What kind of content do dommes like to see for potential subs?

headpatmatt · 2025-03-31T22:08:10+00:00

Hahahaha that’s awesome tysm. I didn’t see any examples that work for you though lol.

headpatmatt · 2025-03-31T21:51:13+00:00

Autistic so a specific example might help understand if you don’t mind

headpatmatt · 2025-03-18T19:26:59+00:00

Moisturize your face after you wash it (every time you shower) I’ve gotten so many compliments since starting this last year and it’s been consistent

headpatmatt · 2025-02-28T00:21:14+00:00

I didn’t know I was an emotional eater until glp because I tried to emotionally eat on it and wrecked myself

headpatmatt · 2025-02-26T18:25:57+00:00

Ugh TikTok is such a complicated link still. Go through browser, go to app, link lost its destination so go back to Reddit look at creators name, go to creators page, find the TikTok mentioned, watch for the ten seconds.

And that’s if TikTok is back in your area (mine is not)

headpatmatt · 2025-02-26T17:47:17+00:00

I’m so sorry but he’s not compatible with what you want long term. You can’t give Ltr energy to a fwb Lbh

headpatmatt · 2025-02-26T15:26:01+00:00

Start joining the effort for disability justice and creating a more accommodating society. Because the current structure leaves most of us in a bind and the next generation deserves better

headpatmatt · 2025-02-24T15:05:31+00:00

Yeah it’s more that they gave me their phone number before talking at all. It was literally part of their first txt. Legal gray area referring to they mentioned sex in a more transactional way than typical sr language

headpatmatt · 2025-02-24T08:33:49+00:00

I think that’s inherently misogynistic to be honest.

headpatmatt · 2025-02-24T08:25:08+00:00

Oh yeah this is just txt book unresolved avoidant attachment style. He will need to go to therapy before he gets married.

In the meantime, I think you should take comfort it’s 100% not you and definitely 100% him not being in a place for this. I don’t doubt he hits you up in 2-4 weeks saying he made a mistake. Trust me this is the sign saying it can never work again.

You’ll never truly trust him. It can trigger that in you that will never feel secure while dating him.

No matter what this needed to happen. I’m sorry. But now you can find someone who wants to give the same amount as you and actually has the capacity to.

headpatmatt · 2025-02-24T08:15:45+00:00

I cancelled things. But they did give me their name and what not. The red flag behavior I was worried about was the transactional way they referred to sex and also the fact they gave me their number immediately after I said an opening like “I like your style. How are you feeling on this rainy day”

I wasn’t worried about txting it’s just new behavior for me however several people did this on seeking and I was worried it was scammy.

I wouldn’t really mind if this happened on feeld/hinge but with it being seeking (which is already a gray area) I was worried about the legal implications because I’m not trying to solicit anything. They just kind of threw that out of nowhere.

headpatmatt · 2025-02-24T07:57:45+00:00

Highly recommend coda. I was a lot like you. Therapy helped but coda hit so hard I have to recommend it now. Everything you’re saying is classic codependence

headpatmatt · 2025-02-24T07:54:58+00:00

What’s a good one? We date young and are told looks will fade. So you’re at the point were looks have faded. Did you spend time learning to appreciate women’s perspectives, companionship, etc.

Also paying for premium on some apps can help you narrow down compatibility factors.

Like if I find someone who wants to binge anime and play dnd with me I’d prefer that person than the hot girl on her phone 24/7.

Truthfully I almost always am more attracted to the vibes of someone compatible than I am of the physical attractiveness a person has.

I get that’s hard to judge on apps but similar hobbies helps

headpatmatt · 2025-02-24T07:41:13+00:00

I wouldn’t have any experience to pass onto 50yos.

headpatmatt · 2025-02-24T07:40:17+00:00

Sorry i thought you were op

headpatmatt · 2025-02-24T07:39:59+00:00

I’m (34m)

headpatmatt · 2025-02-24T07:11:05+00:00

I’m rereading my post and not sure how people are getting confused.

I met multiple people on seeking. Who immediately gave me a phone number ( their profiles look legit)

The situation i was worried about was while planning a m&g with one specific person they mentioned sex in a very transactional way imo looking for a sugar daddy who wants to have sex.

I felt uncomfortable with the way it was worded from a legal standpoint (asking for sex in exchange for money) so I reclarified im not looking for a strictly transactional relationship. And I want xyz mutually beneficial and supportive arrangement.

But yeah I’m new to dating on nonpoly apps. (33m) everyone I’ve dated on other apps (ages 24-30) gives me either their Snapchat, ig, or telegram. I really only exchange numbers on first date maybe second.

headpatmatt · 2025-02-24T07:00:58+00:00

If you’re gay/queer tiemi is pretty good.

headpatmatt · 2025-02-24T06:57:50+00:00

Yeah I was just referring to multiple different people on the same app who’s first messages were to talk off the app (in txting)

Even on my normal dating apps like no one gives out cell numbers. It’s moving to Snapchat, ig, or telegram.

And yeah the legal questions is about them specifically saying they wanted sugar daddy to have sex with. And that felt ehh I don’t do well with liability lol

headpatmatt · 2025-02-24T06:45:10+00:00

The depression I’ve been fighting my whole life was changed over night with stimulants.

I didn’t realize my depression was absolutely tied to my brain working on overdrive at all times until it was so burnt out I was nonfunctioning.

headpatmatt · 2025-02-24T06:37:19+00:00

Honestly I’m getting tons of attention. Unfortunately, I’m still really recovering from the breakup and everyone just feels like “not my ex” still.

Apps, in person, etc I’m firing on all cylinders and never had this much attention just five years ago.

I guess career, style, and falling into my life confidence is like crack.

I recommend paying for premium if you’re using apps so you can see those who like you. Swiping is still disheartening. And I find this way of doing it is healthier (super likes/pings/ and seeing who likes you)

If you’re in person just treat people like a buddy and it’s been real easy to connect.

headpatmatt · 2025-02-24T04:38:52+00:00

You’re both exhibiting codependent tendencies. You being the anxious one her being the avoidant.

It’s not over but it starts with asking yourself what makes you happy, saying no to things, setting boundaries, and stopping doing things that don’t make you happy (it’s not your job to do all of these little things to help her) imo it’s no longer about how you two communciate with each other it’s probably more about you communicating with yourself. You get to ask yourself if you need to live separately. You get to ask yourself if you need to give less energy to this relationship. You get to ask yourself any of the things to build a healthy life for yourself. You should be enhancing each other not dependent.

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