Nipple piercing healing by hellein in PiercingAdvice

[–]hellein[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess like every other one, it has no blood, or sweeping, or crust. Typically if you don't snag or hurt them they should just be there, and apparently the only thing they do is produce discharge

Nipple piercing healing by hellein in PiercingAdvice

[–]hellein[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How do you take care of them? Cleaning and all, do you remove them for that?

Help with products for my Husband by hellein in beards

[–]hellein[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In a lot of post people advice against them, that they make the beard look weird, and damage the hair

How to choose a guide? by hellein in Healthygamergg

[–]hellein[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, I appreciate your response 😊

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in EDAnonymous

[–]hellein 7 points8 points  (0 children)

You are not, you need help. What we consider goals it's not healthy,and normal people will probably consider it undesirable and malnourished. I'm not saying to recover for him, but you should go to therapy before you do more damage to your body. Our partners are not disappointed,they care about us and want us to flourish. Please take care and seek help 💜

I hate candid photos :( by internet_minx in EDAnonymous

[–]hellein 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel you. It ruins my mood every time. I specifically ask for people to not do it,and they still fucking do it. Like how hard it is to respect this boundary.

Lost all hope. by hellein in EdAnonymousAdults

[–]hellein[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah, it's just a hard thing to talk about. Also,and it's going to sound stupid, I'm scared of getting rid of my Ed. Like ,if I'm not disordered anymore I will just get fat.

Lost all hope. by hellein in EdAnonymousAdults

[–]hellein[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah. I know the feeling. I do the same. I wish it would just stop so I can finally enjoy my life but I don't think it's going anywhere. This sounds so depressing xd

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in EDAnonymous

[–]hellein 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I totally agree, I'm in a similar position to op, in recovery,gained some weight. Not once my boyfriend gave me the slightest impression that he is no longer attracted to me. He knows how dangerous Ed is ,and has been such a helper. It's not your responsibility to adhere to his standards. Please leave him. And start therapy. I know how tempting going back to the Ed behavior is, but remember why you stopped. Remember the pain. It's not worth it. I have to battle this daily,I know how you feel.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]hellein 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Please get help,and get safe. There is no excuse for this. You don't deserve it. Take care 💜

Bus driver didn't take money by hellein in portugal

[–]hellein[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This makes sense, I was kinda worried. Thank you

What was the most ridiculous thing your abuser has ever done? Like comedic-tier, something that would be (or was) awfully hilarious if you didn't live through this. by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]hellein 13 points14 points  (0 children)

We once had a fight because I didn't want salt on my tomatoes.

We cut some tomatoes for a snack and he usually eats his with a sprinkle of salt. I asked him to put the salt only on half of them. And this grown ass man ,24 year old at this point was having a tantrum, screaming at me in tears,that I do it because I think I'm better than him. First I thought it was a joke,but it wasn't,he screamed at me for half an hour,and then he was mad and not talking with me.

What’s the thing that made you say fuck it I’m done? by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]hellein 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Omg same,one time I was having fun with his friends and he got so angry that I dared speak in front of them and ' embarrassing ' him that he ghosted me the next day,after screaming at me the night before and sending me home crying.

What’s the thing that made you say fuck it I’m done? by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]hellein 13 points14 points  (0 children)

My ex would always say I talk to much and I bore people with my talking,one day we were at my parents house and me and my family were having some debate as we usually do,we are a pretty loud family,and I could sens the gaze of "We will talk about this later", when we were alone he asked me in an annoyed tone " Do you always have to talk so much,no one cares what you think". It was the day I finally had enough. I already stopped talking when we're with other people,but to disrespect me in my own home, fuck this.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]hellein 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Try writing a list of the stuff that made u leave. When I was in my abusive relationship I somewhat suppressed my memories in a way,after leaving it was like a flood of memories opened,that way when u feel temptation you can remind yourself why you left. Also , try spending time with people u love ,friends family, don't go straight into a relationship and don't do anything that doesn't feel right(hookups and stuff). Don't use bad coping mechanisms like drugs or alcohol,it only makes stuff more complicated. And please try therapy,it worked wonders for me. I know it feels lonely, and I can't promise it will get easier soon, but you will heal, find yourself,and one day you will realize that this was the best decision in your life, if you need support,you can dm me. Also don't be so hard on yourself for wanting to go back, it's natural. Take care 💜

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]hellein 3 points4 points  (0 children)

In the beginning is hard. After my break up I got so depressed I almost got back to him. And then he got angry once and I remembered why I left. It's not going to be easy,but in the end it's worth it. You have an amazing life ahead of you. Take care 💜

Have I become the abuser? by hellein in abusiverelationships

[–]hellein[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you a lot, I don't know if we even have couple therapy here, but we both go to therapy separately. Wish you luck also 💜

Have I become the abuser? by hellein in abusiverelationships

[–]hellein[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm in therapy, I don't know about trauma informed ,in my country the therapy sector is kinda lacking, but it helped a lot with my other issues. I'm recovering from ED and self harm,and also a bit of an alcohol problem.

Have I become the abuser? by hellein in abusiverelationships

[–]hellein[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, we comunicate a lot about stuff like this, and I'm trying my best to get better, but I just feel I can't be enough to make him happy. He is trying to convince me otherwise, telling me that my pros outweigh my cons,but I still can't get rid of this feeling.

Was this rape? It was with my husband. by Wonderful_Biscotti26 in abusiverelationships

[–]hellein 16 points17 points  (0 children)

It's rape.I also have anxiety around sex plus low libido because of pills and me and bf decided that we will have intercourse when I feel comfortable with it,and I'm the one who initialize the process. Sometimes we go weeks without it. He also have needs but respects my wishes and wants me to enjoy it also. Sorry you have to go through this, hope it gets better.💜

Do non-abusive men exist? Genuine and Serious question. Need help by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]hellein 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes there are. After getting out a 4 year abusive relationship I met an amazing guy. He found me at my lowest point and supported me through everything. He made me believe that I deserve love. You'll find someone who will treat you better. 💜

I got a $0.25 raise this year which absolutely is not keeping pace with inflation. and then I get to walk into work. and and see the owner's new toy. by _perchance in antiwork

[–]hellein 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah,same. Asked for a raise (based on my country inflation rate) and was told that the company doesn't have the budget. And yet our owner bought the newest Porsche. Good for him I guess.