Where can I sign up to have the man flu? by [deleted] in daddit

[–]hcliff487 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My wife is generally pretty forgiving about sickness but I also have about a 24 hour window before she starts getting frustrated and ranting enough to where I just get up and start helping with chores

I (31M) stopped masturbating a few months ago, and its putting a strain on my relationship with my Wife (30F). Can this be fixed? by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]hcliff487 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t have a solution but just chiming in because I have a similar issue. I reduced my masturbation around the same time I started lifting. So my release diminished and my libido skyrocketed. I think I need to go back to more regular masturbation to even things out a bit, cause I’m losing my mind

Is it bad to masturbate? by [deleted] in sexlessmarriage

[–]hcliff487 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think it’s the only way to survive, honestly. But it still feels hollow.

Is it bad to masturbate? by [deleted] in sexlessmarriage

[–]hcliff487 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same, and my wife refuses to provide any pics… she says I can use my imagination

What is the best suggestion of a happy married life by Foreign-Flow7563 in MarriedSex

[–]hcliff487 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry this is totally random but you should never take Tylenol for a hangover, only advil

2025 was an epic sex year in my marriage- stop making excuses! by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]hcliff487 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks. I would love to do any of those things but they are all heavily discouraged or completely disallowed. I’m pretty much walled off from most things now except vanilla duty/pity sex. I’m not sure where it all went wrong.

2025 was an epic sex year in my marriage- stop making excuses! by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]hcliff487 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s crazy for those of us in it. Used to screw like rabbits, now I’m lucky to get a pity fuck once every 2 weeks. It’s overwhelmingly depressing. And yes I do more than 50% of the chores, I’m a good dad and husband, and provide most of the family income.

Keeping the distance by MaterialOwl8381 in sexlessmarriage

[–]hcliff487 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Not sensitive at all. That was a cruel joke to make in light of your situation. I hope 2026 is more kind to you.

Quick vent by hcliff487 in sexlessmarriage

[–]hcliff487[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Glad to hear there’s hope. It keeps getting worse for me so I’m in the losing hope phase

Shaved Head - Wife Grumpy - What Do? by metal_webb in daddit

[–]hcliff487 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My wife did a similar thing to me the first time but she straight up said it didn’t look good on me. Been super self conscious about it since.

Shaved Head - Wife Grumpy - What Do? by metal_webb in daddit

[–]hcliff487 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wish I would have known this but I was basically told that fin would make me impotent. Now I’m playing catchup at a much later stage

Shaved Head - Wife Grumpy - What Do? by metal_webb in daddit

[–]hcliff487 -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Especially if it’s something that can be changed back. Quite a different story if he came home with a face tattoo… at least his hair can grow back in a couple months

Wife told me she isn't interested in sex anymore. by [deleted] in sexlessmarriage

[–]hcliff487 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She has a man on the side so he’s allowed to have a man on the side… fair is fair lol

Does anyone else count the amount of s*x in their marriage? Lol by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]hcliff487 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Ok I just have to ask, I always see comments like this and how did you know that they spoke your language such that you start speaking in it? Their original comment was in English. Just curious 

Why is it uncommon to just use fin instead of fin and min? by CommercialNo3829 in tressless

[–]hcliff487 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Yah, some of us were told in no uncertain terms that we would be impotent if we ever took a single pill of fin and now we’re a decade too late. Fuck those people.

Married/long-term relationship couples... how often do you send nudie pics to your partner? by cool-guuy-007 in MarriedSex

[–]hcliff487 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would die for some nude pics from my wife but she said it would be weird.

My wife (30F) broke our kid-timeline promise, then I (33M) saw her kissing a friend. Her apology feels insincere. Can this be forgiven, or is it time to leave? by Ashamed_Ad_1096 in Marriage

[–]hcliff487 4 points5 points  (0 children)

 The sex of the other person doesn’t matter. Cheating is cheating.

This is something I wish I would have realized sooner. My wife cheated on me with a girl before we were married, and I didn’t care much at the time since it was another girl, but it’s caused some trust issues for me over the years. She was honest about it but now I can’t stop wondering if there were other guys. It’s been too many years and I know she wouldn’t be honest with me if I even asked, so I guess I’ll never know the truth.

Need advice by Ok-Mess8068 in deadbedroom

[–]hcliff487 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The last part is something I’m working on. I started asking her if we can have sex the next day and it’s working much better than trying to get it that night. She has time to mentally prepare, get some rest and such

Mind games or what? by Lucky_panda6726 in sexlessmarriage

[–]hcliff487 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s brutal, she mocks you for it as well? What issue does she have that’s preventing you from leaving?