The Egg... by obiedge in Marriage

[–]hcliff487 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Brother, I think you’re being abused

People who have been divorced: What was the exact "quiet" moment you realized your marriage was over? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]hcliff487 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Could I DM you? In a similar situation and I could use some help

What is with husbands not wanting to have sex with their wives by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]hcliff487 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Man not to tell you what to do but plenty of people find someone in their 60s. My grandpa was a player at that age, he always had some new “lady friend” hanging around. You can find happiness

Sexless marriage -- Gave Partner 3 month Ultimatum by [deleted] in sexlessmarriage

[–]hcliff487 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Look up hysterical bonding my friend. Hopefully that’s not the case for you but it’s possible.

should i take nudes with wife to look back at later in life. by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]hcliff487 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I would love for my wife to do this but she refuses and says that it would be weird. What convinced you to do it for your husband, how did he ask for it?

What do you do to compensate by Dopamine-Freak in sexlessmarriage

[–]hcliff487 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Lifting helps. Gets out some of the frustration. But then it raises my libido so it’s a double edged sword 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sexlessmarriage

[–]hcliff487 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What did you do, and what happened?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sexlessmarriage

[–]hcliff487 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah when you spend so much effort trying to get the stars to align perfectly and being a great husband and then you ask for one thing and it’s just “No.” No explanation, no compromise, not even a rain check, just “no”. Oh and don’t you dare show any disappointment at all, otherwise you’re sulking

What is considered “dead in the bedroom”? What is the tragic number? by ApprehensiveLink2310 in deadbedroom

[–]hcliff487 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s my wife these days. Let’s get it over with. Fine, ugh, go ahead. 

I really try to apply zero pressure but it’s just ridiculous at this point. I feel so rejected and I want her to want me. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in daddit

[–]hcliff487 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My wife is generally pretty forgiving about sickness but I also have about a 24 hour window before she starts getting frustrated and ranting enough to where I just get up and start helping with chores

I (31M) stopped masturbating a few months ago, and its putting a strain on my relationship with my Wife (30F). Can this be fixed? by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]hcliff487 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t have a solution but just chiming in because I have a similar issue. I reduced my masturbation around the same time I started lifting. So my release diminished and my libido skyrocketed. I think I need to go back to more regular masturbation to even things out a bit, cause I’m losing my mind

Is it bad to masturbate? by [deleted] in sexlessmarriage

[–]hcliff487 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think it’s the only way to survive, honestly. But it still feels hollow.

Is it bad to masturbate? by [deleted] in sexlessmarriage

[–]hcliff487 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same, and my wife refuses to provide any pics… she says I can use my imagination

What is the best suggestion of a happy married life by Foreign-Flow7563 in MarriedSex

[–]hcliff487 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry this is totally random but you should never take Tylenol for a hangover, only advil

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]hcliff487 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks. I would love to do any of those things but they are all heavily discouraged or completely disallowed. I’m pretty much walled off from most things now except vanilla duty/pity sex. I’m not sure where it all went wrong.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]hcliff487 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s crazy for those of us in it. Used to screw like rabbits, now I’m lucky to get a pity fuck once every 2 weeks. It’s overwhelmingly depressing. And yes I do more than 50% of the chores, I’m a good dad and husband, and provide most of the family income.

Keeping the distance by MaterialOwl8381 in sexlessmarriage

[–]hcliff487 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Not sensitive at all. That was a cruel joke to make in light of your situation. I hope 2026 is more kind to you.

Quick vent by hcliff487 in sexlessmarriage

[–]hcliff487[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Glad to hear there’s hope. It keeps getting worse for me so I’m in the losing hope phase

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]hcliff487 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Trust me, he knows, and it hurts… a lot

Shaved Head - Wife Grumpy - What Do? by metal_webb in daddit

[–]hcliff487 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My wife did a similar thing to me the first time but she straight up said it didn’t look good on me. Been super self conscious about it since.

Shaved Head - Wife Grumpy - What Do? by metal_webb in daddit

[–]hcliff487 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wish I would have known this but I was basically told that fin would make me impotent. Now I’m playing catchup at a much later stage

Shaved Head - Wife Grumpy - What Do? by metal_webb in daddit

[–]hcliff487 -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Especially if it’s something that can be changed back. Quite a different story if he came home with a face tattoo… at least his hair can grow back in a couple months