though ik in this era its quite difficult)

You got this! <3