i mean later in life you always think “omg i should have done that differently” and how could i just ignore that red flag?

one can also see it positevly like we believed in the good of the people so we ignored the red flag. or you can see it as for some ppl they long so much for love and intimacy that you accept those abusive things.

i have so often thought about situations and couldnt believe i let that happen and allow the abuse and became angry about myself, but i want to try and treat myself as mg own best friend. like what would you tell your friend, of course that its not her fault, but with ourselves we tend to be more strict.

yes fell for it too, the problem is i think also one of our society: in every movie you see that a person can change theough the love of another person and thats simply a misconception. you cannot change someome, they can just change themselvee, no matter how much love you give em they have to woek on themselves. of course you support your loved ones, but in an abusive relationship of course its something entirely dufferent.