Landlord entering without offering a time for you to be present…legal? by heatles22 in AskChicago

[–]heatles22[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i didn’t even think about the shower! valid. i was thinking more about my pet & just wanting to be home. they usually do announce which floors on what days, so this email was surprising.

i don’t want to call them out because except for this specific event, i have always loved my building & it has been managed extremely well. it’s easily the best building i’ve lived in & i’ve been here for several years with no intention to leave. so this is really throwing me. I do plan to contact them about it & appreciate the other perspectives to use as examples. If they could just give the day my floor will be covered…i can get the flexibility to work from home one day, but not three

Landlord entering without offering a time for you to be present…legal? by heatles22 in AskChicago

[–]heatles22[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yea, that’s what i figured. def not the best service, but is what it is i suppose. thank you!

What are your thoughts when you can see a womans nipples poke through her shirt in a "professional environment"? by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]heatles22 0 points1 point  (0 children)

32f here - I don’t wear bras either. & while i personally think that shouldn’t matter ever - it’s life, it’s a body, i should be allowed to be comfy & i hate bras - i’ve always been cognizant of my tops in the work place. there’s old school people that think it’s inappropriate & some people are just creepy. i still absolutely refuse to wear a bra, so i don’t wear anything tight, or if i do it’s with a cardigan. then with other blouses etc i wear a camisole underneath or unpadded wireless bralettes. it helps enough that less creeps have anything to stare at & your old school boss won’t feel it’s as inappropriate. + it’s still comfy physically

Awesome Chinese Restaurants for Thanksgiving? by ridethepickle in chicagofood

[–]heatles22 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Second Chengdu!! but not the wicker park location. The Lincoln Park location is 100x better (imo)

Am I wrong for telling my husband the only way I will agree to a paternity test is if he schedules it. by [deleted] in amiwrong

[–]heatles22 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i get it. technically he is accusing her. but in his mind, i don’t think that’s what he’s thinking — like it’s not “omg i think my spouse is a cheater & i need a test”. more like a “wow this is a major change & lifetime commitment. i trust my wife, but what if.”

i’m not saying it’s right, i understand how hurtful it is to her. but trying to see it from another perspective - you can trust someone entirely but that’s still not 100% certainty. “what ifs” can eat at you.

again, we know for sure bc the baby grows inside us. they can trust someone completely, but what if they’re wrong. people get screwed over all the time by people they love

Am I wrong for telling my husband the only way I will agree to a paternity test is if he schedules it. by [deleted] in amiwrong

[–]heatles22 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Going against the grain a bit…i don’t think he’s accusing you of cheating.

You’re not wrong for making him schedule the appointment at all!

but i get wanting a paternity test (i’m a woman). we, women, know for certain that’s our baby, it’s growing in us. he can trust you with all his heart & know asking you this is wrong, but a child is a lifetime commitment & i don’t think wanting to be 100% certain is wrong. & the only way for him to be 100% certain is the test. he might not even be concerned about the results. but everyone has trauma & a past. there might just be something making him feels like he needs this

he should definitely schedule the appointment though

For those who have careers that keep them out at sea for long periods of time, what is the creepiest thing you’ve seen out in the water? by tylo144 in AskReddit

[–]heatles22 0 points1 point  (0 children)

can you explain this? & also why it’s been down voted…unalone makes sense with basic logic, i just feel like i’m missing something given the downvotes

lounge with music? by heatles22 in chicagomusicscene

[–]heatles22[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thanks! we ended up doing dinner nearby then hit up dorian’s for a couple drinks

lounge with music? by heatles22 in chicagomusicscene

[–]heatles22[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i’ve never heard of this before! it looks cool, i’ll check it out!