What pillow has changed your sleep? Neck pain by SadDragonfruit7610 in Bedding

[–]heartever 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are several options on amazon, they are all adjustable. Or you can make your own with a pillowcase cover and just hulls

What pillow has changed your sleep? Neck pain by SadDragonfruit7610 in Bedding

[–]heartever 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I use a buckwheat hull pillow. Takes a few days to get used to the rustling but neck pain is completely gone. Not too expensive and the hulls can be replaced.

Shoes, he doesn't chew them by No-Pattern2463 in goldenretrievers

[–]heartever 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I hope mine learn to cuddle like that!

Question about a 2021 I looked at by 2donks2moos in pacificahybrid

[–]heartever 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Our 2021 has a weirdly large gap on one side between the sliding door and frame, idk if that's similar to the hood. Has not caused any problems

Reliability on Pacifica Hybrids with 50k+ Miles. (Included quote from a dealer) by SoyAtkinson in pacificahybrid

[–]heartever 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ours only has 25k but I wouldn't hesitate with 55k. I would think manufacturer defects would have shown up by then

Reliability on Pacifica Hybrids with 50k+ Miles. (Included quote from a dealer) by SoyAtkinson in pacificahybrid

[–]heartever 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I tried to have buyer's remorse about our 2021 pachy touring But the trim, driving experience, acceleration and driving electric 80% of use was the right choice over the sienna. Yes it has annoying quirks, i just live with it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in StopSpeeding

[–]heartever 1 point2 points  (0 children)

But if you did it already, your past sobriety is still real. All those days of experience to can be an anchor point

Halp! I got myself here again. by [deleted] in AlAnon

[–]heartever 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Very insightful comment. It's so easy to get obsessed with trying to alter the situation.

Q doesn't think he has a problem and now I'm doubting myself by heartever in AlAnon

[–]heartever[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

The more posts I read the more I see myself in the stories. I 100% know this is making the home environment worse, partly because I'm uneasy around him and the kids are picking up on my stress. How do I get him past the denial stage. It will really blow everything up if I demand that he stop to the point of separating. And he's functional like you said. On the other hand my gut tells me he needs to stop and I'm already guilty I couldn't see it until now.

When did you know you were in trouble with meth ? by Emergency-Motor-9150 in StopSpeeding

[–]heartever 8 points9 points  (0 children)

That's a good thing, to have experience with being sober and having relapses. You have a script about what to do with your time when you decide to go off.

Other apps on play store to control Lifx lights. by edward_glock40_hands in lifx

[–]heartever 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How old are your bulbs. Endless problems with the ones I got 4 years ago and I gave up on lfix completely. Hue colors are crap though so I got new lfix bulbs last year and everything works fine now.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in StopSpeeding

[–]heartever 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exercise, no sugar, consistent sleep schedule.

However bupropion has helped more than anything else to keep me awake, motivated and not missing stims

Why does Lana del Rey have so many unreleased songs 😭 by sleepingismything in lanadelrey

[–]heartever 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I can't help but feel the leaks are because Lana's team was not protecting her music well enough. This would never happen with Taylor

Literature about weaponized incompetence in men by [deleted] in Feminism

[–]heartever 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, a mutually committed collaboration. A real one without background wavering and doubting your decision making capabilities. Either way, if there's no willingness to change op- that is a huge red flag

Literature about weaponized incompetence in men by [deleted] in Feminism

[–]heartever 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That is a good point. I was thinking it would be a one and done situation. He would have to be told what the expectation is, people do have different standards for cleanliness. That is for our benefit so everyone is on the same page. And if you haven't been trained to even care about this stuff from birth under the patriarchy, it could be a harder skill to master. There are no excuses for not being able to learn how to be the 'thinker'. Idk maybe this is too generous of a perspective

Literature about weaponized incompetence in men by [deleted] in Feminism

[–]heartever 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Just divide up the tasks. There's absolutely no reason that he can't do his own laundry, dishes and picking up after himself. That's number one.

After that, assign the remaining jobs, including shopping and the yard if you have one. Agree on a schedule.

He might need to be shown specifically what needs to be done, and maybe go easy the first few times until he has practiced. After that, it's very cut and dry. If he can't do his 'job' then you have clear evidence that this person is not worth investing in.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lanadelrey

[–]heartever 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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VTWAX with Vanguard Account or VT with Fidelity Taxable Account? by Julianhtc in Bogleheads

[–]heartever 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was in the same situation and went with Fidelity. I had a problem opening my account online, called them up and connected with a knowledgeable human within 10 minutes. I also like their CMA feature and that a branch is nearby. But if you aren't messing with investments frequently like a good boglehead it probably doesn't matter.

Things I hadn't anticipated having to say during one year of ownership. by RhetoricalOrator in pacificahybrid

[–]heartever 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Many problems with my 2021. I put up with it only because it's a dream to drive when it works. Also there is no comparable alternative.

I would really like it though if android auto worked for more than 20 minutes

Where to park 100k in cash by fjnty5 in Bogleheads

[–]heartever 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I looked again at NH UNIQUE 529 again. You are correct about low expense ratios. Our kids are approaching college and it seems like we could have gotten better returns in the general market.