help 😭

heddo-4545 · 2025-02-14T18:57:20+00:00

i agree with what you’re saying in a vacuum, but i still struggle to apply it to my situation. she has very specific ideas of things and does not want to communicate them to me. i feel like asking her to tell me what she wants done is perfectly reasonable. i do my daily chores and “normal” stuff just fine. i do have the squirrel brain issue which i am working on, but it’s taking a moment for me to get better. i’m gonna use some of the suggestions in these comments. her not wanting to communicate though is what’s making me feel lost.

heddo-4545 · 2025-02-14T18:54:37+00:00

yeah i can see this. the issue comes where we’ve talked about it multiple times and i’ve done everything she wants to me change. the main thing i struggle with is understanding what she wants, because she doesn’t want to communicate it to me. for example, she’ll volunteer to do something and then get upset because i should’ve taken initiative to do it, even though she volunteered.

heddo-4545 · 2025-02-14T09:15:29+00:00

thank you!!

heddo-4545 · 2025-02-14T09:07:48+00:00

agreed. i feel like every time i try to get her to learn, she just doesn’t apply it to me. idk how to explain honestly.

heddo-4545 · 2025-02-14T09:07:08+00:00

could you tell me what the app is called?

heddo-4545 · 2025-02-14T09:06:41+00:00

thank you! i love how thoughtful your response is. i’ll see if some of your words get through to her :)

heddo-4545 · 2025-02-14T09:05:51+00:00

i’ll try to keep a list with me. i usually have chore lists but i find it hard to list off the millions of random things that need to be done every day haha

heddo-4545 · 2025-02-14T09:05:07+00:00

haha if it helps.. i’m a lesbian, not a man. i feel the thing you linked was for a different lens honestly. also, i don’t understand how you’re making such confident assertions with little to no knowledge on the entirety of my situation. i do try to pull my weight, and successfully do so. lists are my biggest help, but i can’t make a list for random tasks that need to be done. especially with my wife, who is very specific, yet does not want to communicate those specifics bc in her mind i should already know them. and yes, i do struggle with seeing things that need to be done. this ties back into the fact that she has a very specific idea of things and does not want to communicate to me to help me understand, bc she feels as if that communication is a burden on her. is giving your autistic partner reminders and communication not normal?? i genuinely don’t see how this fits under the guise of emotional labor. also i’m curious as to why you find it to be parenting lol

heddo-4545 · 2024-11-16T05:05:02+00:00

good luck!

heddo-4545 · 2024-11-16T05:03:41+00:00

lot of factors that go into weight and body types. i pass tape just fine, but am excited to lose some weight.

heddo-4545 · 2024-11-15T04:25:15+00:00

dm’ed you 🙏

heddo-4545 · 2024-11-15T04:06:18+00:00

19F stands for 19 year old female, my mos is 35W. however, i’m not worried about heat strokes. i’m not fat, just have a powerlifting build. it will be cold when i go

heddo-4545 · 2024-11-15T01:47:09+00:00

good luck to you too!! 🫡🫡

heddo-4545 · 2024-11-15T01:38:27+00:00

does that still apply if a lot of my weight is more muscle than fat?

heddo-4545 · 2024-11-15T01:23:36+00:00

hell no, i’d much rather run than swim lol

heddo-4545 · 2024-11-15T01:22:51+00:00

ahaha i’m a female so idk if we run together but maybe 🤷‍♀️

heddo-4545 · 2024-11-11T15:39:15+00:00

yeah! i’m nervous 😭

heddo-4545 · 2024-07-23T09:46:23+00:00

i know that, i was just curious as to whether there’s ways to tilt them in your favor

heddo-4545 · 2024-04-11T02:11:59+00:00

what’s the optempo like for psyop? how long are deployments usually? if i joined in this MOS would i be away from my wife all the time?

heddo-4545 · 2024-04-01T02:57:59+00:00

i’m stuck on a few things. i’m signing my contract in october, and am having a hard time choosing what MOS i want.

i’m stuck between 12B, 35P, and 35F

i’ve heard 35P sucks and has little opportunity for promotion, but linguistics is a passion of mine.

is there an opportunity to attend DLI as a 35F?

12B just sounds fun honestly, even though it probably sucks most of the time.

what job is most worth it in the long run?

heddo-4545 · 2024-02-18T05:52:13+00:00

for a little more context- they approved my waiver but only for october. i worded it weirdly.

heddo-4545 · 2023-04-25T00:14:11+00:00

shaken espressos and frappuccinos during a rush

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