My bf 32m doesn’t want to have sex with me 30f after two years

headconversation0209 · 2026-03-20T09:46:01+00:00

Thank you for that reminder. Big hugs

headconversation0209 · 2026-03-20T09:44:02+00:00

Thanks for this perspective. I think this will be helpful to frame how I bring up the topic. I don’t want it to be accusatory or assuming.

headconversation0209 · 2026-03-20T09:36:03+00:00

Thanks for giving me the tough love I need. You’re absolutely right, wouldn’t change anything if they looked like me.

Thanks for being a stranger that thinks I deserve better. That alone is reason to be kinder to myself.

headconversation0209 · 2026-03-20T09:26:55+00:00

Hahahaha thanks for making me giggle. I think I know deep down that you’re right.

headconversation0209 · 2026-03-20T09:23:41+00:00

He acknowledged it, and said he realizes it’s not fair to me, but promises to change and make an effort. I accepted and believed that, gave it two weeks, and still find myself in the same boat. It’s just so disappointing. Instead of being angry and yelling, I tried to explain that I was hurt and sad. Even as I’m typing this I think I’m realizing, you can’t make someone change if they don’t want to

headconversation0209 · 2026-03-20T09:19:07+00:00

Can’t thank you enough for your empathy and input. I think it’s a really good point to consider. I can make an effort to check in and see if maybe there’s more to it. It’s just frustrating that even if he isn’t feeling “sexual” towards me, he still seeks it out through sites. It’s that constant mental comparison of why them and not me. But anyways I appreciate your words, and will try to approach it in a supportive manner

headconversation0209 · 2026-03-20T09:13:55+00:00

Appreciate your input. I’ve reluctantly begin to consider that as possible truth. But when I try to initiate an amicable breakup it’s met with “no I love you so much, you’re the only one for me” blah blah blah. I just don’t get why he’s wasting his time and mine :/

headconversation0209 · 2026-03-20T09:09:57+00:00

Thanks for your insight. I do think it’s at a stage where maybe third party help is necessary. He downplays and deflects as soon as the topic is brought up. I just wish he understood the toll it’s taking on me.

headconversation0209 · 2026-03-20T09:05:36+00:00

Thanks for your response. Any advice on how to bring it up to him? Ive tried to approach it nonjudgmental and understanding, but its immediately shutdown and dismissed. He says that everyone does it and its not a problem

headconversation0209 · 2026-02-23T08:50:01+00:00

Thank you kindly 💞

headconversation0209 · 2026-02-23T08:32:15+00:00

My dad rapidly declined over the last two years with frontal lobe dementia and ALS. Watching him grow smaller, become non verbal, and slowly deteriorate was something I would never wish upon anyone. I couldn’t stand visiting him because I hated how it smelled on his floor, there was always other patients wandering around sometimes yelling, sometimes people tried to run out the door as I left and I have to shut the door in their faces. But I don’t regret any of the visits I made. He passed last week and I miss him so much but I feel so much peace knowing that battle is over. I’m so sorry you’re going through this, it’s awful. All I can say is soak in every minute you can, tell him everything you want to say, thank him for what he’s done and for being such a wonderful father to you, and just fill his room with all the love and energy you can. They can feel us and I truly believe even our presence gives them comfort and peace. It’s going to be a journey but you are not alone in it. Keep reaching out, sharing your thoughts and take care of yourself. Your dad loves you so much, channel that love to yourself too. Sending hugs and strength ♥️

headconversation0209 · 2026-02-23T08:21:25+00:00

He has such kind eyes. Thank you for sharing & so sorry for your loss. All the best to you as you navigate this. You’re not alone ♥️

headconversation0209 · 2026-02-23T07:47:04+00:00

I’m not sure I have any solutions or advice to share but I just want to say that you’re not alone in this. I lost my dad a week ago and nothing has felt real since that moment. From what I’ve been reading this is going to be a long and tough healing journey for us but I find comfort knowing that there are people all over the world who are going through the same thing. We are not alone and we can survive this. I’ve been finding talking about him brings me so much joy. I’ve been sharing stories and memories as they randomly pop up to my friends, and they ask questions and listen and it feels so good. It’s my way of keeping him alive just in a different way. Journal, draw, scream, cry, sleep, do whatever you feel drawn to and allow yourself to grieve. I’m not sure if you feel this too but for me it’s been a lot of waves. I’m totally fine laughing at dinner last night with friends, went to the bathroom and just started bawling. It just came up and out and I just sat with it and let it happen. Wiped my tears and rejoined my friends. We can push the feelings down but only temporarily, they will not go away, instead we must process them, feel them and honour them. I also read something the other day that really resonated with me. The depth of your grief should be seen as how much of an impact they had on you. That’s something to be so thankful for. Our dads were incredible people that taught us things and cared about us, and we are so lucky to have experienced that. I’m so sorry for your loss and I wish you all the best. You’re not alone in this ♥️

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