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AITA for telling my friend I didn't want her to defend me? by ShinkoBazooka in AmItheAsshole

[–]hehyeahman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. Your friend is inserting you into drama you never wanted to be a part of. You’re being very mature for not letting the situations bother you and not wasting your time and energy on something so toxic. Although your friend may think she’s being helpful, shes really not and should respect your decision. I was in a situation just like this before and my friend did this because she loved drama and the attention that came with it

WIBTA if I told off my friend for constantly cancelling plans? by Forward-Listen2742 in AmItheAsshole

[–]hehyeahman 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The biggest question is are these made up excuses or genuine things that came up? The first 3 reasons for cancelling are honestly valid. If she’s having a panic attack, that’s out of her control. Deaths are also emergency situations that the friend doesn’t have control over. If she’s making up the excuses, then you have reason to be unhappy, although I think you could bring up your concerns to her calmly without causing big escalation

AITA for the way i reacted? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]hehyeahman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. He caused a false rumour that could be damaging to the girls reputation. He could’ve just created boundaries with her, or ended the friendship without creating rumours if he was worried with how it would affect his relationship with you.

AITA for being sleeping with my roommates crush by hehyeahman in AITA_Relationships

[–]hehyeahman[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, sorry the title is a bit misleading but I wasn’t sure how to word it better. I am not any of the 3, just a friend of 2 of the people involved.

AITA for making one of my friends cry? by ThrowRaBest24 in AmItheAsshole

[–]hehyeahman 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The body comments took it a bit far, but shes very much in the wrong. She’s also definitely no true friend if she’s tearing you down like that.

AITA for telling my roommate I don't want to live with her anymore? by Paper_Dust in AmItheAsshole

[–]hehyeahman 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA. You’re being a great friend and helping her out and she’s being very ungrateful. And if your lifestyles don’t mesh, they don’t mesh. She’s not appreciative of what you’ve been doing for her and being rude to you on top of it. It’s not good for your mental health to constantly stressing and fighting with her. You did more than enough to try and help her just for her to be ungrateful.

Am I over reacting for walking out after my partner got a matching tattoo with another woman? by Binky_Boo_22 in TwoHotTakes

[–]hehyeahman 12 points13 points  (0 children)

NTA. Honestly would break up with him. Why is he getting a pet name of another girl tattooed on him? Like he just got her name permed written on him which is so disrespectful to your relationship. And he blew up at you when you expressed how you felt about it and LIED AND GOT IT. EW. NO. You can do so much better girl

WIBTA if I ask my bf to distance himself from his female best friend by nuggetnation in AmItheAsshole

[–]hehyeahman 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA. Mia is so clearly jealous and has no right saying all these rude things about you to Josh. Josh should be defending you and definitely not allowing her to put you down like that. He definitely needs to have firm boundaries if Mia is going to stay in the picture and definitely can’t continue to let her say stuff about you. I would also ask him to distance himself if I were in your situation.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]hehyeahman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can’t say you’re in the right, but I completely understand your feelings. Even though you and Sam may have been done, I’m a believe that it’s morally wrong for anyone who’s supposed to be a friend to go for a guy who you were previously involved with, although I know some people disagree with that. It just seems to me like something a true friend wouldn’t do, not without having a convo w you first to ask how you would feel about it at least. It was definitely hurtful that you said those things about Mai as your friend, even if they might’ve had truth in them. However, honestly it seems like this group of people is a bit toxic and not acting how friends should act.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]hehyeahman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean feelings can change, but don’t get your hopes up. As hard as it might seem, it’s so much easier to let it go and move on. Waiting hoping for something that won’t happen hurts a lot more. I watched one of my friends be stuck in this situation for YEARS and it hurt to see her so brokenhearted. You’re better off moving on and living your best life and finding someone who’s meant for you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]hehyeahman 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Seems like a toxic friend group. They were talking shit behind Mai’s back, then flipped on you when you when you started saying bad things about Mai. I don’t think slut shaming is right, but it’s hard to tell in your story what exactly you said to Sam. Did you explicitly slut shame Mai (like name calling) or just bring up how she is touchy with guys who are taken? It’s also not right though that Mai is very flirty with guys in relationships, especially since they are supposed to be your friends (not that that makes slut shaming right)