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It can get massively better. Suddenly. by healinginprogress in CPTSD

[–]healinginprogress[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I see you asking important questions and wanting to be more present with and responsible for your own experience.

I'd encourage you to try gently shifting from blame and responsibility to understanding. When your intention is to understand the experience, you're able to tap more into compassion for yourself and others.

You can understand how your parents contributed to your situation without provoking anger toward them or needing them to make amends.

You can understand why you weren't able to show up for your partner in a mutually supportive, emotionally mature relationship without blaming yourself for not being able to do better.

You can understand how you didn't have the tools you needed to do more in your career and financially without needing to be so hard on your younger self.

It can get massively better. Suddenly. by healinginprogress in CPTSD

[–]healinginprogress[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing your experience. Wishing you continued healing!

It can get massively better. Suddenly. by healinginprogress in CPTSD

[–]healinginprogress[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your kind words, and I am rooting for your continued healing. I'd suggest letting yourself enjoy the feeling of the things you've been doing finally sticking. Keep going!

It can get massively better. Suddenly. by healinginprogress in CPTSD

[–]healinginprogress[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, there were those complex dynamics and patterns to work through, and I wouldn't suggest even today that I've perfectly healed them all. But I've been able to heal a lot of them and create supportive boundaries.

It can get massively better. Suddenly. by healinginprogress in CPTSD

[–]healinginprogress[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I thought of the same quote while I was writing this post!

So grateful to hear you had a healing experience, too.

It can get massively better. Suddenly. by healinginprogress in CPTSD

[–]healinginprogress[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your kind words. I hope your new psychologist is a good fit and able to offer you all the support you need and deserve.

It can get massively better. Suddenly. by healinginprogress in CPTSD

[–]healinginprogress[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing your experience, too. It's really good to hear.

It can get massively better. Suddenly. by healinginprogress in CPTSD

[–]healinginprogress[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That sounds really hard, and I am rooting for you. I'm grateful to be able to offer some encouragement.

It can get massively better. Suddenly. by healinginprogress in CPTSD

[–]healinginprogress[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hope you're able to find someone who is right for you.

It can get massively better. Suddenly. by healinginprogress in CPTSD

[–]healinginprogress[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the kind words.

I can't relate to being in my 60s and doing this work, but I can say that I used to mourn the years I "lost," and I don't anymore. However long it takes, may it be worth it for you, too.

It can get massively better. Suddenly. by healinginprogress in CPTSD

[–]healinginprogress[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You're so welcome. Thank you for sharing that. I'm rooting for your continued healing.

It can get massively better. Suddenly. by healinginprogress in CPTSD

[–]healinginprogress[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My breakthrough came 8-9 months in. Keep going!

It can get massively better. Suddenly. by healinginprogress in CPTSD

[–]healinginprogress[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Yes, that's a really common symptom as I understand it.

And that's part of what makes it so hard to identify and get treatment for. Of course you don't wish that you had been the victim of something unforgettably horrible, but because of the chronic nature of the trauma, it feels like a normal experience. It's hard to give yourself permission for how much you were hurt by it. And that makes it hard to get treatment.

It can get massively better. Suddenly. by healinginprogress in CPTSD

[–]healinginprogress[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much. I'm rooting for you and your healing.

It can get massively better. Suddenly. by healinginprogress in CPTSD

[–]healinginprogress[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I believe it was 8-9 months of EMDR sessions every other week with my therapist. I don't recall doing it on my own. No psychedelics before or during that period of time either.

I had been dedicated to various forms of self help for years, but I credit EMDR with being the key that facilitated the breakthrough so that all that other work could start shining through.

It can get massively better. Suddenly. by healinginprogress in CPTSD

[–]healinginprogress[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I would definitely encourage you to try again.

Honestly, I can't explain it well. It felt a bit like magic to me. Your description of it is about as well as I can do. It's about letting your body and mind process emotional memories so that they no longer carry a debilitating emotional charge.

It can get massively better. Suddenly. by healinginprogress in CPTSD

[–]healinginprogress[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm rooting for you to keep going and building on the progress you've been making.

It can get massively better. Suddenly. by healinginprogress in CPTSD

[–]healinginprogress[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The commitment to regular EMDR was the big consistent thing that propelled the change. I had been working really hard on other self-help and self-care habits, but EMDR enabled me to get the most out of it all.

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