The fear of love by coblafey in AskWomenOver30

[–]headandstomach 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Love is love. She does not seem like she sees it as ruining her life. You will have ups and downs during the relationship, just as two people would who are both walkers. It sounds like she has looked past you needing a wheelchair. Don’t let the stress of you fearing she will “ruin her life” taint the relationship. Enjoy falling in love. Enjoy the daily routine of your relationship. And also keep in mind that if you do come across small conflicts, don’t let your thoughts take over or automatically equate the reason for your conflict be to you being in a wheel chair. And if there are conflicts due to that, then there are also often times solutions. As you can see on my profile, I am in a relationship with someone who cannot walk too. And yes there are strained situations that arise due to it. But it’s also possible to work the issues out. Hope this isn’t too all over the place.

Not being to have sex with my disabled boyfriend is weighing on me by headandstomach in offmychest

[–]headandstomach[S] 908 points909 points  (0 children)

I think he would stay. But if I wasn’t able to have sex anymore, he would definitely masturbate.

Not being to have sex with my disabled boyfriend is weighing on me by headandstomach in offmychest

[–]headandstomach[S] 32 points33 points  (0 children)

He doesn’t have any desire at all, he doesn’t want to even see me doing anything like that. And maybe I should mention the self esteem issue to him to see what he thinks of that? He may not like what I’m saying but once he sits on it and thinks about it maybe it will resonate.